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To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

334 replies

howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

OP posts:
Teateaandmoretea · 15/03/2025 20:54

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 19:41

14 is absolutely large. And indicates at a minimum overweight unless you’re 6’2. You can kid yourself it’s not but that doesn’t alter that it is.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

The average adult IS overweight anyway.

A 14 coat is perfectly reasonable for me within the top end of green, however.

MsKirby · 15/03/2025 20:53

If your not happy with your size, do something about it

seven201 · 15/03/2025 20:49

Not over sensitive at all. I pictured a "whose coat is this? Size 16, black, from next" type comment. What you describe is just plain nasty. Designed to make you feel shit.

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 20:49

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:32

Not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot.

Someone else made a reference to a size 14. I replied. Everyone else got offended.

I think everyone is just annoyed that you are saying things that simply aren't true. To say height has nothing to do with body sizing it is ridiculous!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 15/03/2025 20:47

I must apologies for my part in this. Didn't mean to offend. Sorry.

(The quote didn't attach, but I'm sure it's easy to know the reference).

cunningartificer · 15/03/2025 20:45

Sounds like the lovely colleague I don’t regret no longer working with. I invested in a smart suit (dress for the job you want etc.) and she commented “oh that’s just like the outfit my mum wore for a wedding”. We were similar ages and I was fairly sure it wasn’t a compliment or indeed true. She was the one who also called me a nickname that I specifically asked people not to use because she “forgot”.

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 20:44

Arraminta · 15/03/2025 19:09

Shame, you could have put together a quick PowerPoint to inform us all.

In the spirit of the thread can I announce that apparently I have a very shy cervix as told to me by my midwife. Something to do with it tilting backward and slightly to one side?

Do you have to wear extra small clothes to accommodate?!😂

PonyPatter44 · 15/03/2025 20:41

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:14

Regardless UK 14 still large.

Could you just take your eating disorder somewhere else please?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:33

ModernLife1sRubbish · 15/03/2025 20:24

Didn't it all begin with the mention of the tall, skinny person who had to wear a size 14 coat because of her unusually large (but hidden) pelvis?

Ah, thank you for clarifying! These kind of threads can steer in some strange directions at times.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:32

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:22

Well height makes a different as well obviously. It's certainly not plus size, more of a medium.

Anyway why are you fixated with a UK 14?

Not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot.

Someone else made a reference to a size 14. I replied. Everyone else got offended.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 15/03/2025 20:28

Chuchoter · 15/03/2025 17:10

Or the standard retort of, "Thanks for trying to embarrass me, I can lose weight but you'll always be a bitch!'

That was what would come out of my mouth. "I might be fat, but I can lose weight. You'll always be an asshole/bitch/twat waffle/idiot."

WearyAuldWumman · 15/03/2025 20:26

Mumtobabyhavoc · 15/03/2025 20:24

@WearyAuldWumman btw tried to tag you on our calm little friendly thread, but don't think it worked.

Oh thank you. What's the name of the thread? Maybe I missed it.

ModernLife1sRubbish · 15/03/2025 20:24

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:22

Well height makes a different as well obviously. It's certainly not plus size, more of a medium.

Anyway why are you fixated with a UK 14?

Didn't it all begin with the mention of the tall, skinny person who had to wear a size 14 coat because of her unusually large (but hidden) pelvis?

Mumtobabyhavoc · 15/03/2025 20:24

@WearyAuldWumman btw tried to tag you on our calm little friendly thread, but don't think it worked.

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:22

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:18

For the most part yes. Because I’m aware there is the very rare exception of bodybuilders but let’s be honest that’s rare.

Well height makes a different as well obviously. It's certainly not plus size, more of a medium.

Anyway why are you fixated with a UK 14?

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:18

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:18

So a US 10 you're saying is large than. Is BMI included in your opinion?

For the most part yes. Because I’m aware there is the very rare exception of bodybuilders but let’s be honest that’s rare.

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:18

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:14

Regardless UK 14 still large.

So a US 10 you're saying is large than. Is BMI included in your opinion?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:16

Gonners · 15/03/2025 20:14

Are you sure that was your coat size, OP, and not your colleague's IQ?

Evidently, it's very low (an audible knock on your desk may have been appropriate at that moment op).

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:14

SemperIdem · 15/03/2025 20:04

It’s the other way around, actually.

eg a US 6 is a UK 10, a US 10 is a UK 14, a US 14 is a UK 18.

Regardless UK 14 still large.

Gonners · 15/03/2025 20:14

Are you sure that was your coat size, OP, and not your colleague's IQ?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:13

Twilight7777 · 15/03/2025 20:11

Context needed. Was it sneery or a critical comment?

A comment like that could only be used to humiliate/shame op I would have thought.

Twilight7777 · 15/03/2025 20:11

Context needed. Was it sneery or a critical comment?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:08

CavalierApproach · 15/03/2025 20:04

Isn’t it the other way round? A US 14 equates to a UK 18, I thought.

Yes, the UK are two sizes larger than America. A size 4-6 US, is size 8-10 here.

CavalierApproach · 15/03/2025 20:04

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:02

A UK 14 is a US 18.

Isn’t it the other way round? A US 14 equates to a UK 18, I thought.

SemperIdem · 15/03/2025 20:04

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:02

A UK 14 is a US 18.

It’s the other way around, actually.

eg a US 6 is a UK 10, a US 10 is a UK 14, a US 14 is a UK 18.