To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

Wrong about what?

You are absolutely obsessed- and wrong, as EVERYONE on this thread keeps telling you, but you just repeat your ideas over and over. You either just love winding people up (in a really immature way) or you are crazy, or dumb?

She is actually a smaller size than you say . She buys clothes very seldom so doesn’t spend half of her life cutting labels out of things . We also live in the same house so it makes life easier if her and my underwear are easily recognisable.
Anyway it’s not hurting anyone else so there is no need to judge .

I agree. Cutting the labels out of her clothes was pointless and also classic 'displacement activity' too. No doubt her colleagues could already see that she was very overweight, so whether she was actually a size 20 or a size 24 is neither here nor there.

This is the kinda thing that’s silly though, I don’t mean it offensive but instead of cutting labels why not just calories or food intake? I’m sure she wouldn’t be embarrassed if someone saw a size 10 label so instead of being like that over labels just do something about it for her own health and happiness.

Being angry at someone else for mentioning the size you actually are is a bit silly, no there is no reason to comment on anyone’s size I fully agree, but at the same time if it’s so embarrassing then do something about it. Saying the size out loud isn’t going to be a shock to anyone that was under the illusion you were 6 sizes smaller? People can see you and your weight?

Ok, it was rude and tactless, but to put it in perspective..
people can see you and nobody is shocked thinking you were a size 8.
In addition.. uk clothes sizes are shockingly inconsistent, .. I have sizes, 12 14 16 and 18 which all fit fine.

It's just a label, and it doesn't change you in the slightest.

Don't stress it

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In my workplace the dignity at work policy would be used to call her out and an apology would be expected.
At 5ft 1 my sizes will range from 10 to 16 so I certainly don't agree that certain sizes denote obesity. A dignity at work policy protects and allows an opportunity for reflection when it is breached.

It’s not about the size of the individual, though.

I have a colleague who also suffers from “foot in mouth” syndrome and no, I don’t tolerate it.

Comments about how much I eat, how she couldn’t eat that much ever in one go, how tiny her wrists are compared to mine. Whilst I was pregnant it was “you look massive/round/portly” and so on.

For reference, I’m a size 8-10 and about 5 inches taller than her. So regardless of me being “slim”, I am just bigger than she is.

Not being a complete twat, I don’t make snide comments in return about her age and the menopause. But I could do. I don’t because it is profoundly unprofessional to make personal comments in the workplace.

That's awful.

Do you think she may have an eating disorder that you're unaware of?

I can't see any other reason for her going through all her underwear, clothes and coats with a scissors?

I’m going to be the one to say it.. if people are so embarrassed about their size then why not do something about it? Yes there is absolutely no reason for another person to comment on anyone else’s size, but if something like people knowing size bothers you there’s only one person who can fix that.

My lovely DD is a nurse and she cuts all labels out of her clothes , including underwear and coats , in case she gets run over and is taken to hospital.😂. She would hate it if her colleagues had to undress her and saw her sizing !
She has been doing this for about 20 years and has only been admitted to her hospital once and that was with Covid and she was glad her clothes were label free .

Unless you work in an office where everyone is blind I can’t see what difference it’s made to anything.

Only I haven’t lied. What I said is that a size 14 is large. That’s an opinion and you cannot tell me I’m wrong.

I also said most people who are that size are generally overweight and at risk of weight related health conditions. That is a fact.

You're free to believe anything you like and post about it a dozen times or more in a thread that has nothing to do with the actual topic you're discussing.

But when you lie, and spout factually incorrect information and generally act like a gobshite, people will respond, especially if they're personally affected by what you wrote, i.e. you call them a liar and insist they're unhealthy.

I'm happy to leave the debate alone now because your lies and misinformation have been exposed and you had no comeback other than to retreat to 'well I believe it and you can't change my mind'. People can see you for what you are now..

I am also a 22 and I would have been mortified if someone made that comment to me. However they probably don’t see anything wrong it what they have said.

Do you know the easiest way to stop a person engaging in a discussion with you? Stop engaging with them.

you can keep on all you want but you are not going to change my view. 14 is large. It is almost always overweight. And is not reflective of a healthy body shape. And so what? Why are you on the the thread of a size 22 woman screaming with horror at the suggestion of being large? It’s weird.

I was more bothered when at my busy hairdressers one of the young trainees picked up my coat from their cloakroom to give to another woman same size and height as myself.
She pulled a face and said “ oh no that’s not mine 😟 yes mine is a green warm quilted coat but not that one ugh “
The trainee apologised and got this customer her far superior coat for her 🙄

I wouldn't be very happy, mostly because of the 2nd part of the comment- I would be tempted to say to her that maybe she should not being so judgemental in public if she doesn't want people to dislike her, being famed for putting your foot in your mouth doesn't really excuse anything, she should have learned this over time- and it is possible that she promotes herself as being someone who often makes inappropriate comment by accident because she likes doing it and won't learn because she doesn't want to.

Maybe her mum struggles to find nice coats to fit and when she saw a nice coat in her mums size she said 'ooh size 22 that'd fit my mum' without thinking it could be taken the wrong way. Not everyone would think being a size 22 was something to be embarrassed about.

No, YOU are lying and YOU don't know what you're talking about.

Go and look at the size chart for Cos - I picked that brand at random as an example. Size 14 is 80cm waist. General health advice is that your waist should be less than half your height, 160cm is 5'3. So, even if you're thick rigid enough to think that people choose a size solely on their waist measurement, you're still wrong, by a LOT.

Wrong.
Lying.
And wrong.

Can you please shut up now?

I'm a size 16, and my BMI hovers between 24.5 and 25, so at size14 I would most definitely not be overweight. I'm not 6ft2 either.

Your follow up comment makes me think, yes she’s really nasty. That comment made to embarrass and/or hurt.

What business was it of the colleague?

Yeah she was rude as fuck.

She sounds nasty.

Honestly you’re lying or an unusual exception. And if you are a healthy bmi I suggest checking your waist ratio because the dimensions of a size 14 put you at increased risk of weight related health issues. It is true. Whether you or others like it or not.