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Teaching- any other jobs that make you cry regularly?

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Whosaidthattt · 16/03/2025 00:21

I quit teaching last year, after years in a negative, toxic environment, which I thought was my fault.
Most days, I cried on the way to work, at lunchtime in a cupboard or driving home. I now see that this was the culture rather than me. It took changing a 20 year career to see this.
Is there any other job out there that has staff regularly crying before/during/after work? It's so wrong!

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Frugal24 · 18/03/2025 07:45

SparklesGlitter · 18/03/2025 05:19

And mine too ❤️

Mine too.

Frugal24 · 18/03/2025 07:44

Neverendingrain · 17/03/2025 22:21

I’m sure I read somewhere that vets are in one of the highest groups for suicide? Why though?

They have access to the drugs used to euthanise animals.

Fatloss · 18/03/2025 06:46

Neverendingrain · 17/03/2025 22:21

I’m sure I read somewhere that vets are in one of the highest groups for suicide? Why though?

You’ll have seen the reasons for the depression and low mood here. The sad answer is access - medical, pharmacy veterinary, nursing (and maybe others) have knowledge of and access to dangerous drugs.

Anyone reading this in that really dark place now please (try to) get help even just talking to someone

MHforsomeislifethreatening · 18/03/2025 06:36

Lupinslupinelady · 18/03/2025 01:32

Social Worker for children

Foster carers without support from social services. The system is in massive crisis.

MHforsomeislifethreatening · 18/03/2025 06:35

Foster care.

Low financial rates, high stress levels, violence towards foster carers, lack of resources to support traumatised young people. Young people can become adults with massive mental health issues again with little support.

Hopehope75 · 18/03/2025 06:31

Arrivals4lucky · 16/03/2025 06:49

Friend who’s a BIG lawyer at a BIG 4 firm cries everyday. Works ridiculous hours for demanding clients and has no time to spend all the money made. They’ve now sent their kids to boarding school ( for the very BEST education) because neither parent has time during the week to do any kid stuff, even with a housekeeper and nanny to hand.

Oh I find this so sad for the children 🥲 I know children can do well with boarding school, but I personally know two people who feel it had a negative impact on them mentally.

countingthedays945 · 18/03/2025 05:41

When I was a ward sister. Too much pressure and emotional load.

SparklesGlitter · 18/03/2025 05:19

Crimsonbow · 16/03/2025 07:57

Teachers who want to leave and especially those thinking of having a car accident in order to rest (also known as "the tree") - please look up "Life after Teaching - Exit the Classroom and Thrive" on Facebook. Changed my life. Possibly saved it too.

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And mine too ❤️

SparklesGlitter · 18/03/2025 05:11

AtomicBlondeRose · 16/03/2025 06:56

I’ve read quite a few books about teaching from the last 150 years or so and in all of them the teachers get emotionally involved with the life of the school and often upset about incidents. So it’s certainly not just modern teachers who are fragile little snowflakes.

Fragile little snowflakes???

SparklesGlitter · 18/03/2025 04:47

I can only speak of my personal experience (I know other jobs are hard too) but becoming a teacher was the worst decision I ever made. I’m so glad I’m out, and my hat goes off to anyone still doing it. I’ve been out nearly two years and I still have a big teaching hangover after years going in and out of feeing ok at my job, and being made to feel utterly incompetent. I got to the stage where I frightened myself with the overwhelming temptation to step in front of a car on way to work. Lowest point I think 😢

Lupinslupinelady · 18/03/2025 01:32

Social Worker for children

SurroundedByEejits · 18/03/2025 00:40

Social care. We get cr@p from everyone.

