To want to leave our dream house because of neighbours tv on party wall

You need to sell up.

OR

Report to the council. Make a diary of all the noise and when it occurs, and their reactions and responses when you complain to them.

DO BEWARE THOUGH. As someone said further back - if you DO lodge complaints, it will have to be revealed to potential buyers that you had a neighbour dispute when you are trying to sell the house.

Seriously, just sell. It won't get better.

Some pp take years to save up for a big purchase.

look, babies cry. The idea I would have an under 3 yo without voluntarily apologising to neighbours for the crying etc etc shows why many neighbours have issues.

I too thought it was triggered by the baby’s all night crying. Quite interesting your dp goes to knock until they open and at no time the crying baby convo came up from dp. Even to apologise for it even if you don’t mean it.

it’s no wonder you feel moving is only solution. There’s a lack of communication and empathy from both sides. @sapphicy

Sorry if I've missed you saying this but would they come round to hear? Do they realise it's not just normal tv from another room noise?

I empathise so much @sapphicy i think depending on the set up of the house people can have no idea just how horrific the noise is. It isn't specifically the volume of the tv and voices. It's the horrible bass type noise that sort of vibrates and is so difficult to block out.

I really know what you mean. I had it in my last place. They got it installed during covid lockdown and it nearly drove me mad. As I was shielding and couldn't go anywhere and felt like it was torture. I spoke to them and they tried to stop using it so much at night but still happened occasionally.

I remember the constant dread it would start again. I've moved now and honestly the peace is something I won't ever take for granted.

I genuinely think some people just think it's normal tv noise but depending on the walls and the way the sound travels it's the most horrific noise.

We had an elderly neighbour blasting his tv out and what worked was his own daughter pointing out how bloody loud it was, so when we got round to complaining she backed us up and he got some wireless headphones.

We’re in a terrace and when I look at semis with an eye to moving I refuse to consider one where the living rooms are joined.

Alexa bass won’t be enough I don’t think , you’ll need the bass speakers directed at wall .
they sound so selfish, I guess they maybe hard of hearing but hearing aids are a thing as are headphones for watching tv without blaring it out loud at all hours to the neighbours

I'd be far too paranoid to sleep in a room with a boiler, it doesn't sound safe at all. If you move it to your loft you'll have loads more options and save so much space.

It's not selfish to have a TV in your bedroom when you are joined onto someone elses house.

It is selfish to mount it on the party wall, turn the volume up and watch it at all hours though.

I have one and it is not mounted on the party wall. But I run the speakers remotely next to the bedside tables. So the noise does not have to be anywhere near as loud to listen as the speakers are right next to the heads of the listeners.

There are solutions to making it quieter and being more considerate of your neighbours even if it is mounted on the party wall and these are not expensive. That is what is so annoying here.

I have a tv in my bedroom but thete’s no wall to a neighbour.

If it’s maybe one person watching they should get noise cancelling headphones. I remember my mum buying my dad some when he started going deaf.

I'm so sorry you're having to tolerate this @sapphicy I would absolutely sell up as they sounds like utter cunts.

I have to say - and don't anybody bother defending this with 'oh but I like to watch telly in bed and I'm entitled to,' because I'm not interested in anyone saying it's OK, and their 'right' to watch TV in their bedroom... I think you have to be the most inconsiderate selfish wanker to have a TV in your bedroom when your bedroom is joined on to the neighbour's house.

Moreover, NO-ONE needs a fucking TV in their bedroom? Are you 12? Go to fucking sleep!

I had a noise problem with a neighbour in my last house. Music at 2 am on a school night. Driving his motorbike through our inter house pathway at after midnite on his coming home from work. But they moved out after a while, next two sets of neighbours were more considerate.
I might move my bed away from the party wall, and watch TV elsewhere?

This could be moved? Fitted wardrobes aren't permanent, immovable fixtures. If you switched the bed round with wardrobes (you could have new, less dated, non fitted ones), then the clothes in the wardrobes will likely deaden the sound.

If you're not prepared to move your room around for a problem that affects you, you can can hardly expect them to move their room around for it.

I think there are solutions and solutions. No one can really predict how effective they are going to be until you try them.

Provided you are willing to give up a fair amount of space though they should be more effective. Maybe this in conjunction with earplugs and headphone cancelling might provide a solution. Hopefully an engineer can give you a realistic idea of how successful any solution is likely to be based on the wall construction.

Move to a detached house, making sure there are no shared driveways or other parking issues in the road, and relax.
I’ve learned by experience only to live in a detached.

