To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

Fascinated about the unusually large pelvis that fits inside her teeny tiny frame, yet requires a larger coat...😆

Can someone explain what is bad about a coat size?
I think I'm missing something.

Agree this is very intriguing!!! If her pelvis is so large why isn’t it noticeable?!

I think you are probably being over sensitive and people will be able to roughly estimate your size anyway even if maybe not 100% accurately.

@OldCottageGreenhouse I know a tall and very thin woman who is a size 14 because she has an unusually large pelvis which isn’t visible from looking at her.

If you can't tell by looking at her, in what sense is her pelvis 'unusually large'?

And, even more intriguing, if you can't tell by looking at her, how do you know that her pelvis is unusually large? Was it one of those teambuilding things, where you have to share something surprising about yourself?

"Hi. I'm Terry. On weekends, I drive a miniature train."

"What fun, Terry! Anna?"

"Hello - my name's Anna. I once made a Victoria sponge that was served to Princess Eugenie."

"That's awesome, Anna! Liz?"

"Hiya, everyone. I'm Lizzie, and I have an unusually large pelvis."

"God, really, Lizzie? Cos you can't tell by looking at you. What size is your coat?"

Context needed obviously, but if it was done specifically to embarrass you - perhaps because you’re on the larger side - then it’s bullying. So no, in that scenario you are not being unreasonable and they could land in a lot of trouble if it continues.

...well..I dunno....maybe...I mean, I might agree with you on that but...er....could you give us a bit more to go on?

This is why people need to write their names in their coats, like we did at school 😀

I'm straying from the original post, I know, but I'm intrigued by the woman with the 'unusually large pelvis'. How do you even know that about someone?

Back on topic, as others have said, it all depends on the context.

Come back op; I’m bored so getting over invested in MN threads.

It seems likely it was an unnecessary thing to do. Even if there were two very similar coats together, it would be more usual to say “the coat from x?” to differentiate rather than the size.

Impossible to say without all the details.

Depends how it was done. If 2 people have the same coat and she was saying this one is size x to help determine who's it is then there's nothing wrong with that. Announcing to the office so and so is size x, unnecessary and probably done with the intent to embarrass you.

Why would anyone do this? Context is definitely needed.

Was it done in a way that was intended to provoke, upset or demean you? Or in a 'whose coat is this - Hobbs size 16 ? " enquiring way ?

It's about the intention behind the statement - and we have no idea what that was.

Gobsmacked at these responses, I’d be furious! There’s no way of knowing for sure what somebody’s size is from looking at them, that’s nonsense! I know a tall and very thin woman who is a size 14 because she has an unusually large pelvis which isn’t visible from looking at her.

OP, I’d be putting in a complaint. People can roll their eyes all they like but this is that sort of low-level bullying that goes under the radar as it’s small enough on it’s own to look petty to others if you say anything, but actually it’s cumulative and is, in reality, insidious when it’s an ongoing pattern. I’ve been there.

I had a manager who did this shit. Lots & lots of little things, daily, which were never big enough alone for me to look anything other than a daft cow for complaining about it. Had me dreading work in end. I never got him disciplined but wish I had from the start, regardless of how ‘ridiculous’ some thought I was being.

You haven’t said whether this is part of a pattern of behaviour from them but if it is, please nip it in the bud.

Personally, I would think a person doing that was a bit of a twat.
I am a size 20/22, yes people have eyes but sometimes I try and delude myself that 'I carry it well' so I might look like a size 18🤣
I assume the OP is on the larger side as I can't imagine any sizes 8-10 would be mortified if someone mentioned their coat size.

I would find it a weird thing to do.

Whether she called out age 12 or size 20, does it matter ?

I'm convinced they do it just to up the post count.

Ridiculous really.

YABU. Because colleagues can see your size anyway. If you’re obese they’re hardly going to be shocked if you’re a size 22, if you’re skinny they won’t bad an eyelid if you’re an 8, and if you’re somewhere in between then they really care a lot less than you think.

Other people don’t think about you as much as you think about you. I’d move on, and if you’re embarrassed by your size, that’s a you problem.

There should be a rule that all context of a situation is put on the first post. Sick of threads you have to hang around to find out what the situation was. It happens here all the time.

Well who knows, apart from the OP who couldn't be arsed to tell us 😬🤣

Dépends on the context and how it was said.
'whose coat is it? Black m&s size x' Vs 'i can't believe you are a size X'

People have eyes, so Yabu.

I would feel embarrassed too OP.

It might be part of a uniform where size is the only differentiator but we can make up outlr own scenarios while we wait for more info 😁