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To find this incredibly irritating and rude?

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Whatonearth17 · 16/03/2025 16:56

Name change for this and I’m sure I’ll get flamed…but here we go…

I’m a Welsh speaker living in Wales and have an accent when I speak English. It’s a lovely thing and I love other people’s accents. I’ve just returned from shopping where an older English speaking ‘gentleman’ asked me to get something he couldn’t reach for him. I did him the favour and was polite to him at which point he repeated what I said in an over the top mocking Welsh accent. It is the THIRD time this week that a variation of this scenario has happened. Once at work (which I pushed back on) once when I was in the park with the kids and decided I couldn’t be arsed to say anything and today. Why do people think this is ok? The guy today in particular was patronising and belittling and quite frankly just rude. Would we do this to someone with a German/ Chinese accent? Or any other accent? Heritage? To their FACE? When it has happened at work and I can definitely identify their linguistic background, it tends to be people with one language? Multilingual people tend to do it far far less. I just find it so rude and ignorant.
YABU - it’s just banter
YANBU- let’s stop copying people’s accents shall we?

OP posts:
ItTook9Years · 16/03/2025 20:06

Kids at DD’s WM school have teased her for not having a strong enough Welsh accent. 🤷🏻‍♀️

People are just twats.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 20:06

Also love other regional accents tbh

Prepare for a YouTube binge.

https://youtube.com/shorts/wUZjQ8K9HfA?si=yqXnsZJCHg5oJrC-

TheCurious0range · 16/03/2025 20:04

I grew up in east London and live in Essex, I've had to soften/lose my accent over the years, otherwise people treat me as though I'm thick. I'm not. It's ridiculous and YANBU

Miffyisverymiffed · 16/03/2025 20:02

My accent is strongly Lancashire, I've had nobbish northern monkey comments. But more often it's people trying to be funny, making "Ilkey moor b'awt hat" type comments - they can't even get the bloody county right 🙄
I kind of think mocking Welsh/Scottish/Irish accents is even more offensive.

DreamTheMoors · 16/03/2025 19:57

There’s little doubt he was mocking you, and I’m sorry, @Whatonearth17. What a jerk. And I’m guessing he thought himself very clever.
I live in California amongst many Mexican people who speak Spanish - yet I struggle to speak the language. I only know a few short phrases and words and make it clear to the person I’m speaking to that that’s all I know - I would no more mock someone than I would bully them because mocking them IS bullying them.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:56

When I hear the variation of Irish accents (Liam Neeson's included) my mind turns to mush 🤭

His accent isn't too bad, but as he got older and very established he seemed to refuse to do other accents for roles and just did his own....which we found weird and distracting.

For example, he was Zeus I think, in the Titans films and insisted on doing it in his own accent, which had us falling about laughing and cringing, instead of actually appreciating the film.

Anyway, I think you'd be popular.

English accents usually sound lovely to us.

DanDin · 16/03/2025 19:55

Buaswn i wedi dweud wrtho fy mod yn falch o'm acen ac ei fod yn estrongasaol a digywilydd.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:52

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 19:46

😄 you think they'd appreciate my boring London accent? (Asking for a friend)

When I hear the variation of Irish accents (Liam Neeson's included) my mind turns to mush 🤭

Also love other regional accents tbh

A guy from here I knew LOVED English accents on women.

(He was quite good looking but was an utter twat, I have to say).

I think most people like a different accent from their own.

Maybe we're all wired to introduce variation to the gene pool 😀.

jocktamsonsbairn · 16/03/2025 19:51

Happened to me constantly when I lived in England. Very irritating.

xteac · 16/03/2025 19:50

I'm West Country, work in Wales.
Workmates occasionally make 'oo-arr' and comments, and mimic the way I say certain words.
I give back as good as I get.

My Welsh boss has an English/borders accent; he impersonates his Mum, who has a strong West-Wales accent: Duw, Duw, <name>bach, etc.

Thinking back, I used to mimic my Dad's fairly strong accent.

It's meant as a mild piss-take in our case. Was certainly meant affectionately when Dad and I talked.

It sounds to me like your old bloke was trying to be amusing and completely misjudged it.

Darkdiamond · 16/03/2025 19:50

JLou08 · 16/03/2025 18:01

I don't see it as shaming. It's a bit of fun, imitating different accents doesn't mean you dislike the accent or think less of people with that accent.

