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To find this incredibly irritating and rude?

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Whatonearth17 · 16/03/2025 16:56

Name change for this and I’m sure I’ll get flamed…but here we go…

I’m a Welsh speaker living in Wales and have an accent when I speak English. It’s a lovely thing and I love other people’s accents. I’ve just returned from shopping where an older English speaking ‘gentleman’ asked me to get something he couldn’t reach for him. I did him the favour and was polite to him at which point he repeated what I said in an over the top mocking Welsh accent. It is the THIRD time this week that a variation of this scenario has happened. Once at work (which I pushed back on) once when I was in the park with the kids and decided I couldn’t be arsed to say anything and today. Why do people think this is ok? The guy today in particular was patronising and belittling and quite frankly just rude. Would we do this to someone with a German/ Chinese accent? Or any other accent? Heritage? To their FACE? When it has happened at work and I can definitely identify their linguistic background, it tends to be people with one language? Multilingual people tend to do it far far less. I just find it so rude and ignorant.
YABU - it’s just banter
YANBU- let’s stop copying people’s accents shall we?

OP posts:
AllProperTeaIsTheft · 16/03/2025 20:47

YANBU. People who think that the fact they are doing it because they 'love your accent' makes it a compliment are ignorant idiots. It's the sign of an uncultured, clueless monolingual thicko.

Why do so many English people seem to regard other people's accents as either weird/unattractive or sexy, instead of just normal? Literally everyone in the world has an accent.

Gwenhwyfar · 16/03/2025 20:46

Gonners · 16/03/2025 20:41

Google translate does a reasonably good job with that, apart from estrongasaol a digywilydd.which comes out as "extroverted and cheeky". If you put estrongasaol a digywilydd.in on its own, it comes out as "extramarital and shameless" ... I'm going to guess it means a rude bastard?

Yes, digwilydd means rude (literally shameless, but actually rude or impolite). Estrongasaol is a new one for me, but is made up of words that translate to xenophobic.

katepilar · 16/03/2025 20:45

Very rude.

People can get funny with accents. I am from Europe and speak very native like English, which is best described as English English with a scottish twang. Some people were trying to be clever and were guessing where I was from and came up with Australian or Kiwi....
I had noone mocking me though.

Gwenhwyfar · 16/03/2025 20:42

"I see this as a form of ‘othering’ where the person considers themselves the norm and anything different is a remarkable point of discussion"

That's exactly it.

"which is especially weird given you’re actually in Wales where it’s presumably quite normal to be Welsh!?"

Yes, but as mentioned, there are different types of Welsh accent. OP's type of Welsh accent is not the same as the man's so he decided she was worthy of ridicule.

"If he had a posh BBC English accent and was older then he’s probably lived a whole life as the default privileged class"

I'd be surprised if he fit that description.

RobertaFirmino · 16/03/2025 20:41

Scouser here. I live elsewhere and am told to 'eh, eh, calm down' on a weekly basis.

brigidsexcitableaunt · 16/03/2025 20:41

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:40

Bleeuuurghh.

Coming from a Northern Irish woman.

My partner is also Northern Irish (Liam Neesom's area) and I just tune it out.

I would prefer pretty much any other accent in the world.

I have a crush on my short, stocky, bespectacled plumber. He's a very nice man but I think his northern Irish accent is what makes the blood rush to my pelvis.

AutumnMum1 · 16/03/2025 20:41

I'm Scottish but work in England alot. I frequently get unflattering impersonations of my accent which tbh i find really annoying. You're right, it is kind of rude and I wouldn't dream of doing it to someone else.

Gonners · 16/03/2025 20:41

DanDin · 16/03/2025 19:55

Buaswn i wedi dweud wrtho fy mod yn falch o'm acen ac ei fod yn estrongasaol a digywilydd.

Google translate does a reasonably good job with that, apart from estrongasaol a digywilydd.which comes out as "extroverted and cheeky". If you put estrongasaol a digywilydd.in on its own, it comes out as "extramarital and shameless" ... I'm going to guess it means a rude bastard?

Supergirl1958 · 16/03/2025 20:37

JLou08 · 16/03/2025 17:00

I've had people mock my northern accent when I'm down south. It's never bothered me, I see the funny side and usually try and return but my attempt at other accents is rubbish.

This! I’m from a fairly northern area of my town where as a friend, who lives ten minutes away from me with a ‘posher’ accent, and her ex husband both mimicked my pronunciation of words. I’ve never forgotten it, but it didn’t bother me

TroysMammy · 16/03/2025 20:34

AlmostAJillSandwich · 16/03/2025 17:02

Should have taken the item out of his basket/trolley and put it back on the shelf, racist prick.

I would have done the same but being a short arse it wouldn't have happened in the first place.

Snorlaxo · 16/03/2025 20:33

I’ve heard people tell Chinese and Asian people who have lived in England their whole lives that they speak English “well”

It is rude and annoying but happens everywhere in England about all accents IME. (I’ve not lived in Scotland or Wales but I’ve heard the Scottish guy in my local Aldi’s accent being mimicked. )

SpringIsSpringing25 · 16/03/2025 20:32

Aussierose2 · 16/03/2025 17:37

I live abroad in an English speaking country with an English accent and this happens to me all the time 🙄 it gets old really fast.

