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Obviously I did it just to spite my 15yr old

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Oollliivviiaa · 16/03/2025 14:10

I broke the shower this morning.
Obiously I did it purely to spite my 15yr old and no one else could possibly be as inconvenienced as her by having to have a bath instead.
What things have you done on purpose purely to make life difficult for your teen (according to your teen)?

OP posts:
AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 16/03/2025 16:20

Leavesandacorns · 16/03/2025 15:09

My mum ruined my life as a teen by taking me to the cinema with my granny (to see a film I desperately wanted to see, no less). How could I live with the shame of people knowing I had a loving family 😬

I hope you have been able to heal from that ordeal?

My heart breaks for you!😉

Introducingme · 16/03/2025 16:18

Our son was 12 and picked to play at county level in his sport.
I unfortunately shamed him by shouting 'come on name'
He stopped his game and came to me and said please don't
shout for me it's embarrassing.

FourSeasonsLobelia · 16/03/2025 16:16

sophiasnail · 16/03/2025 15:58

I'm a secondary maths teacher so I can seriously inconvenience 30 at once just by saying "use a pencil and ruler for the diagrams please"

Love it!

bugaboo218 · 16/03/2025 16:15

I ruined 15 year old DD's life yesterday when I purchased own brand chocolate digestives for her and her friends to munch on!

I have ruined her life again today by waking her up at 10:AM and giving her a lift in to the city. I am the most unreasonable Mum ever waking her up that early, so I could pick up her fiends en- route and ensure they got to the cinema in plenty of time of time for a film starting at 11:15.

Oh and if looks could kill I would have been stone dead having dared talk to her friend's in the car!

FourSeasonsLobelia · 16/03/2025 16:14

Leavesandacorns · 16/03/2025 15:09

My mum ruined my life as a teen by taking me to the cinema with my granny (to see a film I desperately wanted to see, no less). How could I live with the shame of people knowing I had a loving family 😬

I remember when I was about 16 I went to the school disco and my mother said 'Have a good time' and I shrieked at the top of my voice; 'DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!'.

We still laugh about it.

JockTamsonsBairns · 16/03/2025 16:12

My 15yo dd 'needed' a lift to her boyfriend's house today at 1pm.
Me being at work, and therefore unavailable to provide a lift, made me unreasonable.

She also wants her hair done. Which, if I don't work, I can't fund.

FourSeasonsLobelia · 16/03/2025 16:11

I ruined my teen's life (and Sunday morning) by having a very mild disagreement with DH.

Ruined DH's Sunday morning too.

Told them both to get a bleeding grip and got about my day.

DontTellMeWhat2Do · 16/03/2025 16:10

17yo DD is mad that her DGM will move in to keep a watch on her whilst we go on holiday for a week. DD believes she can look after herself.

  • DD does not drive so would not be able to get to school or part time job. We are not near a train station, there are no direct bus routes, its quite a walk and DD hates walking.
  • DD thinks she can look after elderly and sick DDog herself despite being at school and having a part time job.
  • DD is scared of the dark.
  • DDs room is a complete pig sty yet she thinks she can manage a whole house by herself.
  • DD thinks DTortoise is 'gross' but thinks she can clean out its tank etc in our absence.
  • DD does very little cooking yet expects to sustain herself.

Of course I am being totes unreasonable to let DGM move in, feed her, walk dog, drive her places, keep her room and house tidy so she doesn't have to.

oh and I'm also very unreasonable not to by DD her own brand new car and expect her to learn in my "old" VW Up.

edwinbear · 16/03/2025 16:10

I drove for 3 hours yesterday to a sports event DS wanted to do. I bought him the over priced event hoody (which is horrible apparently). He didn’t do quite as well as he wanted to - which is all my fault.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 16:09

@andHelenknowsimmiserablenow Your teen dc would hate it round my house, chips are always served with steak. It's the actual law!