Tomorrowisnttheday · 18/03/2025 00:04

Prison officer a weirdly conflicting job dealing with dangerous, violent, manipulative individuals. Sometimes having to sit through details of the crimes they have committed. Endless verbal and physical violence aimed at you but it is your job to keep them safe. On the flip side even though these people had committed crimes they also can be very broken and often hideously abused themselves. Sometimes good people have done a bad thing that completely has ruined their lives. I cried countless times sometimes in the car to unburdened myself of the stress before I went home

Suzuki76 · 17/03/2025 23:32

Neverendingrain · 17/03/2025 22:21

I’m sure I read somewhere that vets are in one of the highest groups for suicide? Why though?

Crippling debt, long hours for poor pay, abuse from pet owners who are used to the NHS for humans and think treatment should be free out of the goodness of the vets' hearts, and almost daily euthanasia of both sick and healthy animals.

OkTrueBluered · 17/03/2025 22:57

Stepfordian · 17/03/2025 21:26

Law, the constant worry that if you make a mistake or accidentally say the wrong thing the client will complain and you’ll be investigated and fired, but also you have a caseload of twice as many clients as you should have, constant phone calls and emails to the point you can’t actually do work because you’re having to spend so much time just replying to clients to tell them what work you’ve got to do. I could easily
spend just spent my contracted 37 hours at work answering emails and I would never have a clear inbox.

Yes the constant worry of a complaint. The sick feeling of opening emails on a Monday. I once had a client email me on Christmas Day. Luckily by that stage I had drawn a very firm boundary and didn’t check.

MiniPumpkin · 17/03/2025 22:24

I’m a justice services manager. Cried twice today as the clock was ticking so fast and my firefighting hose ain’t keeping up with the demands. Im short staffed so I have crisis after crisis falling at my feet. When I don’t have enough social workers it falls to me to do the job.
the last few Fridays I could have cried driving home as another week without things getting done. I vary between this level of upset or just thinking sod it, I am only one person and cannot do anymore
nearly 5 years in management after 10 years as a social worker and now see why previous managers did not respond to emails.. because they just couldn’t! Not enough hours in the day. Driving me round the twist !!

Proudofmynane · 17/03/2025 22:21

Fast food.
Some utter gonk of a boss, that hasn't a clue expecting more speed, faster service, throw the food at people and move on. We used to have customers loving our real customer service. Now all we get is negative reviews for speeding up and achieving lower and lower times. Guess what, the shit reviews are apparently our fault too.

Neverendingrain · 17/03/2025 22:21

Arrivals4lucky · 16/03/2025 06:53

OMG. My friends DH is a vet and cries all the time, she says! Borderline suicidal but won’t leave as it’s all he’s ever done.

I’m sure I read somewhere that vets are in one of the highest groups for suicide? Why though?

pollyglot · 17/03/2025 22:19

Not sure why teachers always think they have it the worst!

I really can understand just how stressful so many jobs are. However, the thing about teaching is that few other professions have to deal with 30+ people at once, with 30+ sets of stressors/ issues. Many have hungry bellies, appalling home conditions, have been beaten/bullied at home and at school, have adolescent hormones, anger and resentment, health and sensory problems, drug issues. Many can't see the point of being there, resent the kids who can, need an outlet for their anger. There is frequently low-level disruption, deliberate noise, they lack the tools for the job, have no lunch and there's always the class clown who deliberately causes chaos. A teacher is no longer a guide, educator and role model; crowd control is their first task before any actual learning can go on. Wasted time for education, seriously disadvantaging the kids who desperately want to learn.

That's just the start.

Then there's the lack of support from SLT, so frequently a snivelling bunch of cowards who hide from their responsibilies. Teachers are judged on the exam pass rates of their pupils...and are obliged to explain themselves and what they have done wrong, should the students fail to meet the targets. Classrooms are frequently dank and unwelcoming, peeling paint and mould. No other profession would countenance having to work in such unhealthy conditions with vulnerable children. Textbooks are torn and covered with grafitti, frequently one between two, so cannot be taken home to do homework - not that it is done anyway. Many pupils have no pencils or pens, and if the teacher buys them in herself, they are not returned. I had boys, after being asked to return my pencils, simply holding them up in front of me and deliberately snapping them. This is apparently the method by which certain ethnicities show their disdain for female teachers.

