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To find this incredibly irritating and rude?

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Whatonearth17 · 16/03/2025 16:56

Name change for this and I’m sure I’ll get flamed…but here we go…

I’m a Welsh speaker living in Wales and have an accent when I speak English. It’s a lovely thing and I love other people’s accents. I’ve just returned from shopping where an older English speaking ‘gentleman’ asked me to get something he couldn’t reach for him. I did him the favour and was polite to him at which point he repeated what I said in an over the top mocking Welsh accent. It is the THIRD time this week that a variation of this scenario has happened. Once at work (which I pushed back on) once when I was in the park with the kids and decided I couldn’t be arsed to say anything and today. Why do people think this is ok? The guy today in particular was patronising and belittling and quite frankly just rude. Would we do this to someone with a German/ Chinese accent? Or any other accent? Heritage? To their FACE? When it has happened at work and I can definitely identify their linguistic background, it tends to be people with one language? Multilingual people tend to do it far far less. I just find it so rude and ignorant.
YABU - it’s just banter
YANBU- let’s stop copying people’s accents shall we?

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YerArseInParsley · 04/04/2025 18:26

Whatonearth17 · 16/03/2025 16:56

Name change for this and I’m sure I’ll get flamed…but here we go…

I’m a Welsh speaker living in Wales and have an accent when I speak English. It’s a lovely thing and I love other people’s accents. I’ve just returned from shopping where an older English speaking ‘gentleman’ asked me to get something he couldn’t reach for him. I did him the favour and was polite to him at which point he repeated what I said in an over the top mocking Welsh accent. It is the THIRD time this week that a variation of this scenario has happened. Once at work (which I pushed back on) once when I was in the park with the kids and decided I couldn’t be arsed to say anything and today. Why do people think this is ok? The guy today in particular was patronising and belittling and quite frankly just rude. Would we do this to someone with a German/ Chinese accent? Or any other accent? Heritage? To their FACE? When it has happened at work and I can definitely identify their linguistic background, it tends to be people with one language? Multilingual people tend to do it far far less. I just find it so rude and ignorant.
YABU - it’s just banter
YANBU- let’s stop copying people’s accents shall we?

Oft us scottish get it too. Och aye the noo, see u Jimmy etc

I would have taken the item back and put it back on the top shelf lol

winnieanddaisy · 18/03/2025 17:26

I have a mild scouse accent and my French teacher used to make me read passages to give the whole class a laugh . Luckily it didn’t bother me .
I love the Welsh accent especially from the Gwynedd area because two of my grandchildren live there and I love to listen to them speak .

MrsScarecrow · 18/03/2025 13:10

I've had the micky taken about my so called posh southern accent by my Yorkshire husband's family and friends. They put on this plummy voice and mock poses eg sticking out one's little finger when drinking from a mug.

Deathraystare · 18/03/2025 09:34

Devilsmommy · 16/03/2025 17:50

I'm a Brummie. So used to this it's ridiculous. At least you've got a lovely sounding accent 😂

I don't think there is anything wrong with the Brummie accent (southern softie here!) However, South African/nasally Americans, just no.

Snakebite61 · 18/03/2025 08:50

Whatonearth17 · 16/03/2025 16:56

Name change for this and I’m sure I’ll get flamed…but here we go…

I’m a Welsh speaker living in Wales and have an accent when I speak English. It’s a lovely thing and I love other people’s accents. I’ve just returned from shopping where an older English speaking ‘gentleman’ asked me to get something he couldn’t reach for him. I did him the favour and was polite to him at which point he repeated what I said in an over the top mocking Welsh accent. It is the THIRD time this week that a variation of this scenario has happened. Once at work (which I pushed back on) once when I was in the park with the kids and decided I couldn’t be arsed to say anything and today. Why do people think this is ok? The guy today in particular was patronising and belittling and quite frankly just rude. Would we do this to someone with a German/ Chinese accent? Or any other accent? Heritage? To their FACE? When it has happened at work and I can definitely identify their linguistic background, it tends to be people with one language? Multilingual people tend to do it far far less. I just find it so rude and ignorant.
YABU - it’s just banter
YANBU- let’s stop copying people’s accents shall we?

I've had friends who go straight into Welsh, Scots, Irish accent mode when meeting someone new. At work and play. It's utter cringe and makes me an embarrassed to be English. But then again, I've had terrible behaviour towards me because I'm English from the above.

ScanningQRCode · 18/03/2025 08:42

You know when it's banter though and when it's being rude IMO.

My closest friend has another male friend she sees alot. The first time I met him he took the piss out of my Australian accent in a very offensive way. It wasn't banter, it was designed deliberately to put me down. She's suggested a few times that we all meet up together and I simply refused and told her why.

The other thing I am never quite sure about.... I actually have what has been described as a 'soft' Australian accent. People always say that approvingly for some reason.

I was in Oz over Christmas and met up with a friend and the waiter said to me 'where are you from?' I said I was Australian but have lived in the UK for 25 years. He said 'Get the bloody plum out of your mouth when you are here then!'. I found that fucking offensive also.

DanDin · 18/03/2025 08:41

That was my thought too, @ItTook9Years .

