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To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

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howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

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OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:36

ModernLife1sRubbish · 15/03/2025 16:01

I'm straying from the original post, I know, but I'm intrigued by the woman with the 'unusually large pelvis'. How do you even know that about someone?

Back on topic, as others have said, it all depends on the context.

I worked with her. None of us believed she was a size 14 until she showed us and then ‘showed’ her pelvis through her clothes, it is much bigger than average but you can’t see it to look at her.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 22:04

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Ah so you’re accusing me of fat shaming whilst fat shaming whilst being ableist? Nicely done!

DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/03/2025 22:00

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What’s wrong with being large? The OP is large. So what? She knows that? Why is that considered negative? And what’s with people like you thinking it’s ok to come onto the post of someone like this and make out like being called large is the worst thing in the world? It’s people like YOU who are the problem. You’re the ones who are making large to be negative. I just said what it is. Entirely neutrally and all sorts of weird assumptions have been made from a place of judgment that was not mine.

Her colleague is a dick. Because it’s never ok to comment on people’s appearances negatively or make snidey comments. Not because the OP is large.

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Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:43

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:42

Is that UK or US 14?

UK. I’m not familiar with US measurements - clearly.

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:42

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:42

Already been cleared up. Doesn’t alter that size 14 is still consistent with being overweight.

The irony of all these people screaming about fat shaming whilst actively fat shaming because someone dared to call someone large. So what? What’s the big deal if size 14 is large? Why is that such a terrible thing to suggest?

Is that uk 14 or is 14?

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:42

aliasname · 15/03/2025 21:39

Ritzybitzy is clearly confused about UK sizing, as it’s obvious from their post about ‘size 0’ which we don’t have here.

a size 14 would be an American/Canadian size 10.

Already been cleared up. Doesn’t alter that size 14 is still consistent with being overweight.

The irony of all these people screaming about fat shaming whilst actively fat shaming because someone dared to call someone large. So what? What’s the big deal if size 14 is large? Why is that such a terrible thing to suggest?

EveryOtherNameTaken · 15/03/2025 21:42

If you"re a certain size that's what you are. Sounds like you are offended by your size, nobody else cares.

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:42

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:40

Look it up. The dimensions of a size 14 are consistent with the two key measures for being overweight. Waist size and bmi. There will be an exception for very tall women but that’s not the norm so it’s tedious factor to bring into it. It’s like saying size 4 isn’t thin because some women are 4’10.

Is that UK or US 14?

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:40

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 21:37

Where do you get this data from?

Look it up. The dimensions of a size 14 are consistent with the two key measures for being overweight. Waist size and bmi. There will be an exception for very tall women but that’s not the norm so it’s tedious factor to bring into it. It’s like saying size 4 isn’t thin because some women are 4’10.

aliasname · 15/03/2025 21:39

Ritzybitzy is clearly confused about UK sizing, as it’s obvious from their post about ‘size 0’ which we don’t have here.

a size 14 would be an American/Canadian size 10.

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:38

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:36

The average adult is overweight 😂😂

The average adult knows the difference between US sizes and UK sizes.

🤷‍♀️

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 21:37

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:35

Er.., try again… not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot. A disclaimer that height doesn’t indeed impact, but in the case of a size 14 unless you’ve cleared 6 foot you’re still likely overweight. That does not say height is irrelevant. Quite the opposite.

Where do you get this data from?

Lucyccfc68 · 15/03/2025 21:37

Tgfh · 15/03/2025 17:11

Really rude and inappropriate.
Body shaming you in front of colleagues?
Report her to HR.
She deserves to be officially warned to STFU.

I wish people wouldn’t say ‘report to HR’

Managers are there to manage and would deal with a situation like this (that is exactly what a manager is paid for). If the manager is not sure of the process of dealing with a situation like this, then they ask HR for advice and guidance. HR are not there to ‘manage’ people - that’s what managers do.

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:36

DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/03/2025 21:34

Is it fuck! The average size in the UK is a 16.

The average adult is overweight 😂😂

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:35

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 21:33

Blatant lying!! -thats you!

LiveinHarmony · Today 20:22
Well height makes a different as well obviously.

Ritzybitzy · Today 20:32
Not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot

Er.., try again… not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot. A disclaimer that height doesn’t indeed impact, but in the case of a size 14 unless you’ve cleared 6 foot you’re still likely overweight. That does not say height is irrelevant. Quite the opposite.

DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/03/2025 21:34

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:14

Regardless UK 14 still large.

Is it fuck! The average size in the UK is a 16.

MyLimeGuide · 15/03/2025 21:33

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:59

Where have I said anywhere that height is nothing to do with body sizing? Please don’t try to undermine with blatant lying.

Blatant lying!! -thats you!

LiveinHarmony · Today 20:22
Well height makes a different as well obviously.

Ritzybitzy · Today 20:32
Not really unless you’ve cleared 6 foot

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:32

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:28

Indeed you are. I never said otherwise.

Are you drinking? You’ve come across very silly and I’d say inebriated on your posts

pimplebum · 15/03/2025 21:30

Why is being a size x embarrassing? Can we stop this sexist sizist shite !
you wouldn’t be embarrassed if someone shouted out your shoe size or ring size

be part of the solution not part of the problem

“ yoohoo ! Yep that’s my cost ! Thank you darling I love that coat”

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:30

BeaLola · 15/03/2025 19:53

Could be worse OP, I was at work the other week and a colleague commented on the dress that I was wearing and saying how nice she thought I looked in iit and how much she liked it , where was it from .. I duly answered only for one of my other colleagues to say very loudly " really I thought they only went up to a 22 ".... xx

I’ll give you an alibi, DM me.

Bitofanchange · 15/03/2025 21:28

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 20:02

A UK 14 is a US 18.

Are you drunk? Or just silly?

You’ve got it all wrong!

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:28

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:24

And you are what you are - plain and simple for all to see.

Edited

Indeed you are. I never said otherwise.

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 21:24

Ritzybitzy · 15/03/2025 21:23

People who are a size 14 are likely large and likely overweight. Just like those who are a size 0 are likely thin and underweight. It is what it is.

And you are what you are - plain and simple for all to see.