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To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

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howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

OP posts:
Teateaandmoretea · 16/03/2025 19:09

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 17:47

Which I stated in previous comments.

The reality is if you look at the size dimensions of a person who is wearing size 14 clothes they score unhealthy in waist measurements and the average weight of that person falls firmly into overweight. Those are the facts. There will be isolated exceptions but I also stated that.

I don’t have an odd obsession. I made a statement and overly sensitive hypocrites are up in arms because it’s clearly fine to be overweight or large but how dare anyone suggest they are. The horror.

You really do have an odd obsession. Re- read your posts.

The average adult will have an unhealthy waist measurement so handwringing over this making them ‘large’ is weird.

Lovehascomeandgone · 16/03/2025 18:09

I wouldn’t be happy either OP, totally inappropriate

CleaningAngel · 16/03/2025 17:47

howemb · 15/03/2025 15:19

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

Surely if you're a size 22 it's not a secret you're big

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 17:47

Teateaandmoretea · 16/03/2025 17:34

Whether you are healthy or not isnt defined by a number in your clothes. I’m not sure your odd obsession with people who are size 14 is healthy either, however.

If you’re tall it’s a totally possible to wear size 14 clothes and be in a normal weight range, believe me.

Which I stated in previous comments.

The reality is if you look at the size dimensions of a person who is wearing size 14 clothes they score unhealthy in waist measurements and the average weight of that person falls firmly into overweight. Those are the facts. There will be isolated exceptions but I also stated that.

I don’t have an odd obsession. I made a statement and overly sensitive hypocrites are up in arms because it’s clearly fine to be overweight or large but how dare anyone suggest they are. The horror.

greengreyblue · 16/03/2025 17:43

Teateaandmoretea · 16/03/2025 17:34

Whether you are healthy or not isnt defined by a number in your clothes. I’m not sure your odd obsession with people who are size 14 is healthy either, however.

If you’re tall it’s a totally possible to wear size 14 clothes and be in a normal weight range, believe me.

Hmmmm not sure about that. Statistics will show that the more overweight you are, the rate of morbidity and disease rises . You can’t escape that fact.

Bitofanchange · 16/03/2025 17:40

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 16:04

Which doctors have claimed that size 14 is a healthy weight?

Oh dear….

You’re getting embarrassing now 🙈

Teateaandmoretea · 16/03/2025 17:34

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 16:04

Which doctors have claimed that size 14 is a healthy weight?

Whether you are healthy or not isnt defined by a number in your clothes. I’m not sure your odd obsession with people who are size 14 is healthy either, however.

If you’re tall it’s a totally possible to wear size 14 clothes and be in a normal weight range, believe me.

Theywerebrilliant · 16/03/2025 17:31

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 16:04

Which doctors have claimed that size 14 is a healthy weight?

omg you're obsessed ....

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 16:04

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 15:38

Lol no!! But you are saying you know more (or different) to doctors, so I thought you might be to justify your reasoning. Maybe fitness coach? Professional personal trainer?? Nutritionist?

Which doctors have claimed that size 14 is a healthy weight?

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 15:38

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 13:25

Are you?

Lol no!! But you are saying you know more (or different) to doctors, so I thought you might be to justify your reasoning. Maybe fitness coach? Professional personal trainer?? Nutritionist?

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 13:25

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 13:17

Are you a medical professional?

Are you?

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 13:17

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 13:16

She’s just told me her BMI so it’s easy in her case and actually she is the perfect example. I actually don’t believe you’re healthy at that size.

Are you a medical professional?

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 13:16

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 13:07

How can you tell if someone has a healthy BMI from your dress size? Very weird posts from you ritzy bitchy, I have been size 14 most of my adult life, whenever weighed by a medical professional for various reasons i was always told I was exactly a healthy weight, im also on the healthy weight section in that old fashioned height to weight graph, i was size 14 when i did IVF and HAD to be a healthy weight to get this treatment - were all those doctors actually lying to me??? Or maybe they took a liking to me, felt sorry for me, thought they'd let this large overweight woman have her baby!!

She’s just told me her BMI so it’s easy in her case and actually she is the perfect example. I actually don’t believe you’re healthy at that size.

howdoyoudooooo · 16/03/2025 13:16

OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:36

I worked with her. None of us believed she was a size 14 until she showed us and then ‘showed’ her pelvis through her clothes, it is much bigger than average but you can’t see it to look at her.

Did you need xray glasses? I’m still intrigued as to how this all played out 😂

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 13:07

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 12:48

You’ve got a healthy BMI at 8-10. Clearly if you were size 14 you would not.

