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To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

334 replies

howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

OP posts:
DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/03/2025 21:24

howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

She's a fucking cow bag. You know it. We know it. She even knows it. Steer as clear as you can and I would also report it to your manager. She had no right to do that to you and it is 100% bullying behaviour. Whether she is known for putting her foot in it or not is irrelevant. She needs to learn what is acceptable behaviour in an office and what isn't!

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:24

Notonthestairs · 15/03/2025 21:23

It was intended as a pejorative comment.

It doesn’t matter whether the size is obvious or not - absolutely no need to comment on a colleagues figure. Unprofessional.

The Op shouldn’t feel embarrassed.

This I agree with. It wasn’t appropriate. It was also bloody weird.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:23

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:22

Except it isn't. And you are making negative assertions about it being large and therefore people that size are overweight. So I am glad you accept you are making bitchy remarks - just like the OP's delightful colleague.

People who are a size 14 are likely large and likely overweight. Just like those who are a size 0 are likely thin and underweight. It is what it is.

Notonthestairs · 15/03/2025 21:23

It was intended as a pejorative comment.

It doesn’t matter whether the size is obvious or not - absolutely no need to comment on a colleagues figure. Unprofessional.

The Op shouldn’t feel embarrassed.

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:22

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:19

Except it is. And it’s only bitchy if you’re applying negative associations with being overweight.

Except it isn't. And you are making negative assertions about it being large and therefore people that size are overweight. So I am glad you accept you are making bitchy remarks - just like the OP's delightful colleague.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:21

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:15

The original poster was fatshamed by a horrible colleague. You likewise are fatshaming people for being a size 14 which is 4 sizes smaller than OP when size 14 is not a large size and doesn't become one just because you keep saying it is.

All I’ve said is that being a size 14 indicates you’re likely overweight. I’ve actually said nothing negative. That’s your connection not mine.

Theywerebrilliant · 15/03/2025 21:21

TallAndSkinnyWithAnUnusuallyLargePelvis · 15/03/2025 21:06

How dare you.

I had to do a second take at your post!

WearyAuldWumman · 15/03/2025 21:20

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:18

No. Your kind of thinking is what causes disordered eating and a nationwide obesity problem. 14 is very rarely anything that other than overweight.

Ah...I think that I've seen your posts elsewhere, being needlessly provocative. I shan't bother to respond further.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:19

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:11

Except it isn't. Just to bitchy people looking to fatshame someone.

Except it is. And it’s only bitchy if you’re applying negative associations with being overweight.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:18

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 15/03/2025 21:09

This is absolute nonsense. A size 14 doesn’t indicate you’re overweight - you have to factor in bone structure and shape. You also have to factor in that a size 14 from one manufacturer may differ from another. This is the kind of thing that causes eating disorders.

No. Your kind of thinking is what causes disordered eating and a nationwide obesity problem. 14 is very rarely anything that other than overweight.

WearyAuldWumman · 15/03/2025 21:16

As a teenager, I was a UK size 14. Height went from 5ft7 to nearly 5ft9 once my growth stopped. My weight was mainly 9st 2lbs(At one point I dieted down to 8st 10lb and there were fears that I was heading for anorexia.) I certainly wasn't overweight.

https://www.nhs.uk/health-assessment-tools/calculate-your-body-mass-index/calculate-bmi-for-children-teenagers/result

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:15

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:32

Not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot.

Someone else made a reference to a size 14. I replied. Everyone else got offended.

The original poster was fatshamed by a horrible colleague. You likewise are fatshaming people for being a size 14 which is 4 sizes smaller than OP when size 14 is not a large size and doesn't become one just because you keep saying it is.

BigBoden · 15/03/2025 21:15

It was mean. I am a 32F
No one says who owns this tiny size 8 coat…
I could wear an 8 but firmly in size 12 for my girls.

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:11

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:14

Regardless UK 14 still large.

Except it isn't. Just to bitchy people looking to fatshame someone.

greengreyblue · 15/03/2025 21:10

Depends totally on the context.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 15/03/2025 21:09

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 19:41

14 is absolutely large. And indicates at a minimum overweight unless you’re 6’2. You can kid yourself it’s not but that doesn’t alter that it is.

This is absolute nonsense. A size 14 doesn’t indicate you’re overweight - you have to factor in bone structure and shape. You also have to factor in that a size 14 from one manufacturer may differ from another. This is the kind of thing that causes eating disorders.

Teateaandmoretea · 15/03/2025 21:07

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:56

(Eyeballs DH), to see if he's a UK size 14 😂

In his dreams

TallAndSkinnyWithAnUnusuallyLargePelvis · 15/03/2025 21:06

PointsSouth · 15/03/2025 17:41

Well, you can't tell. But I suspect that that's when you look at her from the side. Straight on, it must be obvious.

She must be a school crossing lady.

(Yes, happy to concede that I'm having much too much fun with this. My excuse is that I have a fuck of a lot of important and lucrative work to do, and we all know how that goes.)

How dare you.

JHound · 15/03/2025 21:00

MsKirby · 15/03/2025 20:53

If your not happy with your size, do something about it

What a silly statement.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 15/03/2025 21:00

MsKirby · 15/03/2025 20:53

If your not happy with your size, do something about it

Are you the colleague ?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 21:00

MsKirby · 15/03/2025 20:53

If your not happy with your size, do something about it

Whose unhappy with their size? The thread is about being unhappy with a colleague from hell.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:59

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 20:49

I think everyone is just annoyed that you are saying things that simply aren't true. To say height has nothing to do with body sizing it is ridiculous!

Where have I said anywhere that height is nothing to do with body sizing? Please don’t try to undermine with blatant lying.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:58

PonyPatter44 · 15/03/2025 20:41

Could you just take your eating disorder somewhere else please?

What? Recognising what is a healthy weight and size now equates to an eating disorder? Don’t be ridiculous.

JHound · 15/03/2025 20:57

Your colleague sounds like a See You Next Tuesday. What possible reason do they have to do that?

LiveinHarmony · 15/03/2025 20:56

Teateaandmoretea · 15/03/2025 20:54

🤣🤣🤣🤣

The average adult IS overweight anyway.

A 14 coat is perfectly reasonable for me within the top end of green, however.

(Eyeballs DH), to see if he's a UK size 14 😂