To want to leave our dream house because of neighbours tv on party wall

It is not OTT.

Fighting fire with fire is sometimes the only thing that works.

You must become the nightmare. It's not about petty and, if you are a nice neighbour at heart, it's not easy because it goes against everything you believe in. It's actually quite the self torture and you have to be determined. No wimping out or it won't work.

The only thing some people respond to is a taste of their own medicine.

I've had to do it. I outblasted my neighbours when we lived in a block of flats. I blasted them so loud I had to wear ear defenders to be able to tolerate it. They'd start. I'd let it go for a bit. Then I'd shove the stereo speakers up the wall and blast them with some truly horrible music for five minutes. I'd count it down to zero and switch mine off. Give them chance to see sense. Nope? Back on, volume up. Off. Not had enough yet. Back on, full volume. They'd give up. The other neighbours never said a thing apart from one who said thanks in the lift a few times. I didn't want to do it but they were tormenting the whole block pretty much 24 hours a day with their shitty drum'n'bass, rave tracks and Engelbert Humperdink type stuff (not kidding, weird mix of tastes).

You have to keep your lights off and watch out for approaching witnesses or coppers. Then deny it.

Cheaper than moving.

These days, if there's going to be fear involved, it's not going to be mine. Never again.

You're never going to be friends with these people because they already feel entitled to tell you to piss off so give it them back.

It doesn't feel nice but neither does being disrespected and driven mad with noise while you're trying to sleep.

Or you could put your telly up the wall and play some really loud vocal sex videos while you two go sleep in your child's room and shield her ears. When they complain, tell them you may as well have fun if they're going to keep you up at night.

Had this problem many years ago. Got up at 6am. Turned a couple of bass speakers to the wall, put a anxious cd on repeat, took the budgie and went out for the morning.

Only had to do it twice

I would try to move tbh.they sound selfish. I have subtitles on ,although detached, DH dislikes loud volume. They could go on for years. 8

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Get the wall soundproofed from your side. They put in soundproofing then a new fake wall essentially. It would fix the problem straight up and be a lot cheaper than moving.

This!

If you dont want to invite them in, then you could record and go round to show them. You've said theyre retired so maybe hard of hearing and so dont realise just how loud it actually is.

If theyre still unreasonable after this, then I think soundproofing is worth a try before moving.

Some of these suggestions in indulging in petty wars are so OTT. Have you tried to invite them over to hear how it sounds from your side? Trying to reason with people should be the first step.

And using another neighbour's complaint (to you, why?!) as an excuse to go charging over about a messy garden makes you sound really difficult tbh. Pick your battles

Can’t you soundproof the wall?? You would have to cover it on your side, and depending on what type of wall it is, If it’s cavity, you could possibly fill it aswell to help reduce noise. If I was you, I would get some quotes from soundproofing experts and get that done. If that isn’t sufficient I’d move.
best of luck x

I would get really heavily into drum and bass, at 9am- every day for a week. I would go out whilst it was on and return at 12, so I could sit and enjoy it again for half hour before turning it off.

….but then I am quite petty 😂

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Surely you'd have just asked them to turn it down. Rather the remove it with the costs/hassle associated with hanging it in the first place so you may have got their backs up.

Deffo report it to the council if your planning on staying though

I’m no cure why you’re taking g on other neighbours issues about the rubble. The neighbour messaged you moaning, should’ve gone directly to them. Why did you take it on?

The TV, yes try soundproofing.

I was a bit late to the party with moving bed comment!

Move it in to theirs, tell em we hear everything anyway, may as well join you. Cosy isn't it? Turn TV up.

If they're in their 70s and probably hard of hearing, that's going to be a losing battle! I have problems with hearing, sometimes worse than others but the kids used to say - are your ears bad Mum? Cos the tele is blaring! Oops.
Luckily it's in my living room backing on to the kitchen.

Could you move your bed temporarily whilst you get some sound proofing sorted?

Ugh this is my worst nightmare. Your neighbors are dickheads.

I'd move. But, I'd also really struggle with selling to someone else who then is lumbered with the same problem. I'd still do it though. Life is too short.

I would love to put up a For Sale sign up and have a really tough looking family walk around the outside of the house as though they were planning to buy it. It would scare the life out of them.

I would love to put up a For Sale sign up and have a really tough looking family walk around the outside of the house as though they were planning to buy it. It would scare the life out of them.

They also sound like total selfish dicks.

I would move to a detached. I also would not complain about the rubble whilst I was sorting out the bigger issue of sounds - pick your battles.

It is not your dream house Anymore and that’s fine.

I don't think the rubble at the front of the house is a big deal, frankly. People do have that, and more, when they are doing work on their property. Some have skips outside for ages. It may be an eyesore but so what, it won't be there forever.

The TV on the adjoining wall however is a problem and I don't blame you one bit for being peeved about it, I would. I lived in a semi for a great many years, hardly ever heard anything from my adjoining neighbours and they were a lively family.

If your neighbours have the telly on in bed at night the least they can do is lower the volume considerably and use subtitles. That would be courteous. You could suggest that.

I don't think the council, presumably you mean Environmental Health, noise nuisance section, would be able to do anything. They'd have to come round when the noise was happening and measure it with a noise meter; if over so many decibels they'd ask your neighbours to turn it down. If after that it persisted they could issue a notice but all these things take a lot of time and aren't always effective anyway. The noise nuisances they usually deal with are loud parties/illegal clubs that you can hear all the way down the street and further.

I am sorry. There are ways of soundproofing walls, not expensive but effective. I know someone who is doing that at the moment.

Good luck.

Can you move your bedroom or move the bed so it isn't against the wall. I feel for you OP, being disturbed by noise in your own home is soul destroying

Completely missing the point, what I would do to preserve my sanity in the interim is to insulate the party wall with a thin stud wall and insulation in between. A while back I watched a video of how to do it so that noise doesn’t travel through and the “trick” was to ensure the battens didn’t connect directly to wall but were broken apart with insulation. I think it was called a floating frame, but I might be making this up.

This above would make your room slightly smaller, but it might keep you sane in the interim or turn out to be a compromise.

If it was me I would put my TV on the wall as well. Then they will understand what the issue is. Call me petty I don't give a shit.

The bathroom part outside might not be their fault. When I had mine done through Wickes their builders took ages picking it up and I couldn’t have moved it myself. But agree the tv is awful on their part and selfish.

Soundproof the wall with acoustic wall panels, a lot cheaper than selling and moving