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Sex noise from neighbours

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Discone · 16/03/2025 19:37

I live in an old terrace. I hear bits of noise from both sides normal life stuff, not an issue. Other neighbors play instruments and I can hear but it's no problem. Both sides have kids at least some of the time too.

This afternoon I could hear my neighbour (non music ones) having really loud sex. It's a fella who lives there I've had a few conversations with him he's in his 40s and lives alone. He's nice enough and no bother as a neighbour. It was the woman I could hear moaning. Tbh it sounded really fake and porny but whatever, they might like that. But that did make it more obvious and a bit cringe.

I put a note through the door saying we could hear and perhaps put on some music. It was polite in tone. I thought this was better than saying it face to face! But now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have done it. There's nothing I can do now it's done! But people are entitled to have sex in their house. I'm super sex positive but I do think it's a private thing and not something kids should hear for example. We have family over a lot and I'd be really embarrassed if this happened when they were over. I do massively over think so, a genuine wabu.

OP posts:
Discone · 16/03/2025 19:51

Bailamosse · 16/03/2025 19:44

For a one off? That’s embarrassing, OP.

Are you jealous?

Haha I knew this would be one of the comments but you've done it even quicker than I thought! No I'm not, but I don't know how I can prove that?

Ok fair enough iabu. It was so loud and not even just towards the end. Like how women in porn sound. So it just felt quite inconsiderate as you deliberately make that noise. So I wanted to nip it in the bud. Because if I had family here, which I often would on a Sunday it would be embarrassing. Just to explain my thinking.

He's fine as a neighbour, I wouldn't say he was quiet, but I feel there's def a diff between deliberate notice and just life noise. But sex is part of life so, perhaps even if deliberatly loud it's ok.

But it's done now so I'm not gonna make it worse by saying oh yeah sorry I was a dick. I think that wouldn't help 😂

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PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 16/03/2025 19:50

I do massively over think so, a genuine wabu.

Pity you didn't think very hard before putting a note through the door. It's a one-off, he'll feel like you've been waiting to hear him doing something you can tell him off for.

Differentstarts · 16/03/2025 19:50

Iv had this with neighbours and it's really embarrassing when it's in the middle of the day and the kids are about and you have visitors. I think the first time I would leave it but if it becomes more regular I'd say something. I still have the same neighbours but they just stopped with the loud pornstar dramatics now I don't know whether they realised how sound travels or they just got bored not sure but never hear them anymore

Bailamosse · 16/03/2025 19:50

Did they put any music on? I think I’d have cranked up Je t’aime..

Sayithowiseeit · 16/03/2025 19:44

Yeah thats a bit much for the first time from a usually nice easy neighbour

Laiste · 16/03/2025 19:44

I put a note through the door saying we could hear and perhaps put on some music

Sorry, i need to know the precise words please. Was it literally:

Hi neighbour.
We can hear you. Perhaps put on some music.
Love Discone.

or ..... ?

Dinosweetpea · 16/03/2025 19:44

We had this when I was pregnant with my 1st and it kept me awake, she screamed and moaned like a porn star for 45m at a time (whole street could hear - Summer, windows open - but we were attached to them) I banged on the wall.every time, I was hormonal.amd tired though 🤣

Bailamosse · 16/03/2025 19:44

For a one off? That’s embarrassing, OP.

Are you jealous?

Squigglewigglediggle · 16/03/2025 19:43

Oh my gosh you put a note through for a first time offender. 🤣 I have second hand embarrassment.

TotallyForgettableForNow · 16/03/2025 19:41

I think you jumped the gun a bit if this was the first time you heard anything.

UpUpUpU · 16/03/2025 19:39

Sorry, a note? That is very odd OP for a first occasion.