You're probably going to have to declare it anyway because you are already in dispute with the neighbours so I wouldn't worry too much about that now. The rubbish in their garden, forget it. Let the other neighbours complain about it. Your issue is the noise which is a statutory nuisance and will be considered antisocial behaviour. You need to go to the council. They aren't going to be reasonable.

I don't understand why people are always reluctant to go to the council when they've already been having back and forth disputes with the neighbours for a long time anyway. You can't exactly say no anyway if someone asks you if you have any known issues with the neighbours when you sell because you do have issues, regardless if you've been to the council.

I apologise if my suggestions have already been answered.

Doesn't the boiler in the fitted wardrobe make a noise when it fires up? Why in the bedroom? Are you saying you can only hear the next door TV and nothing else?

Do the two houses have the same layout but in reverse? Is their TV in t heir bedroom or the lounge? Where is yours?

Boilers tend to have more pipework around them, so perhaps it might be a case of moving your boiler for a quiet life? Has your boiler always been sited there?

Perhaps you could find someone who could mediate between you and your neighbour as to the best positions for you all to have a quiet life? Your local council might charge for their experts on housing, but it will be worth it. No advice is given free these days, but you have to live with your neighbour and life can get very miserable if you cannot find a solution.

This problem is probably the most frequent cause of controversy and there are always solutions if you find the right people to help. No good punishing the elderly couple. You could fall foul of the ''Elder Abuse' law.

I sympathise, I have a neighbour who bought a very big TV with surround sound and bass and stuck it on a party wall... It's so inconsiderate.

I know you can't easily remove the fitted wardrobe, but have you tried moving 180 degrees on the bed so your head is where your feet currently are? I'd try a few different things like that, speaking to a sound insulation professional and maybe getting quotes for moving the wardrobe and boiler. If you love the house, minus your shitty neighbours, then why not investigate a few things before you decide to move. A sound insulation professional might be able to give you good advice re how likely sound proofing is likely to work in your case as I imagine it varies by property type and type of sound as well as how you do the sound insulation. I also think you are probably already at the stage where you need to disclose this to buyers, so have a look at your council pages too to see whether this is something they're likely to help with and then make a decision or not to whether to involve them. It sounds like you're (understandably) at the end of your tether, but I think there's a few different things you could try yet.

I live in a detached house but weirdly I hear these unexplained noises, like a distant thudding hammer. I’ve no idea where its coming from or what it is. It’s been going on for years. My son hears it as well so it’s not my imagination. I used to wonder if it was seagulls on the roof but they'd have to be the size of an elephant. It drives me mad. It’s not critters as it’s a deep thudding sound that sounds like it’s outside but on the house. Very odd.

It will be cheaper (although still expensive) to have the house soundproofed. A friend did it for the same reason and was glad she did. At least get a quote and remember you could get terrible neighbours if you move so I’d stay put.

I’d prefer to reconfigure the bedroom as awkward than it is than move. I’d also start making really a lot of noise at 6am.

Perhaps your daughter would like to do 6am violin practice?

I wouldn't worry about the message to your daughter. You've tried being nice to them and that didn't work. They clearly don't mind noise so it wouldn't hurt to have some early morning music.

I really feel for you. We moved 2 years ago for a similar issue. We now have a detached house and i love it as there is absolutely no neighbour noise through the walls but it was an easier decision as we definitely wasn't in our forever home

Go to the council and complain about the bathroom in the front garden. Councils charge to remove items like that. Our council removes 3 items for £100.

Could you share that cost with the other neighbour if yours's next door won't? If you love your house, why move? You might get someone worse next door. Every time you complain it adds to their entertainment value.

You could take them to court for Human Rights Abuse, because you have a right to the enjoyment of your property. The downside is that any legal action with neighbours goes down on the property deeds and has to be investigated by a search when you sell. There are cheaper ways.

Do you both have central heating radiators? Are they in the same places in both houses? Noises carry through pipes and radiators. Warm air central heating can be even worse.

If you can re-arrange your furniture so that your headboard is not on the wall where their TV is, it might cut down the noise.

Also, is it worth having sound proofing to the room where they are clearly trying too send you round the bend? If you can sound proof everything and stop complaining, they won't get any amusement out of it.

Some people delight in making everyone else's lives a misery and the more you complain, the more satisfaction they will get out of it, but why would elderly people do that?.

If after making your rooms soundproof and there are still problems, then you will have to have a talk with them. Perhaps they are deaf and have the TV loud? They may not realise they are deaf. If they keep late hours, because the TV and news are more interesting after midnight, you may find even noisier people living next door if you move- young adults who are even worse, having parties.