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Sex noise from neighbours

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Discone · 16/03/2025 19:37

I live in an old terrace. I hear bits of noise from both sides normal life stuff, not an issue. Other neighbors play instruments and I can hear but it's no problem. Both sides have kids at least some of the time too.

This afternoon I could hear my neighbour (non music ones) having really loud sex. It's a fella who lives there I've had a few conversations with him he's in his 40s and lives alone. He's nice enough and no bother as a neighbour. It was the woman I could hear moaning. Tbh it sounded really fake and porny but whatever, they might like that. But that did make it more obvious and a bit cringe.

I put a note through the door saying we could hear and perhaps put on some music. It was polite in tone. I thought this was better than saying it face to face! But now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have done it. There's nothing I can do now it's done! But people are entitled to have sex in their house. I'm super sex positive but I do think it's a private thing and not something kids should hear for example. We have family over a lot and I'd be really embarrassed if this happened when they were over. I do massively over think so, a genuine wabu.

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BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:47

Missj25 · 16/03/2025 20:47

I cannot believe some of the frosty replies here !!!, when it’s a funny story 😂😂
Clearly some well needed Sunday Sex for others posting here 😁..
Guys lighten up ffs !!!!! 😂😂

SEX ON THE SABBATH?!

Shame on you!

😆

Missj25 · 16/03/2025 20:47

I cannot believe some of the frosty replies here !!!, when it’s a funny story 😂😂
Clearly some well needed Sunday Sex for others posting here 😁..
Guys lighten up ffs !!!!! 😂😂

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:46

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:40

Where did I say I watched porn? I'm also really surprised at the lack of awareness of sex positivity as movement. You've clearly got an axe to grind from your comments. So I think I'll leave the thread there as the replies seem to have moved away from the question I asked if iwbu about! Which I was.

Thanks all

Of course you watch porn! How would you know what women in porn sound like if you don't?

From your OP.

He's nice enough and no bother as a neighbour. It was the woman I could hear moaning. Tbh it sounded really fake and porny but whatever, they might like that. But that did make it more obvious and a bit cringe.

Shot yourself in the foot there babes! 😆

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:46

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:40

Where did I say I watched porn? I'm also really surprised at the lack of awareness of sex positivity as movement. You've clearly got an axe to grind from your comments. So I think I'll leave the thread there as the replies seem to have moved away from the question I asked if iwbu about! Which I was.

Thanks all

Sorry ignore the last bit @BatchCookBabe I got your user name and another mixed up.

Re knowledge of porn. It's so all over our culture, unfortunately. I'm not sure thi really need to be a question. But I'm a woman in my 30s so this is my experience.

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smilingontheinside · 16/03/2025 20:44

Good job you don't live by me and my neighbours. Can often hear them at it, my partner and I giggle because it only lasts a couple minutes but is often at 3am. Not sure what they make of us though because have to say when we have sex I get completely lost in it and am sure I make "a noise". Thing is though we go on for ages. We are old, experienced and making the most of retirement and no kids at home now 😜 Live and let live, rather hear the odd sex encounters than their screaming child when she's at home 😁

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:44

Luddite26 · 16/03/2025 20:40

Have you lived in a new build semi or town house?💩

No. And I don't think I want to now! 😂

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:43

Justgoodforthegetting · 16/03/2025 20:38

So many posters talking about loud sex being performative and attention seeking. Some people just have REALLY good sex and are loud about it. If you know, you know🤣

Having said that, I wouldn’t want kids to hear.

You can have really good enjoyable sex without screaming like a banshee and letting the neighbourhood know you're getting fucked you know! 😂

Luddite26 · 16/03/2025 20:40

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:30

So is having a poo, but no-one needs to hear anyone doing that hey?!

Have you lived in a new build semi or town house?💩

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:40

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:31

@Discone You watch porn, so what? Nothing to be embarrassed about!

Where did I say I watched porn? I'm also really surprised at the lack of awareness of sex positivity as movement. You've clearly got an axe to grind from your comments. So I think I'll leave the thread there as the replies seem to have moved away from the question I asked if iwbu about! Which I was.

Thanks all

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ByWildLimeCat · 16/03/2025 20:39

Our old neighbours when we lived in a flat used to have really raucous sex on a Sunday morning. Such thin walls we could hear everything.
One weekend we got Alexa in our room to play ‘I Just Had Sex’ by the lonely island as soon as they’d finished; could hear them sniggering on the other side. I will say, they were a bit quieter after that day 🤣

Justgoodforthegetting · 16/03/2025 20:38

So many posters talking about loud sex being performative and attention seeking. Some people just have REALLY good sex and are loud about it. If you know, you know🤣

Having said that, I wouldn’t want kids to hear.

Luddite26 · 16/03/2025 20:37

I am so jealous. The joys of it.

