14yo DD dating a 16yo Boy

..............so the lad doesn’t end up in trouble

Wowsers.

It's your daughter who will end up in trouble, if she becomes pregnant. The "lad" won't get into any trouble at all.

But you'll end up caring for a teenage mother and a new baby if you continue with this prudish attitude.

You need to move out of the 19th century and get your DD some condoms and make an appointment for her to get contraception advice from her doctor.

you did not mean mature physically.

You said you were not worried about her as she is mature.

You had a psychologist confirm in writing your daughter’s capacity to consent to sex?

Nah you lost me when you said about the police station 😂

Being 14 does though.

Earlier you said you trusted her- especially after you had a conversation with her.

“I’m actually not worried about her as she is very mature…. she knows where it [contraception] can be sought”

Now you say she lacks capacity?
Unreliable narration here

Being autistic doesn't automatically mean you lack capacity (there are actual laws on this).

16 is the age of consent for sex, there is no age of consent for going out with someone.

If they are not having sex they are not doing anything wrong. Not everybody wants to start having sex as soon as they are 16. I had two relationships that did not involve sex between the ages of 17 and 19.

If they are having sex, then although they presumably both know it is illegal, in the eyes of the law only the 16 year old will get into trouble. If your DD might not fully understand that then I would say she definitely shouldn't be having sex, but I wouldn't forbid them to have any kind of relationship at all unless one or both of them is persistently breaking that rule.

I see 14 and 16 year olds as basically the same age. Never noticed a particular gap in maturity.

This has got to be a troll post?

Okay, there's enough drip feeds in this thread to flood a field.

People have only been able to answer with the information you have given.

Not sure what kind of evangelical Christian is happy to sit and listen to gossip about a teenage boy.

But my advice still stands.
Talk to your daughter about consent, about contraception, about STDs, about how a pregnancy would impact them for the rest of her life, about recognising pressure. But still, DO NOT go and embarrass yourself, and her, but starting a conversation with the lad's father.

Fornication? Modesty? Sounds like honour/ purity speech. Your daughter is her own person- not the property of any man- including her father.

@Tirangapete we are a Christian family. We go to church. DD, now 26, goes to church.

There has been a massive drip feed in your posts.

Loved, well parented young people tend to do OK. Your dd needs to be aware of unconditional love from you. You need to tell your dd about sex being wonderful in mature, consensual, loving relationships. You need to be open about contraception and to have an open enough mind so she can tell you if she has had unprotected sex and quickly so you can go with her to get the morning after pill.

I always think the best bit of having a faith is that it teaches one to forgive and to be open minded and supportive of the situations of others. You may remember Jesus and Mary Magdalene.

I'd also recommend getting your dd signed up to some out of school stuff: tennis club/lessons, musical theatre, etc., and if they are still going too strong by the summer holidays, sign her up.fkr a PGL type outward bound holiday in addition to the family holiday.

But the law says she can’t consent so how does that work? What’s the point of a legal age of consent if it’s not applied?

Really? Mine are older teens but I’d be damn sure to know where they were at 14! Not having your location on at that age was a deal breaker. After watching adolescence I’d hope more parents take note and actually start parenting their kids.

Anyone else not sure this is real?
Police station?
Consent via the courts?

it is 100% illegal for them to have sex the local police station confirmed

You end to the police about your teenage daughter having a boyfriend 2 years older than her?

I'm going to ignore the religious stuff as it is irrelevant and you are being quite discriminatory towards atheists.
Your DD has come to you and openly told you she has a boyfriend. This is really good and the fact she is currently being honest with you shows she trusts you. Be gentle with that trust. You need to talk to her about sex, consent and contraception. Don't be dictorial it will backfire.
I had a boyfriend at 14 who was 16 we waited until I was 16 to have sex but it nearly happened younger. My parents had given me condoms when I was 14 saying not to use them but just in case. It's not great having sex at 14 but its a lot worse if it results in a pregnancy.
Don't think for a second that religion will delay this, the Catholic school near us has the highest number of teenage pregnancies in the city.