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Would you rather..house to yourself all weekend or

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 15:29

Mini break in a hotel with Dc?

We need Dd out of the house for 24-48 hrs whilst we use some chemicals for removing mould & decorating.

Choice A: One of us will do the job needed early Saturday morning..1-2 hour job, then house to themselves for the weekend. They will then have the rest of the time in peace, no one else home except for Ddog, no parenting needed, can watch Tv, order takeaway…whatever.

Choice B: One of us will drive around an hour away to a hotel near a beach with Dd, visit the beach, zoo, science museum & cafe. The room has breakfast included (can be ordered to the room) any other room service and indoor pool.

Which of these would you choose?

Dc is 6 years old

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Buttonknot · 15/03/2025 18:39

Both sound nice! If you can't decide, I'd say the person who generally sees less of DD should do B.

stayathomer · 15/03/2025 18:35

biscuitsandbooks

Neither.
I would send one parent out with DC and dog while the other did the job that needed doing, and then everyone would go away for the weekend

Id go with this too

Diningtableornot · 15/03/2025 18:34

Birdseyetrifle · 15/03/2025 18:28

It would not make a blind bit of difference. Never realised that someone can literally do fuck all 7 days a week apart from watch tv and go to the shop for food. Some weeks he doesn’t leave the house for days!!

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Oh gosh! I'd be in despair. Get a life, man!

EdnaTheWitch · 15/03/2025 18:32

A, because it’s such a rare event. And I’d love every single moment.

Birdseyetrifle · 15/03/2025 18:28

Diningtableornot · 15/03/2025 18:05

You could try spraying some toxic chemicals around on Saturday mornings?

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It would not make a blind bit of difference. Never realised that someone can literally do fuck all 7 days a week apart from watch tv and go to the shop for food. Some weeks he doesn’t leave the house for days!!

Blackbookofsmiles1 · 15/03/2025 18:23

A.

A., is the correct answer.

Ihitthetarget · 15/03/2025 18:21

Time with dc absolutely! 6 yr old are fab to spend time with.

TeamMandrake · 15/03/2025 18:18

I don't know why people are trying to solve the problem of having two amazing options to chose between, by suggesting ways to have a less nice time instead. 😂

Can you pick A, and then - oh no - decide the mould needs a second treatment, and swap and do B in a few months?

Diningtableornot · 15/03/2025 18:05

Birdseyetrifle · 15/03/2025 15:41

The house to myself.

Mind you I’m probably swayed by the fact that I have lodger that never leaves the bloody house. Absolutely hate that he doesn’t and I’m too skint to get rid of him!

You could try spraying some toxic chemicals around on Saturday mornings?

Glowinglights · 15/03/2025 17:47

I’d be completely happy with either option - so win/win. I’d check if my dp had a preference and go with that

SalfordQuays · 15/03/2025 17:42

As a single parent of teens who’s done all of it on my own for years and years, I would choose A without question. But when the kids were about 6 it would have been different. I loved doing trips with them, it was hard work but great fun. Now I just want sleep and peace, and I wouldn’t even care if I was inhaling poisonous gas!!

Booooooom · 15/03/2025 16:21

Definitely B for me. Sounds fun!

arethereanyleftatall · 15/03/2025 16:13

I’d choose A.

And that’s precisely why after my divorce, and having lived alone (albeit with my children!) for a few years thereafter, I have realised peace and solitude in my own house is my preference above anything else in the world.

biscuitsandbooks · 15/03/2025 16:11

Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 16:08

More expensive for us all to go and to put dog in kennels too at the moment unfortunately

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Then I'd do a lower cost weekend for everyone and skip the zoo and museum.

JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen · 15/03/2025 16:11

B. I’d love a treat weekend with the DC without mountains of housework.

Moveoverdarlin · 15/03/2025 16:10

A.

JaninaDuszejko · 15/03/2025 16:09

Parenting just one child during a fun trip sounds like a walk in the park but I've got three so my perspective (plus the perspective of the children) is slightly different! If it was take all 3DC away vs weekend at home I'd have the weekend at home and probably take the Friday off as well and do some DIY or something that is impossible to do with the family about.

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 16:08

biscuitsandbooks · 15/03/2025 16:07

I would still choose for the whole family to have a weekend away somewhere nice. I'd put the dog in kennels if needed.

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More expensive for us all to go and to put dog in kennels too at the moment unfortunately

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biscuitsandbooks · 15/03/2025 16:07

Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 15:56

Sorry, just to reiterate, it is only Dd who may react (i’m being very overly cautious) everyone else is absolutely fine, cleaning doesn’t pose any threat at all, just removing mould and painting

I would still choose for the whole family to have a weekend away somewhere nice. I'd put the dog in kennels if needed.

toffeeappleturnip · 15/03/2025 15:58

Hotel and trips with 6 yr old - memories and dinners cooked!
Bliss

If I stayed at home all weekend I would end up doing chores and have no memory of it 10 year later. Plan B could be photos and memories for life

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 15:56

Sorry, just to reiterate, it is only Dd who may react (i’m being very overly cautious) everyone else is absolutely fine, cleaning doesn’t pose any threat at all, just removing mould and painting

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Hatty65 · 15/03/2025 15:53

House to myself. No contest.

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopp · 15/03/2025 15:51

Jessica5678 · 15/03/2025 15:42

Neither of those.

One of us would do the job while the other took DC to the first activity, then we’d do the rest of the activities and hotel stay together if child really can’t be in the house and we were treating it like a holiday. (I appreciate that’s not necessarily feasible for everyone.) We’d both “catch up” on the household stuff together afterwards.

Or person at home would stay home and do more useful things than just a job that takes 1-2 hours - the week’s laundry, get a shop in, catch up on other house jobs, clean the bathroom etc. Would still get down time in the evening.

Basically I can’t imagine spending an entire term time weekend not doing anything more than an hour’s DIY - the laundry, shopping, cleaning, kids’ homework etc all still needs doing!

Laundry, shopping all done already by then, Dd doesn’t have homework

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Dizzybob · 15/03/2025 15:50

I’d choose B.

Seeingalight · 15/03/2025 15:50

Find a dog friendly hotel if you can't stay in the house overnight for all of you together.

Agree with pp saying the ddog shouldn't be left in the house either.