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If you own an X-L Bully (or similar breed) why did you get it?

154 replies

Kinut · 15/03/2025 15:11

I’m not trying to cause a pile on, I’m genuinely curious to hear from owners on here.

I would guess the vast majority of owners on Mumsnet consider themselves responsible owners and their dog to be no threat. I often see it said that the dog is harmless/more likely to lick you to death/soft/great with the kids etc. but why did you opt for that breed?

You obviously wanted a family pet, and obviously care about the safety of yourself and loved ones, and you didn’t want a guard dog or to intimidate the public.

So why opt for a bully type and not another large dog with less surrounding controversy and innate risk? As I say, I don’t want a raft of insults towards owners, Im just curious as to why otherwise normal and responsible owners opt for these breeds?

OP posts:
crumblingschools · 15/03/2025 15:40

But surely most people know a strong dog like that can cause hideous issues and so are a huge risk, no matter how well trained.

idontunderstandyou · 15/03/2025 15:37

I think most people who have them got them before there was as much controversy around them.

Ilovelurchers · 15/03/2025 15:36

My friend got hers (she has two which she got at the same time as puppies because her old dog had died recently and she had looked after some XLs before for a family member and liked the breed personality. (Her dogs are clever and funny). She does regret it now I think, as all the restrictions obviously add additional challenges to ownership. But she does seem to love and enjoy her dogs. They would not be my choice. But she is not a bad person, and certainly did not get them for any nefarious reasons.

WiddlinDiddlin · 15/03/2025 15:30

I don't have one, I don't have a suitable house or the physical skills now, though I've met several when I worked in rescue who were fantastic dogs, really keen to learn, eager to please, comical etc etc.

I do have two colleagues (both qualified dog behaviourists) who have them.

Neither have kids nor intend to.
Both have a ton of experience with big bully breeds from working in/with rescues in areas where thats the predominant type handed in.
Both have homes with a lot of securely fenced land, and few visitors.
Both foster dogs for rescue and in each case, these dogs are 'failed' fosters, staying because the human fell in love and wanted to keep them.

Not all the owners of big bully breeds get them because they are big bully breeds, or they want to intimidate people etc etc. I suspect people like my colleagues are pretty rare though! A drop in the ocean vs the people who get breeds for entirely the wrong reasons.

Neither colleague walks their dogs in public, they are exercised at home or at the various secure dog fields, training venues etc local to them and as they're both trainers/behaviourists, that means their dogs get to do far far more than the average member of the publics dog would. This is more to do with avoiding aggro from MoP than fear for other peoples safety though!

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