BillyILash · 16/03/2025 16:08

I didn’t automatically think to change the size of some T-shirts she put in a shopping basket to fit her. Apparently I should have known she put that size in (her actual age) because the size below was oos and should have known to check and change the size telepathically!

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 16:06

NormasArse · 16/03/2025 15:57

My mum bought an orange Fiat Strada… with grey plastic bumpers.

Luckily she was too mean to drive me to school anyway 😂.

I've just googled that as actually I think it's quite cool and rather a nice colour 😳. Guess that proves my teenage years are a long way behind me!

Hankunamatata · 16/03/2025 16:03

Preparing and cooking dinner each evening.

Psychic ability to know they needed x item of clothing washed

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 16/03/2025 16:02

I ruin every morning by opening DC bedroom curtains when the room has to be as dark as a cave at all times.
Worse, I ruined dinner last week when we had no potatoes to mash so I served chips with steak instead. ON PURPOSE!

murasaki · 16/03/2025 16:01

NormasArse · 16/03/2025 15:57

My mum bought an orange Fiat Strada… with grey plastic bumpers.

Luckily she was too mean to drive me to school anyway 😂.

My dad kept threatening to buy a skoda to drivers to school. In the early nineties whe they were the height of embarrassment. Or a Lada.

We took the bus.
.

LauderSyme · 16/03/2025 16:01

This thread is 😆😆😆

My career choices have ruined my 15 year old's life because I don't earn enough to give him hundreds a month in pocket money or buy him a £4k gaming computer and £1k gaming chair at the drop of a hat.

sophiasnail · 16/03/2025 15:58

I'm a secondary maths teacher so I can seriously inconvenience 30 at once just by saying "use a pencil and ruler for the diagrams please"

NormasArse · 16/03/2025 15:57

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 14:37

@Ph3 Yeah, you sound like a right tyrant 😆.

My mum tried to ruin my life in my teens by buying a bright yellow car and insisting on using it to drive me to school in (we weren't on the bus route). She said she chose it because she liked the colour but canny old me knew better and it was only my sheer sense of goodwill and martyrdom that she was allowed to drive me in it daily!

My mum bought an orange Fiat Strada… with grey plastic bumpers.

Luckily she was too mean to drive me to school anyway 😂.

Harrumphhhh · 16/03/2025 15:56

None of you are as bad as me.

Apparently, the existence of school is all my fault.

RunLikeTheWild · 16/03/2025 15:55

LovePoppy · 16/03/2025 15:47

My mother has ruined my life the last three years by being a snowbird and leaving me motherless for 2.5 months a year.

The fact that she has left me, her car as compensation is noted, but not enough. I have no one to make me cookies and feed me wine

How dare she! Selfishly swanning off like that, and really just using you to keep the car battery working. You don't deserve it 💐

PeachesPeachesPeachesPeachesPeaches · 16/03/2025 15:55

Not a teen but a tween. I need to do online check in for our cruise at the end of the month. Obviously the passport style photo they’re asking me to take of each passenger was designed just to piss of my tween who has flat out refused and kicked the fuck off, infront of my entire family.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 16/03/2025 15:54

I’ve nothing to add. I only came on here so I could flounce dramatically out again and slam the door.

Fuuuuuckit · 16/03/2025 15:51

I took my dad to a uni open day yesterday.

Apparently nobody else took a parent (they did, I met lots of parents!) and I was mortally embarrassing for asking an actual question at check-in (where the nearest toilet is).

She was going to go on her own, with a friend, until she worked out how much the train fare/hotel bill/meals would cost £££ but by me taking her I paid... I'm such a bitch.

jewelcase · 16/03/2025 15:49

Recently I bought my DD (12) an apple snack bag from Lidl instead of an apple and grape snack bag.

I am a truly awful person.

changedusernameforthis1 · 16/03/2025 15:48

My teen absolutely hates showers and will only have baths - I think if I broke the bath and suggested a shower to him, I'd need a pep talk beforehand (and a large glass of wine) 😂

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