AIBU to go to big concert on my own?

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They’re the saddos! I’d happily go to see a band I like on my own.

It’s totally fine to go alone. I’ve done it loads of times. But taking one night off won’t ruin your child’s exams either.

This isn't very nice. Life is about balance. If one weekend off is ruining her chances of doing well in these exams, I'd be very concerned. How awful.

This, it says everything about them.. they are not comfortable with themselves.
I hate it when others project their own insecurities onto others and try and limit them.
I’ve been to quite a few on my own, it just means you really absorb the music and feel every bit without distraction.

I have been to my first solo gig this year, it was fantastic. Iv noticed since there are more and more people on their own. I got fed up of missing out, especially as they are so expensive these days, if people aren't really interested they aren't going to spend the money just to keep you company. Iv got my next one planned for November. Do it, you won't regret it.

I’ve only been to one concert on my own so far, wouldn’t hesitate to do it again if it was someone I really wanted to see and didn’t have anyone to go with. That’s assuming that I felt safe enough about the logistics (I live in a big city so any concert would only be there, so I’d have to get home to my house in the suburbs, I couldn’t justify a hotel). I don’t think anyone really noticed I was alone, it would definitely be less obvious at a concert than something like the theatre, although even then I’d go by myself if I wanted to.

But in your case I would take DD if she wants to go. She can plan around it. As you’ve said she can work on the train etc.

If you’ve made firm plans like bought tickets and booked accommodation already, and DD thinks she is coming, it’s too late now to just tell her that she can’t come. It would have been entirely different if you’d told her right from the start that she couldn’t come.

I’m currently sitting in the Amex lounge of the 02 arena having a drink on my own and just browsing very briefly when I saw your post. This is a huge concert, no qualms whatsoever. Enjoying my drink and looking forward to seeing artists in a bit.

No reason why no one is with me, I just didn’t bother to invite anyone 🤭

Let your poor daughter come with you for goodness sake! It sounds like she’s working really hard and one night off to go to gig isn’t going to make or break her exam results.

Not sad to go alone at all but completely unnecessary.

Life is short, enjoy the gig - going with your daughter will be a shared experience she will never forget. Hope you have an amazing time!

This! It's not weird to go alone but seems a bit mean when you were meant to be going with her. It'll probably do her loads of good and I'm not convinced no break from revision is healthy. There's her MH To think of as well as her grades.

Not weird at all. People trying to make you feel odd about it are really sad imo.

Secondly, I really wouldn’t advise you or your DD to have such a strict and suffocating revision schedule that they can’t take one day off for a bit of fun.

I go a lot on my own - including Kylie this year - and have done since I was a teenager. It’s not weird at all. I would say though it’d be sad for her to miss out. Realistically, what else is she going to be doing at 8-11pm? Relaxing in front of the TV or sleeping, surely? It won’t kill her to have a couple of hours off. Like you say, she can revise on the train and such. My mum died when I was 18 - a week before my A-Levels - and I would have been devastated to have missed out on something like that with my mum.

Go on your own. No one will care and if they comment, fuck em.

I think it depends on the DC, the concert weekend would have stressed my DS. He was always going to pass his exams but he really wouldn’t have wanted a weekend away so close to them.

Fine to go on your own but also fine for her to go. She can revise while travelling and the concert itself will give her a real boost

Take her along. Work/life balance. She can study en route - as you suggest - and can also (since she won't be drinking) conduct further revision the morning after the concert while you are still passed out drunk 🍷🥴🧐

Exactly this!

If having 2 days off means she’s going to fail her exams, then she would have not passed them even if she’d had those 2 days.

Its mean if she doesn’t attend something she’s been waiting so long to do.

Life is for living!

Surely she would have learnt everything she needs to by then and so it’s just a case of going over it.

She needs time to actually let loose and do something other than revise.

My teenage daughter went to two concerts last week and at both she was by other teenagers who were on their own. Teenagers don't see it as strange so neither should adults.

So either go on your own and don't worry about what other say, or take your daughter and she can fit in revision around the concert. Enjoy it whatever you do.

4~5 days before the exam, she might be so stressed that she won’t even consider going away.
Or she might be so fed up, she’ll relish the break.

But that has no impact on you going.
I’m not sure why you’re supposed to miss out (esp with everything booked already) if your dd doesn’t go. It sounds crazy to me.

Fine to go solo.

Also could be good for your dd to go. It will give her a break during exams and possibly take the pressure of for a little bit.

Dh and I both go to festivals and gigs by ourselves and its not sad or lonely at all. He went to a bigger one this week by himself (and is suffering the bruises from the mosh pit), I'm going to one on a dodgy ex cargo ship club in May which is much smaller. I''m looking forward to not having to think about anyone else during the gig.

I would let your dd come too, realistically they don’t revise 24/7