You've been a bit mean .
I think pp saying put on J'Taime or something loud like the sex pistols would have been better.

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:35

@Grammarnut are you actually genuinely curious?

I'm in my 30s I unfortunately grew up with porn being widely available and times, especially when younger eg in school or uni had it played when people are joking around.

Porn sounds are also in TV and film when a character is watching porn.

I've also several times seen men watching porn in public, like Starbucks or the train. I did see all of this in London...

I would also say that I think it's a pretty ubiquitously mocked thing in TV, film, social media even music to mimic those kind of ott porny sex noises.

So I'd say that most adults could give a fairly accurate description of ott porn type noises regardless of their consumption of porn.

So I do see what you were trying to do there. But your implication is not correct. I'm also not sure why you'd beat around the bush implying this rather than just say, do you know what porn sounds like because you watch it. I gather you think that porn watching is abhorrent? So were trying to prove a point that I'm worse or something?

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Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 20:35

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:15

Sorry what could you explain your post please? Where did I say I was watching porn? Or do you mean in order to know what porn sound like I must watch it? I feel like I can't reply as I'm not sure what you mean..

I didn't think it was kind to say it sounded like porn as I said they may like the ott vocals. So while I think it's a bit much, I don't want to judge styles d preferences and by mentioning it it's a judgement. The noise if that's your thing, just put music on!

Can you not play music in your home?

YourAmberPoet · 16/03/2025 20:35

family, the one audience you can’t afford to scandalize. A little background noise is one thing, but when your Sunday roast is accompanied by a live-action performance of Basic Instinct, you’ve got a problem.
Now, your note was a courteous opening move low risk, potentially high reward. But let’s assume your neighbor is either too shameless or too oblivious to take the hint. That means you need a more strategic approach Ensuring that when your family is over, your home remains a sanctuary of polite conversation and not an impromptu screening of 50 Shades of Next Door.

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:34

Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 20:33

Neither is sex on a Sunday afternoon…

True, but why make so much NOISE whilst shagging?!! Really attention seeking and weird!

Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 20:33

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:31

@Discone You watch porn, so what? Nothing to be embarrassed about!

Neither is sex on a Sunday afternoon…

OneGentleFinch · 16/03/2025 20:33

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, you don’t want to hear it, and highly likely they don’t want to be heard! A polite note is fine

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:33

CaptainBeanThief · 16/03/2025 20:31

I kinda get you being abit cringed and embarrassed but to write a note and post it through his letter box is mental.
It was Sunday afternoon not 3am in the morning.
"Sex positive" my arse 🤣

Yea, that sounds made up ('sex positive!') It's possibly real but I have never heard anyone say it. And the OP doesn't sound it!

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:31

@Discone You watch porn, so what? Nothing to be embarrassed about!

CaptainBeanThief · 16/03/2025 20:31

I kinda get you being abit cringed and embarrassed but to write a note and post it through his letter box is mental.
It was Sunday afternoon not 3am in the morning.
"Sex positive" my arse 🤣

BigBoden · 16/03/2025 20:31

Arsey…? Not into that but London based, if you scream, in June with everyone’s windows open you’re auditioning for OnlyFans

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 20:30

onetwothreefourfive11 · 16/03/2025 20:26

No you shouldn’t have put a note. You don’t do that!!!

sex is a natural thing

So is having a poo, but no-one needs to hear anyone doing that hey?!

Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 20:30

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:15

Sorry what could you explain your post please? Where did I say I was watching porn? Or do you mean in order to know what porn sound like I must watch it? I feel like I can't reply as I'm not sure what you mean..

I didn't think it was kind to say it sounded like porn as I said they may like the ott vocals. So while I think it's a bit much, I don't want to judge styles d preferences and by mentioning it it's a judgement. The noise if that's your thing, just put music on!

Sorry I assumed that you thought it sounded like a porn star meant you watched porn to know. Didn’t mean you had the pleasure of sex on a Sunday afternoon, with porn, if that’s your thing. But….

Tbh it sounded really fake and porny but whatever, they might like that. But that did make it more obvious and a bit cringe.

Like how women in porn sound. So it just felt quite inconsiderate

Also on the porn thing, I could hear banging too. I did think this initially.

Quite a knowledge of porn, you’re judging his sex life, should you allow him to judge yours?

Grammarnut · 16/03/2025 20:29

Discone · 16/03/2025 20:15

Sorry what could you explain your post please? Where did I say I was watching porn? Or do you mean in order to know what porn sound like I must watch it? I feel like I can't reply as I'm not sure what you mean..

I didn't think it was kind to say it sounded like porn as I said they may like the ott vocals. So while I think it's a bit much, I don't want to judge styles d preferences and by mentioning it it's a judgement. The noise if that's your thing, just put music on!

Only someone who watches porn would be likely to know that? Not sure it's true but you did open yourself to that suggestion - esp being sex positive.