How can you tell if someone has a healthy BMI from your dress size? Very weird posts from you ritzy bitchy, I have been size 14 most of my adult life, whenever weighed by a medical professional for various reasons i was always told I was exactly a healthy weight, im also on the healthy weight section in that old fashioned height to weight graph, i was size 14 when i did IVF and HAD to be a healthy weight to get this treatment - were all those doctors actually lying to me??? Or maybe they took a liking to me, felt sorry for me, thought they'd let this large overweight woman have her baby!!

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 12:48

LiveinHarmony · 16/03/2025 10:31

@Ritzybitzy well I'm a UK size 8-10, bmi of 22, and I wouldn't class a UK 14 as "large."
I appreciate that you're entitled to your opinion but I, and others do not have to agree with it. And yes "commenting on appearance" is never okay. Labels such as "skinny", and "large", are inappropriate and unnecessary 'IMO.'

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You’ve got a healthy BMI at 8-10. Clearly if you were size 14 you would not.

LiveinHarmony · 16/03/2025 10:31

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 09:45

I hope you’re not referring to me with that comment because I am not. What there actually is some overly insensitive overweight women who are happy to call out someone for fat shaming a size 22 whilst simultaneously demonising being overweight with their how dare you suggest 14 is large nonsense.

Commenting on people’s appearance is never ok when done to be unkind but that doesn’t alter if you’re large you’re large whether anyone points it out or not.

@Ritzybitzy well I'm a UK size 8-10, bmi of 22, and I wouldn't class a UK 14 as "large."
I appreciate that you're entitled to your opinion but I, and others do not have to agree with it. And yes "commenting on appearance" is never okay. Labels such as "skinny", and "large", are inappropriate and unnecessary 'IMO.'

5128gap · 16/03/2025 09:49

OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:43

I never once said that! You’re twisting my words to fit your own narrative. I said she was VERY THIN then discovered she was size 14, which is not very thin. I never once said nor implied size 14 was ‘big’ or anything like that! She just was incredibly thin, so we would’ve put her at around size 8/10 max.
Id bloody love to be a size 14! 🤣

A person who is a size 14 can't possibly look like they're a size 8. Your colleague is slim, but obviously also of bigger build so while her mass may not be made of fat, but of...pelvis..? its still there taking up more space than the mass of a woman who can fit into a size 8. If you stood her next to a size 8 woman you'd see her body was larger. Not inferior. Not fatter. But larger.

Ritzybitzy · 16/03/2025 09:45

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 09:41

What a horrible thing to say, I bet you wouldn't have the guts to say that to someone face to face, there's some cowardly bullying going on on this thread.

I hope you’re not referring to me with that comment because I am not. What there actually is some overly insensitive overweight women who are happy to call out someone for fat shaming a size 22 whilst simultaneously demonising being overweight with their how dare you suggest 14 is large nonsense.

Commenting on people’s appearance is never ok when done to be unkind but that doesn’t alter if you’re large you’re large whether anyone points it out or not.

MyLimeGuide · 16/03/2025 09:41

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What a horrible thing to say, I bet you wouldn't have the guts to say that to someone face to face, there's some cowardly bullying going on on this thread.

greengreyblue · 16/03/2025 08:41

Your colleague sounds like a knob op. Nobody will be surprised by your size, they work with you and see you.

FurFangsPawsAndClaws · 16/03/2025 03:36

SherlockHomies · 15/03/2025 15:34

I'm convinced they do it just to up the post count.

Ridiculous really.

I think it’s because if you write more than a few sentences on a post some people say “I’m not reading all that OP!”

BeDeepKoala · 16/03/2025 03:19

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OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:43

Spirallingdownwards · 15/03/2025 16:59

But you are saying this as though a size 14 is big? Which makes you sound just as judgy.

I never once said that! You’re twisting my words to fit your own narrative. I said she was VERY THIN then discovered she was size 14, which is not very thin. I never once said nor implied size 14 was ‘big’ or anything like that! She just was incredibly thin, so we would’ve put her at around size 8/10 max.
Id bloody love to be a size 14! 🤣

OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:40

FiveTreeHill · 15/03/2025 16:32

But your opinion on what size her body is isn't going to change knowing she wears a size 14 coat.

You can see how big people are when you look at them. Knowing they have at some point bought a coat that's a size 16 or whatever doesn't affect your knowledge of how big they are.

Ohhh so we’re pretending not to realise why someone who is a bigger size might not like the entire office knowing quite how big? Righty oh. Well you can’t play make believe but as a larger woman myself I’m not even entering into that nonsense. Anyone with any critical thinking ability, already knows precisely why.