To feel hurt my friend group met without me?

Did you actually reply to the poll OP stating you could make the date the event eventually took place on? If someone didn’t reply to the poll or couldn’t do the date the majority went with, I’d assume they didn’t want to come or couldn’t come. If you did reply to the poll stating you would like to come then that is out of order of them not including you.

This is likely, especially if quite a few people involved. It's difficult to find date that suits everyone

I would do this too. It’s also a way for you to go out and meet with people instead of feeling isolated and sad at home. Sorry you are going through this.

Honestly, I think you should start back up with the hobby. It sounds like a social group of convenience rather than true friendship so maybe it’s out of sight out of mind. Bex is only still involved in the social side because she’s doing the organising. Everyone loves an organiser.

How? Giving space means extending the invitation but being clear they have an easy get out and under no obligation to go. Not make someone feel excluded and paranoid about the separate group chat and meets. I'm sure you are trying to be kind to the OP but it read as a bit gaslighty to me

Eh?

You made it clear you wanted to socialise.

You suggested a movie night at yours. They said no, saying you're having a hard time. Weird response when you'd suggested it.

Then I presume you answered yes you'd attend to the bowling event poll in the group WhatsApp chat and the instigator moved making arrangements to another chat.

This is bizarre and does not sound like they're looking out for you at all when you've clearly expressed your desire to continue socialising.

However, I'd simply step away from them permanently rather than making enquiries. You'll never get to the bottom of it all.

Very hurtful and strange. Walk away.

I would make sure myself I was included next time by organising it or asking more questions. People do tend to go quiet on others when they've had a bereavement for fear of saying the wrong thing or thinkjng they need space, but it can actually be more hurtful to be left out.

I hope in this case that it was a misunderstanding, OP, and that next time you can be included.

You say you replied to the poll, but you don't say whether the date chosen was a date you voted for? Was the date chosen the one with the most votes? Did they not just choose the most popular date and then arrange it amongst those people that had voted for it?

This.
Also was it the exact same day you offered a night in at yours?
Could you not still have organised that?

Did you reply to the poll? This is key.

Do you think they might have finalised details whilst meeting to do their hobby? As opposed to having another WhatsApp group?

It would have been nice to ask her instead of doing it behind her back.. That’s the difference

You are upset so why should you need to pretend you're not? You have done nothing wrong. However, you don't know how it happened and have assumed that they think you might not afford it - until you ask you don't know. Maybe one of them said oh GlorifusT won't want to come as she's lost her job etc and the others have assumed that she/he knows what they are talking about.
I would say - it looks like you had a good time - how come I wasn't invited - did I miss a message -I would have come if I'd known

If you aren’t going to the hobby, are there conversations IRL you’re missing out on to do with socialising, do you think?

People get very jumpy around bereavement. They are so scared of saying the wrong thing, and they sometimes react like grief may be contagious.

I’m sorry you were left out. I don’t think I’d make much of an issue over being hurt about it as it might make an already a bit awkward interaction more fraught.

”Hey guys, I voted in the poll to go out to bowling that night too - I think someone forgot to add me to the WhatsApp because I didn’t know it was going ahead. Keep me in the loop for the next one please. It looked a good night. “

It hurts, I’ve been there. But this is a reflection of them, not you . Not nice what they done… start distancing yourself slightly and find better friends who deserve your company.

There’s always one mean girl. I remember my daughter introducing this girl to all her friends and then the girl played I’m best friends with all of them and it hurt my daughters feelings. Don’t introduce other friends in to your main focal group. Their is always one.

I wasn’t informed of something I’d have loved to go to a few weeks ago too ☹️.

It sucks.

But you know her better than me so j hope your real friends see her for who she really is.

I honestly don’t know if I’d give this person the satisfaction of knowing it’s bothering you. Just start making plans without her.

i totally get why you’re feeling hurt, had a very similar situation myself today.
My best friend called me this morning to say she was going away for the night, with 2 of our other friends and their other half’s. We are all good friends and socialise together, both as just the girls and as couples.
The whole thing really upset me, so now I’m sat here in bed watching cheesy hallmark movies whilst they’re all away having a good time not understanding why me and my husband weren’t invited.

Why would you not write after the photos were shown -

'Glad you all had a nice time but I knew nothing about it and would have loved to have come!'