ItTook9Years · 18/03/2025 08:30

Maddy70 · 18/03/2025 04:56

I thnk you're being oversensitive. I have a very strong accent and everyone takes the piss out of it. It's banter

Maybe go and do it to someone with an ethnic minority accent and see if it’s still “banter”.

xILikeJamx · 18/03/2025 08:24

The best retort is generally just to stare at the person blankly. In your case I would have put the item he couldn't reach back up on the shelf.

Have to say as a Scottish person the only place I've had this happen to me (and multiple times) was in Cardiff!

DanDin · 18/03/2025 08:21

@Maddy70 , it might be banter to you, but it's something many find offensive.

Maddy70 · 18/03/2025 04:56

I thnk you're being oversensitive. I have a very strong accent and everyone takes the piss out of it. It's banter

ReadingSoManyThreads · 18/03/2025 01:29

Not voted because this can really depend on the individual situation.

I'm Northern Irish living in England and get people doing the Northern Ireland accent at me, I usually find it funny and like people doing it, however, you get some dicks who are doing it in a mocking way, asking me to repeat certain word for their amusement, honestly, those dicks can fuck off.

So, sometimes I find it funny, other times they get the death stare.

glittercunt · 18/03/2025 01:09

Grew up with an RP (I just call it Berkshire posh) accent and swapped it for a Welsh valleys accent due to length of time I lived there.

I was grateful, having always hated RP and how I sounded. Was grateful I pick others accents up!

My partner does the repeating what I've said in a Welsh accent, and it pisses me off. It was bad enough I grew up having my posh accent picked on and ridiculed (including by people living in the same area).

My parents (mostly my dad) does the same thing.

melonalone · 18/03/2025 00:55

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 17:04

I think its meant as an attempt at bonding tbh - if I met a hot Irish guy, in my head I'd be wanting to attempt the accent but only because I love it so much 😭

But I agree, unless you know someone you don't banter with them in that kind of way

It is so demeaning. All you are saying is “I’m not listening to a word you’re saying” as you’re too busy focusing on the accent.

And the poor person has to stand there and laugh along and pretend they’re a good sport when the only “bonding” they want to do is your head into a wall.

tiberseptim · 18/03/2025 00:51

I live in a Dorset holiday town. A friend had a Dorset accent, but used to lay it on really thickly for a laugh when visitors (usually DFLs) talked down to him as if he were an ignorant country bumpkin.

Shotokan101 · 18/03/2025 00:36

Should have taken it back from him and put it well out of reach....

asrl78 · 17/03/2025 23:10

YDBear · 16/03/2025 17:03

Obviously he was being seriously offensive. If you were BAME, his behaviour would be deemed racist. Dunno if it’s the results of Covid, as some academics suggest, or social
media, as others think, but levels of civility and decent behaviour have just collapsed in the last few years.

Problem is these days you get called "woke" if you dare to call out irrational discrimination.

asrl78 · 17/03/2025 23:08

AlmostAJillSandwich · 16/03/2025 17:02

Should have taken the item out of his basket/trolley and put it back on the shelf, racist prick.

The Welsh are the same race as the English so whilst he is a prick, he cannot be called racist by the true definition of the term.

stonegirl · 17/03/2025 22:47

Really sorry to hear this, I love a Welsh accent - I may be bias as half Welsh. But I think its beautiful xx

Toptops · 17/03/2025 22:31

I'm really sorry this post has ended because I wanted to say: I love regional and national accents but often catch myself mimicking them unconsciously. As soon as I realise I stop, of course, because I would hate people to think I was making fun. I have had a few sideward glances when I obviously haven't stopped in time.

Mumoftwoandcats · 17/03/2025 20:16

I’m Scottish and worked in England for a couple of years, folk constantly mimicked my accent, often asking me to say things, such as “there’s been a Murder” IYKYK. It got tiresome, but in the main, I found it endearing, as most folk said they loved my accent. From a stranger it is incredibly rude though I think.

LalaPaloosa2024 · 17/03/2025 18:58

I worked for a woman who would mock my accent. I complained. No one cared. It was really nasty.,

toxic44 · 17/03/2025 18:35

I live in the North and without having a pronounced Northern accent, don't flatten the vowels like a Southern accent does. ('black hat' not 'bleck het'). DP's mother apes what she thinks is a heavy Northern accent and says things like, 'O 'eck! Na thaz dun et!' followed by a tinkly little laugh. It does me in, especially as DP's dad is Scottish. It's very rude to mock how people speak. You have to be really close friends for it to be acceptable even as a private joke.

Wanderusa · 17/03/2025 18:16

I’m English, living in the USA. People do this to me and my family on the daily and think it’s absolutely hilarious and ok. They do get a bit confused with my husband though (who’s from Wigan). He doesn’t seem to get the piss taken as much, maybe because they don’t understand him?

DiduAye · 17/03/2025 18:08

I'm Scottish I have a very East coast mix of an accent Edinburgh/Aberdeen East Central Scotland and a very clear professional voice People (for that read English people) seem to find it hilarious to either claim I'm not Scottish or reply to me in a very West coast "hey you Jimmy" accent It boils my blood !!

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