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Sex noise from neighbours

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Discone · 16/03/2025 19:37

I live in an old terrace. I hear bits of noise from both sides normal life stuff, not an issue. Other neighbors play instruments and I can hear but it's no problem. Both sides have kids at least some of the time too.

This afternoon I could hear my neighbour (non music ones) having really loud sex. It's a fella who lives there I've had a few conversations with him he's in his 40s and lives alone. He's nice enough and no bother as a neighbour. It was the woman I could hear moaning. Tbh it sounded really fake and porny but whatever, they might like that. But that did make it more obvious and a bit cringe.

I put a note through the door saying we could hear and perhaps put on some music. It was polite in tone. I thought this was better than saying it face to face! But now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have done it. There's nothing I can do now it's done! But people are entitled to have sex in their house. I'm super sex positive but I do think it's a private thing and not something kids should hear for example. We have family over a lot and I'd be really embarrassed if this happened when they were over. I do massively over think so, a genuine wabu.

OP posts:
Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 22:18

mumda · 16/03/2025 21:48

What do women in porn sound like?

You’d have to ask OP, who doesn’t know!

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 22:17

User32459 · 16/03/2025 21:54

It's a lack of consideration. They wouldn't do it their kids or parents where in the next room, so why subject the neighbours to it on adjoining thin walls?

Some people just don't give a damn about anyone else.

Get a detached house if you want to scream like a porn star.

Yeah, in the middle of a 6 acre piece of land!

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 22:15

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 16/03/2025 21:58

Neighbour was having very loud sexual relations in the hot tub once, teenage son put his speaker out of his bedroom window and played let’s get it on very loudly!

😂

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 22:15

Redpeach · 16/03/2025 21:30

Why do men not feel the need to communicate in the same way?

Yeah funny that isn't it? 😆 It's only the women who are like Lassie from Porky's, when they're fucking?! 😂

AAAA-OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! 🐕

"Listen everyone, I am having sex! Aren't I so clever, and so special, and SO amazing? I'm soooooooo much more attractive than you, my man is a great shag, and you are all sooooo JELLUS of me and my amayyyzing SEX!" 😂

Seriously shut the fuck up Maureen! No-one wants to hear your cum howl!

LardoBurrows · 16/03/2025 22:08

Some friends used to live in a block of flats that were built in a curve around a central courtyard, so sounds were amplified. They had neighbours who had very noisy sex, well it was the girl who was really noisy, it sounded like she was screaming at the top of her voice. When I saw her one time, she was this tiny, timid looking little thing that didn't look capable of producing so much noise.

Anyway in the summer when we were over for dinner at my friends, with the windows open it was really, really loud, so we would just all scream at the top of our voices at the same time and also play Marvin Gaye's Let's get it on. After a few occasions some of the other tenants used to join in with the screaming and within a few weeks of this the sex noises suddenly stopped.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 16/03/2025 22:04

Why do men not feel the need to communicate in the same way?
Some men do..

EmeraldShamrock000 · 16/03/2025 21:59

Yes, you're right, you shouldn't have done it.
If it was on a regular basis then I would consider mentioning it.
Otherwise it is weird to send a note.

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 16/03/2025 21:58

Neighbour was having very loud sexual relations in the hot tub once, teenage son put his speaker out of his bedroom window and played let’s get it on very loudly!

Redpeach · 16/03/2025 21:56

Especially if its just for the man's ego

User32459 · 16/03/2025 21:54

chocmalt · 16/03/2025 21:49

I don't buy that because sex is 'a part of life' we should joyfully accept hearing our neighbours making excessive noise in the throes of passion. Everything that makes noise is a part of life. Cleaning is a part of life, but I wouldn't hoover in the middle of the night if it would wake or disturb others.

It's a lack of consideration. They wouldn't do it their kids or parents where in the next room, so why subject the neighbours to it on adjoining thin walls?

Some people just don't give a damn about anyone else.

Get a detached house if you want to scream like a porn star.

Redpeach · 16/03/2025 21:53

Bepo77 · 16/03/2025 21:12

Why does everyone always say people who make noise when enjoying sex are trying to emulate porn? I’ve watched porn maybe twice in my life for a few seconds when boyfriends have tried to get me to enjoy it with them and it gives me the ick.

…But I’m vocal in bed. It’s an automatic reaction. Sometimes I have to stifle it as my kids might be home or I’m aware it’s super late and my neighbour might be next door…but to stifle it every single time I have sex for the rest of my life? Sorry but no

No-one's asking you to do that

chocmalt · 16/03/2025 21:49

I don't buy that because sex is 'a part of life' we should joyfully accept hearing our neighbours making excessive noise in the throes of passion. Everything that makes noise is a part of life. Cleaning is a part of life, but I wouldn't hoover in the middle of the night if it would wake or disturb others.

popdepop · 16/03/2025 21:49

I had a couple above me in a hotel. It was horrendous and went on for hours. I wouldn't be surprised if they had broken the bed. The woman was incredibly loud, all the time. I couldn't bear it if that was next door and I'd be embarrassed if my child heard. I don't blame you OP

mumda · 16/03/2025 21:48

What do women in porn sound like?

wishiwasjoking · 16/03/2025 21:47

Music won't help unfortunately.

Maybe look into what you can get to soundproof your wall

MyOhMelody · 16/03/2025 21:42

My neighbour can definitely hear us 😄

User32459 · 16/03/2025 21:39

MsCactus · 16/03/2025 21:05

Side point, but why is everyone saying loud sex is attention seeking?! Some people are just noisy during sex

They probably wouldn't be if their kids or parents were in the next room though would they?

It's unnecessary.

knephew · 16/03/2025 21:38

Ok fair enough iabu. It was so loud and not even just towards the end. Like how women in porn sound. So it just felt quite inconsiderate as you deliberately make that noise. So I wanted to nip it in the bud.

I’m sorry, you say you’re ‘sex positive’ (whatever that means) but you also think there’s a certain way women should sound during sex? Maybe you’ve just not had a good enough partner? Worth considering

Northerngirl821 · 16/03/2025 21:37

Why did you ask them to put music on? That’s just making more noise! Why not ask them to keep it down in future?

knephew · 16/03/2025 21:35

Fucking hell you heard them have sex once and put a note through their door suggesting they put on music? That’s appalling

EggsRoyaleonaSunday · 16/03/2025 21:32

Redpeach · 16/03/2025 21:30

Why do men not feel the need to communicate in the same way?

@Redpeach They have done in my experience

WonderingWanda · 16/03/2025 21:31

He'll probably just feel really proud of himself and take it as a compliment.

NextStrawberry · 16/03/2025 21:30

So, I did this once and put a note through the door of my neighbours.
Totally get how it’s possible to get worked up over this and want to nip it in the bud.
Unfortunately for me, it turned out my cat had developed a porn star snore and had found a new napping place under my bed.
When we realised, I went round and left some apology muffins in a tin on the doorstep and thankfully we never, ever spoke of it.
It will be fine and it’s good to reflect on these decisions we make in the heat of the moment - I always give it 24 hours now and see how I feel, usually the panic passes!

Redpeach · 16/03/2025 21:30

EggsRoyaleonaSunday · 16/03/2025 21:22

@Bepo77 I know right! I never knew so many people had silent perfunctory sex. How does your partner know you’re enjoying it if you’re just silently thrusting?

Why do men not feel the need to communicate in the same way?

BellesAndGraces · 16/03/2025 21:29

BatchCookBabe · 16/03/2025 21:09

WTF are you talking about?

You. She’s talking about people like you.