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Is it something I said

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Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:39

Hi, I have been casually dating a guy, have been due to see him tonight but I've not heard from him from since Wednesday evening. Our last exchange was: him...'we might have to take the wine to bed and work through those condoms'
Me: 'sounds like good plan, although you might have to periodically check the condom is still on this time 🤣' (it fell off inside me last time, which I told him about). I have heard nothing since then, despite him being keen before. Have I said something to offend him? I've asked him today if he's still up for tonight but have heard nothing....🤷‍♀️

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Anchorage56 · 15/03/2025 17:50

Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:48

I've only been seeing him about once a month if that, for the last few months, but regularly texting

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Ok maybe he has found someone else

Stripytablecloth · 15/03/2025 17:50

Berlinlover · 15/03/2025 17:49

Ew, why is he rationing the condoms?

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Agree, that’s a daft thing to do really

Berlinlover · 15/03/2025 17:49

Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:45

That's definitely not what I was suggesting. And no he's not small. I think it's because he came a couple of times in the same condom

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Ew, why is he rationing the condoms?

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Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:48

Anchorage56 · 15/03/2025 17:45

How long have you been seeing him? And was it regular meet ups or just here and there?

I've only been seeing him about once a month if that, for the last few months, but regularly texting

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Anchorage56 · 15/03/2025 17:48

And why did you have to tell him the condom came off inside you 😆 surely he was aware there was no condom on his willy afterwards

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 15/03/2025 17:47

If he is that petty that he would be offended or put off by a very innocent comment, you are well rid.

I hate people who ghost, are inconsistent with communication or fade out. Just be straight up!

You have done nothing wrong, I really would ditch this one.

Diningtableornot · 15/03/2025 17:46

He's probably just changed his mind or got a better offer. He wouldn't have brought up the subjects of condoms if he was embarrassed about the falling off incident.

Theunamedcat · 15/03/2025 17:46

Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:45

That's definitely not what I was suggesting. And no he's not small. I think it's because he came a couple of times in the same condom

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Why is that a thing change it ffs

Crazycatlady79 · 15/03/2025 17:46

He might have been deterred by your buzz-kill reaponse, as it's only a casual thing?

Stripytablecloth · 15/03/2025 17:45

Or maybe he’s just an arse if he’s ignoring you for that comment! It’s fair enough to not want a condom to come off! It’s him, not you

Chuchoter · 15/03/2025 17:45

It could have been misconstrued that you were saying his cock was too small for the condom?

Anchorage56 · 15/03/2025 17:45

How long have you been seeing him? And was it regular meet ups or just here and there?

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Lilaclala · 15/03/2025 17:45

vivainsomnia · 15/03/2025 17:44

Did h take it that you think he is small in that compartment?

That's definitely not what I was suggesting. And no he's not small. I think it's because he came a couple of times in the same condom

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vivainsomnia · 15/03/2025 17:44

Did h take it that you think he is small in that compartment?

ARainyNightInSoho · 15/03/2025 17:42

It is strange to assume you have ‘offended’ him. However, it does seem clear that he’s not interested any more.

biscuitsandbooks · 15/03/2025 17:42

Sounds a bit like you killed the mood and maybe made it a bit serious?

Stripytablecloth · 15/03/2025 17:41

Why are you assuming youve done something wrong?

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