Your username is a bit of a giveaway as to where that might be 😂😂

melonalone · 16/03/2025 20:23

I’ve only ever experienced this from English people. No one else is stupid or ignorant enough.

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 20:22

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:14

I'm already hooked 🤭

The first guy didn't say 'murder' which is everyones favourite i think

He has a lot of videos, it could be in there somewhere.

I may have to watch them all just to check. 😀

SatsumaDog · 16/03/2025 20:22

YANBU. It’s very rude. I would have just put the item back and walked off. The man was being an asshole.

whynotwhatknot · 16/03/2025 20:21

ItTook9Years · 16/03/2025 20:13

Flashback to a cashier at a supermarket making me say “water” over and over again in Nevada. 🙄

an bottle

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 20:18

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:15

😄😄 that's so funny actually, I haven't seen his films anyway, other than love actually 🙈 but can imagine

I think denzel Washington did the same for his recent gladiators role, apparently 😭

I haven't seen it but I'm already cringing at the thought.

The worst was Colin Farrell and co playing ancient Greeks and Macedonians while sounding like a North Dublin street gang.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:17

Gwenhwyfar · 16/03/2025 19:08

Unlikely. People can tell when they're being mocked.

This is fair

For me, I would never mock but would appreciate, but others aren't the same

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:15

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 19:56

When I hear the variation of Irish accents (Liam Neeson's included) my mind turns to mush 🤭

His accent isn't too bad, but as he got older and very established he seemed to refuse to do other accents for roles and just did his own....which we found weird and distracting.

For example, he was Zeus I think, in the Titans films and insisted on doing it in his own accent, which had us falling about laughing and cringing, instead of actually appreciating the film.

Anyway, I think you'd be popular.

English accents usually sound lovely to us.

Edited

😄😄 that's so funny actually, I haven't seen his films anyway, other than love actually 🙈 but can imagine

I think denzel Washington did the same for his recent gladiators role, apparently 😭

Surlydoors · 16/03/2025 20:14

My slight scouse accent gets mimicked. It doesn’t bother me. Nor do the inevitable jokes about stealing hubcaps. There’s a Scottish chap who goes to my local pub and he’s constantly the subject of ribbing over his accent, by people in his friendship circle.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:14

StrawberryDream24 · 16/03/2025 20:06

Also love other regional accents tbh

Prepare for a YouTube binge.

https://youtube.com/shorts/wUZjQ8K9HfA?si=yqXnsZJCHg5oJrC-

Edited

I'm already hooked 🤭

The first guy didn't say 'murder' which is everyones favourite i think

ItTook9Years · 16/03/2025 20:13

ChippingSoda · 16/03/2025 20:08

I see this as a form of ‘othering’ where the person considers themselves the norm and anything different is a remarkable point of discussion - which is especially weird given you’re actually in Wales where it’s presumably quite normal to be Welsh!? If he had a posh BBC English accent and was older then he’s probably lived a whole life as the default privileged class, where it’s seen as standard to objectify women and anyone who doesn’t conform to his type. Hopefully his type is dying out.

The only time I’ve experienced this was in America where they love UK accents and copy it unprompted all the time. I guess in this instance it’s supposed to be flattering though it gets old quickly. People all over the world love the Welsh, Scottish, Northern UK accents so some of it will be in good faith because they just like trying it out. Still annoying though and I wouldn’t do that to someone with a different accent to me.

Flashback to a cashier at a supermarket making me say “water” over and over again in Nevada. 🙄

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 20:13

TheCurious0range · 16/03/2025 20:04

I grew up in east London and live in Essex, I've had to soften/lose my accent over the years, otherwise people treat me as though I'm thick. I'm not. It's ridiculous and YANBU

Similar to me, i definitely speak with a more central London accent

Luckywithchildcare · 16/03/2025 20:10

I’ve just realised I’m guilty of doing this to my in laws and I hadn’t realised and now am mortified I’ve been so rude. So, genuinely sorry this happened to you, but thank you for making me realise the error of my ways.

ChippingSoda · 16/03/2025 20:08

I see this as a form of ‘othering’ where the person considers themselves the norm and anything different is a remarkable point of discussion - which is especially weird given you’re actually in Wales where it’s presumably quite normal to be Welsh!? If he had a posh BBC English accent and was older then he’s probably lived a whole life as the default privileged class, where it’s seen as standard to objectify women and anyone who doesn’t conform to his type. Hopefully his type is dying out.

The only time I’ve experienced this was in America where they love UK accents and copy it unprompted all the time. I guess in this instance it’s supposed to be flattering though it gets old quickly. People all over the world love the Welsh, Scottish, Northern UK accents so some of it will be in good faith because they just like trying it out. Still annoying though and I wouldn’t do that to someone with a different accent to me.