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Is there a good day to hand in your notice? Also, your experience of starting a new job after being stuck in a rut for many, MANY years.

32 replies

CharlotteBakewell · 16/03/2025 17:26

After many years of working for the same company (private sector) and having lots more responsibility with no pay increase, no sick pay and no HR department, alongside a GM who is a narcissist, I started searching for another job.

I have been offered a new job within the public sector. Lots of benefits and promotional opportunities, alongside great holiday entitlement, sick pay etc.

I am nervous for the change but tbh, it can’t be worse than my current employer. I have worked in the public sector many years ago, wish I had stuck it out but there we go.

I’m 55 and I’m hoping that my final years of working will be much more positive with much more security.

Question, as it’s been some years, which day is it best to hand in your notice? There will be a few colleagues who will be really upset and I don’t want to ruin their weekend, but I don’t want to hand it in on a Monday and have a week of talking about it.

I’m still waiting for written confirmation so I won’t do anything before then, I’m excited and nervous at the same time but deep down, this is the right move for me.

Also, it will be hard not to tell the boss exactly what I think but know I need to keep my head held high and leave on a positive note, as difficult as that may be.

Also would be really good to read any positive stories of changing jobs later on in life. I’ve had enough where I am, I’m expected to do everything with no pay rise, no incentive, moral is extremely low, it’s time for change.

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PonyPatter44 · 16/03/2025 17:41

Assuming you don't have to wait for security clearance or any other pre-approval checks, then give in your notice any day you please! There is no "best day", because the quicker you give notice, the quicker you can leave.

In my part of the Civil Service, you give notice the day you get an internal offer (unless it requires higher security clearance) because they usually hold onto you for ten weeks. It is frankly a pain in the bum, but its just the way it is.

ThinWomansBrain · 16/03/2025 17:36

Just hand in your notice when the new role is confirmed - colleagues may be surprised, but I honestly doubt it will ruin their weekend. If you prefer to let the dust settle, can you negotiate a days' annual leave after you've given your notice to get your head together?
It doesn't sound as if your current organisation conducts exit interviews - but keep if processional with reasons for leaving - partially not burning bridges, but all you'll gain by being brutally honest is an uncomfortable last few weeks working your notice.

I'm in my 60s and recently moved from one discipline to another - thoroughly enjoying it. Good luck in your new role.

CharlotteBakewell · 16/03/2025 17:36

MananaMananaPenelope · 16/03/2025 17:34

I’d wait until confirmation of satisfactory references before resigning if you rely on your salary.

I’m public sector and desperately seeking a return to the private sector (at your age).

Be careful leaving the public sector for private. You really do have many more benefits in the public sector.

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 16/03/2025 17:35

Just do it

MananaMananaPenelope · 16/03/2025 17:34

I’d wait until confirmation of satisfactory references before resigning if you rely on your salary.

I’m public sector and desperately seeking a return to the private sector (at your age).

CharlotteBakewell · 16/03/2025 17:34

That would be an ideal scenario tbh! 🤣 sadly, I won’t have enough holiday entitlement to put this into practice.

My notice period is one month. Not sure if my boss will want me to leave immediately or stick it out for one long month.

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thechampselysee · 16/03/2025 17:30

as soon as you have it in writing. I assume your notice period is more than one week so what day you do it makes no difference. if you want to be annoying you could do it the day before you go on holiday for 3 weeks?