Not always fun for the recipient.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 19:46

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:38

But the Irish guy would probably like the fact that you don't have an Irish accent lol.

😄 you think they'd appreciate my boring London accent? (Asking for a friend)

When I hear the variation of Irish accents (Liam Neeson's included) my mind turns to mush 🤭

Also love other regional accents tbh

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:43

Op, people didn't generally mock my accent in England but that's probably because a mild Northern Irish accent is not very easy to grasp.

As evidenced by Judi French in "Belfast", the actor playing the leader in the SAS history drama series, and even Sam Neill who's Dad is Northern Irish.

I did however get called a "colonial" on e on the basis of my accent, in Tesco.

mumda · 16/03/2025 19:40

@Whatonearth17 there's a technique to practice of asking them to repeat what they've just said.

Most people won't want to repeat themselves because they'll have had extra time to think.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:40

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 19:36

😄😄

Do you know what, the accent can elevate even the most average of men, do you think i could have one of those? 🤭🤭

Bleeuuurghh.

Coming from a Northern Irish woman.

My partner is also Northern Irish (Liam Neesom's area) and I just tune it out.

I would prefer pretty much any other accent in the world.

Ladamesansmerci · 16/03/2025 19:40

It's fine when it's banter between friends.

It's not fine otherwise and is very rude. Imagine mocking someone's accent. If you were non-white, people would find it very racist.

I think it doesn't help that some English people act like the whole world should speak English, and never make an effort with other languages.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:38

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 17:04

I think its meant as an attempt at bonding tbh - if I met a hot Irish guy, in my head I'd be wanting to attempt the accent but only because I love it so much 😭

But I agree, unless you know someone you don't banter with them in that kind of way

But the Irish guy would probably like the fact that you don't have an Irish accent lol.

Djmaggie · 16/03/2025 19:38

I’m a scouser so I literally have this every time I speak to anyone with a non-scouse accent. It generally doesn’t bother me but occasionally people push a bit far and it gets annoying.

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 19:38

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 16/03/2025 17:02

As a foreigner, I can assure you it’s not limited just to Welsh people and they do indeed do it to other nationalities.

Yep can confirm….

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 19:36

theleafandnotthetree · 16/03/2025 19:31

I'm Irish, good luck I'm your search for a hot Irish guy. We only have a few of them and they're all famous

😄😄

Do you know what, the accent can elevate even the most average of men, do you think i could have one of those? 🤭🤭

whynotwhatknot · 16/03/2025 19:34

for an englishman to do that in wales is very rude an odd-im english go to n.wales alot ido get mimic alot as im from london/essex they think its quite funny-would never mimic back thoughh

IesuGrist1975 · 16/03/2025 19:34

I’m Welsh and although I’ve lived in the SE of England for 20 years I still have a Welsh twang although it’s mellowed a lot, I’m not a native Welsh speaker but the SW Welsh town I’m from is known for a strong Welsh accent. While I don’t mind people imitating it I can’t stand people who go out of their way to not understand me because I have an accent.

I’d not really discussed it with anyone until recently when I mentioned it to a group of friends who all happened to be from other countries (European, East Asia and Middle East) but have lived in SE England for as long as I have. They are all fluent English speakers to the point of being able to do a biochemistry based MSc in English and they’ve all experienced this ‘not understanding’ things too. The offenders are not people who are hard of hearing as they can understand those with the ‘right’ accents, it’s an intentional act.

theleafandnotthetree · 16/03/2025 19:31

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 17:04

I think its meant as an attempt at bonding tbh - if I met a hot Irish guy, in my head I'd be wanting to attempt the accent but only because I love it so much 😭

But I agree, unless you know someone you don't banter with them in that kind of way

I'm Irish, good luck I'm your search for a hot Irish guy. We only have a few of them and they're all famous

Seeingadistance · 16/03/2025 19:31

AlmostAJillSandwich · 16/03/2025 17:02

Should have taken the item out of his basket/trolley and put it back on the shelf, racist prick.

This.

BitOutOfPractice · 16/03/2025 19:30

RanchRat · 16/03/2025 19:21

Londoner here with a strong estuary accent. Have lived in the north for 3 decades and only twice have had the piss taken. Having said that, I might have a nasty look about me.

Or northerners are nicer / more polite? You decide.