DH refusing to help out

You need to learn to drive or move somewhere closer to shops etc.

And if there is a physical reason… why the heck did you move to somewhere isolated?!

So your DH offered to take you twice and you were stroppy about it?

Grow up and learn to drive!

Why don’t you drive? Is it a physical reason you can’t? If not then YABVU to expect him to be a chauffeur at your beck and call

Like something out of the AIBU handbook really isn't it. Check check check.

Presume you haven’t read my posts on here @ConnieSlow just ploughed in like a bull in a china shop 😂

They’re both as bad as each other

Shit show of poor decisions

Spot the man hater!

he’s the twat here?

Unless you have a disability that means you cannot operate a vehicle then the onus is you go learn to drive and stop expecting him to be your chauffeur.

Op shuffled off as soon as realised we weren’t giving her the responses she expected

Your whole situation is messed up. Don’t live in isolated areas if it makes you dependent on a driver. Don’t do the majority of the housework. Don’t sulk. Don’t order stuff to be picked up from a place you can’t get to under your own steam.

Obviously there is a huge backstory which no doubt you will reveal in subsequent posts but the whole situation is set up to fail.

I don’t actually think your title is correct. He offered twice to help you and you refused his help and chose to sulk instead.

He offered to take you a couple of times but you refused, that's on you completely.
You need to learn to drive, why the fuck would you move to an isolated area if you can't? I'd be pissed off at doing all the driving too.

That’s actually a good point about the sulking and manipulative behaviour being abusive. You need to stop that OP. Twat or not your husband is right to stamp that shit out.

You are not being unreasonable in expecting part of his contribution to the household to be to run errands as he drives. You are being unreasonable to not use public transport (if available). You are being unreasonable to tell him no two weeks on the trot then ask on the third week. He’s doing you the task here,

Why don’t you drive?

If it’s disability/medical related then fair enough, but even so, it’s a lot to expect of DH to drive all the time.

If not, you absolutely need to learn.

Do you have kids?

Why do you do most of the housework?

I wouldn’t mind driving my DH places sometimes but there’s no way I would be chauffeuring someone around constantly, especially when the weekends are the only time I get to not drive and relax or do something fun.

Why can’t you get public transport?

I asked DH if he could take me and he refused. He said he asked me three times over the previous two weekends and I had said no, so he was t prepared to take me.

He's quite right.
Why on earth do you think he should ? (or have the cheek to ask your friend) ??

Why were you sulking for 2 weeks ? How immature is that ?

I don't know which way round it is in terms of you choosing to live somewhere so inaccessible when you know you don't drive, or choosing not to learn to drive when you live somewhere so inaccessible, but these are crucial things to think about. If a massive drip feed comes about a medical reason for not driving, then you need to think hard about where you live.

The following weekend, I had to pick up something from town. DH asked me we were going to town to pick it up. I was still upset by his attitude and I told him I didn’t want to go.
He asked again the following weekend and I told him I didn’t want to go.

Second this.
You were sulking. Three weeks. It's simply abusive, manipulative behaviour.

Good job your DH called out this shit, I hope next time you'll learn better. Be grateful he didn't walk away from this relationship, I'd definitely would not tolerate such sulking.
And learn to drive FFS, what if DH is unable to drive for some reasons?

If you are able to drive you need to do that.
if you are unable to learn to drive or now unable to drive due to a health issue you need to move to an area with public transport.
You can’t expect someone else to act as your taxi driver permanently.
If this is a short lived problem I would expect your DH to drive you while understanding it is frustrating for them.

The following weekend, I had to pick up something from town. DH asked me we were going to town to pick it up. I was still upset by his attitude and I told him I didn’t want to go.
He asked again the following weekend and I told him I didn’t want to go.

^ this is just a ridiculous way to behave. I’d have been annoyed with you too. He was being a twat but the pettiness that cuts off your nose to spite your face is very frustrating.

YABU to live somewhere that’s so difficult to get anywhere you have to rely that much on the other person because one of you doesn’t drive. I’d feel so trapped.

Learn to drive or move somewhere not so reclusive. Simple.

It would be extremely irritating having someone depend on you everytime they needed to leave the house.

He also offered you a lift to get the item two weekends in a row which you refused and I would be annoyed that on the weekend after that you then asked if I could take you to get it when I’d previously offered.

When you’re the one asking for a favour you don’t get to dictate the rules of when it happens. You bend to fit in with the person doing you a favour.

I totally disagree. I don't drive (had lessons, failed test) so I live on bus routes.

I would far rather travel longer distances by train.

DH refusing to help out

your title is a little off and doesn’t describe what is actually happening. Sounds like DH does help out by driving you around at weekends. He asked you twice if you wanted to go pick up your parcel but because you’ve sulked you’ve said no and then when you find out you have to get the parcel before it’s returned you expect him to just take you.

He offered to take you several times. You said no. It’s on you.

He may be your husband but he isn’t your slave. He doesn’t actually have to be at your beck and call.