DH refusing to help out

There may be many good reasona.why she can't do this.

I think you were being unreasonable not going to collect it when he offered.
I don't drive either and I know how horrible it is having to rely on people so I get the bus if I can as I like my independence and don't ever want to feel I have to appease my husband just to get a lift.
I know you said you live in an isolated area but can you get a taxi? How far away is the nearest bus stop?

It's a shame OP couldn't come back & answer some of the questions asked.
Perhaps she'll come back in 2 weekends time when she's over sulking that her poll didn't go the way she wanted.

Learn to drive. He's not a taxi.

OP, as a practical alternative if you really are determined not to drive, buy an electric bike. You don't need a licence and you'll be able to get around.

Living remotely and having no transport doesn't work. You need to do something about it.

You either need to learn to drive, pay for taxis, work the public transport out (surely there are some buses, even if they are a short walk or bike ride away) or move house.

I will never understand why some people make themselves entirely dependent on someone else and are then completely shocked when they have a row and it all goes to shit.

Stop sulking and learn to drive

I’m sick of people saying that they don’t drive on here and expecting others to run around after them. Unless you have a disability that you’re not disclosing, it’s not that you don’t drive, it’s that you won’t drive. It’s, therefore, your responsibility to sort out alternative transport, whether that’s a bicycle, scooter or public. It’s fine not to want to drive, but don’t then moan about not having convenient transport.

I am unable to drive for medical reasons (I have passed my test). It is very difficult having to rely on others and as soon as dd3 leaves school I plan to move to a better serviced area. I don't think it is unreasonable to expect a lift from dh but I do think it should be at dh's convenience. Presumably payment for the car and associated costs are coming from joint funds. I think to have a strop 2 weekends in a row is a bit much.

I think it depends on WHY you don't drive and why you're living in a remote area with poor transport links.

I don't drive either so am certainly not some kind of petrolhead, but then I live in a city with a great transport network. If I decided to move to the arse end of nowhere, I'd seek to remedy the non-driving pronto. Unless of course you're unable to drive due to disability (which you would surely have mentioned in the OP).

Why do you live in an isolated area if you can’t drive?

you caused the problem yourself. He asked 2 weeks in a row. Very childish behaviour

He didn’t refuse to help you. He offered on several occasions, all of which you declined because you were sulking (for several weeks, not just an hour or two). Now, you have got out of your strop, and you want him to help you out. He is no longer inclined to- and I can’t say I blame him. I couldn’t put up with that sort of nonsense- if you were upset with him moaning about being fed up about needing to drive you everywhere, then either discuss it with him properly once you have both had time to calm down from your argument, or let it lie. Don’t strop for weeks, it’s childish.

I genuinely cannot see why you live in a rural area- presumably with poor public transport links- if you do not drive. It doesn’t matter why you don’t drive- choice or physical reasons- it doesn’t make sense. Either learn to drive and if that is not possible, you need to consider moving or finding another way to get about (cycling, walking, planning trips around what public transport is available). I’m aware for all sorts of reasons that might moving may not be possible- you or DH’s work, for instance (e.g. tied house)- but clearly the current situation is not working for either of you.

Why did you refuse the two times that your husband offered to take you?? I'd be pretty pissed off with you too.

Is there a reason you haven't learned to drive? Can you walk to a bus stop?

I think in this case you cut off your nose to spite your face - you weren’t prepared to go when he offered.

unless there’s a medical reason why you can’t drive, I think it’s foolish to live somewhere remote without being able to get yourself around. DH was the driver in our house - but when we had DC I learned to drive as it was only fair to him, and I didn’t want our household to be reliant on one driver in case of emergency (and I live somewhere with great public transport).

is there a reason you did click and collect rather than delivery to home? I think if you are ordering something that will need to be collected you should agree in advance that he’ll pick you up.

if you’re doing all the housework, sit down and have a conversation about the split of responsibilities.

@KeenPeachExpert why did you move to the middle of nowhere?? get learning to drive then you wont have to rely on anyone! how old are you? no kids??

YABU

Sounds like a reversed post.

Couples argue and her DH was justified.
He probably does the school run, food shop and everything that needs a car.

How is he wrong from what OP posted?

DH had a moan, reasonable. Then tried to make amends twice.

OP became upset at the fact that DH drives everywhere and sulked for 2 weeks.

Doesn't sound like OP is even learning as at least she could be doing the weekend driving with DH as an instructor.

YABU OP.

Can you move somewhere less isolated (with or without your husband)?

Although your OH has been a bit of a prat, I probably have to say yabu overall. He asked you two weekends running about going to collect the item but, and I mean this in the kindest way possible, you threw your toys out the pram like an huffy child and refused to go.
If you feel he doesn’t pull his weight around the house then you need to talk to him about it.
‘DH, I know you have to do a lot of driving for us and I appreciate it, but please remember all the things I do around the house and for us as a family’.
For what it’s worth, I’m also a non driver with a husband who drives and although he’s (usually!) happy to drive me and DD I do also try to balance that with being independent and using the bus/train. I think it’s good for our daughter to see me not always relying on him.

The setup isn’t right for you. It’s incompatible to live somewhere remote and not drive so something has to give (regardless of him being an arse about it), it needs sorting at the root of the issue. How did you think it would work when you chose to live there?

Is there a reason you don’t drive?

Why do you live in a remote area?

Good point. There seems to be so many women on here who flounce about like hyacinth bucket expecting to be run around. It would drive me barmy

My H didn't drive when I met him. I made him get his license ASAP, I'm not a chauffeur. Why don't you just learn to drive. Problem solved.

Probably isn't any

My mother who were she still alive would be 100 learnt to drive when she was pregnant with me (1962)

She commented on the fact that many women if her generation had either not learnt to drive or stopped driving when they got older - ie pension age which was 60 in those days and lots of them seemed to take a view that those with licences would fetch and carry them because it wasnt a chore, something my mother realised that it was.

So its the Driving School, Estate Agent or Divorce Lawyer, choose one, all or a permutation.