So husband has just arrived home drunk. He doesn't usually go out and get drunk but when he does he really gets stocious. The thing is he's mid 40s and will say that the boys want him to go to the pub to watch the rugby, and that he doesn't really want to go but we both know that he will go out, which is grand obviously. He then reduces communication with me that day which feels like preparation for going out and getting as pissed as possible and not having to say when he's likely to be back. Its really annoying as we have a child and I have full assumed responsibility, I almost have to ask for permission to go out whilst he comes and goes as he pleases without answering to anybody. So he said he'd be home after the rugby at 10 then text at 10.30 saying he was trying to get a taxi. There was no sign of him so I rang him at 11.30 and he's still in pub, hadn't tried to get a taxi, sounding shitfaced and then turns up at 12.30pm barely able to stand up. He's done this before a couple of years ago and turned in at 3am and didn't bother getting in touch. That time he blamed the projectile vomiting on arrival home on 'bad beer' and not the quantity - he generally doesn't take responsibility for anything, hes like a child. I have told him to take the sofa tonight this causes so much anxiety in me, I didn't sign up for this shit, im not prepared to get used to it, and I feel the lack of communication is disrespectful, AIBU? I don't know how to stop being so pissed about this.