There's the 3 hours of marking, planning, extra reading every evening, and most of the weekend.

There's the couple of kids who have filthy school uniforms which are never washed, appalling hygiene, noses running with green snot, and who want so much individual attention, which is almost impossible to provide. There is so little time during the day. Lunchtimes and breaktimes are for pointless meetings and duties, rather than giving help and support to the people who really need it.

I spent a term doing long-term supply in a school close to the bottom of the league tables, as the fifth long term supply teacher in a matter of months. The other four had left in tears, and the poor girl previous to me, in an ambulance following a complete breakdown. It was the 3rd term of year 11, the kids desperate to pass their GCSEs despaired of doing so, owing to the classroom environment. I simply told them that if they were prepared to work their socks off, I would do the same and we together would get them through, despite them saying "Miss, we've had all these supply teachers, we're so far behind, we'll never pass." We worked together like Trojans, lunchtimes, after school. Strangely, the school had the best pass rate in my subject in many years, and the school tried desperately to persuade me to stay on. Eventually, they were obliged to employ a teacher completely unqualified in that subject. Those poor, poor, kids.

It is an impossible and thankless task being a teacher today in very many state schools. One term in that school nearly broke me, despite my 30 years' experience.I went on to an elite private school and an environment where I could actually teach...my next GCSE class had 100% A* passes.

Frugal24 · 17/03/2025 22:10

VeraWangTea · 17/03/2025 21:49

Child protection social work. When I used to try to calculate how to crash my car on the way to work to not hurt myself or anyone else but have some time off work.

Out of it now thank God.

Awful - thank goodness you’re out now.

BobbySox71 · 17/03/2025 22:09

Prettybubblesintheair · 16/03/2025 01:16

Healthcare receptionist. Regularly shouted at for things that are out of my control, not my fault or because my hands are tied by government requirements. Do you really think I get a kick out of asking you to fill in a form, do you think it’s a hobby I do for fun? I speak to 100+ patients a day and generally repeat the same things over and over. I’m sorry your healthcare provider is running late, they aren’t even in the building yet because they can’t be arsed to get here on time but you’re right, it makes perfect sense you shout at me about it. Do you think I want you sat in the waiting room glaring at me because your appointment is late? And yes, I do understand “I do work you know, I don’t have all day”…funnily enough I also work, here in fact! I’m not here because I’ve completed Netflix and had nothing better to do. I am here, at my job, on time…would you like me to try and teleport the healthcare provider so you can have your appointment and be on your way? Because believe me, I would much, much rather you were seen on time. Yes, this provider is always late and has had several disciplinary warnings but they are still at least 45 minutes late, every day.

Next time you’re at the doctors or the dentist, please just fill in the fucking forms without arguing with reception. We know you’ve been here before, we are very well trained in which forms are required and when. And if your doctor/dentist is running late, don’t shout at the receptionist. She is there, on time, doing her job. The fact that your health care provider went to uni does not give them the right to be late, they’re not off doing something big or important. They’re grabbing a Starbucks on the way in or scrolling tik tok in the surgery.

This is me as well, stop shouting at me because your appointment is running late. It’s not my fault and I’m earning not much more than minimum wage.
The hospital I work in has an oncology ward, these patients are more humble than you.

Frugal24 · 17/03/2025 22:08

Surroundedbyfools · 17/03/2025 19:31

I’m sure there are plenty. Somehow teachers seem to think they have the hardest job in the entire world and complain constantly

I never complained - just carried on and then left with no job to go to.

VeraWangTea · 17/03/2025 21:49

Child protection social work. When I used to try to calculate how to crash my car on the way to work to not hurt myself or anyone else but have some time off work.

Out of it now thank God.

DiduAye · 17/03/2025 21:45

Palliative care

Rightsraptor · 17/03/2025 21:40

Nursing and midwifery.