DH refusing to help out

This thread has not gone well for the OP, as expected. It does come across as quite the FAFO scenario, I'm afraid.

OP, I think you need to re-assess your life's choices. If you 'can't' drive because you're not allowed to drive for medical reasons, then you need to live somewhere you can get yourself around via public transport, cycling, walking, etc. If you've chosen not to drive or just don't want to, then you have behaved badly here and need to apologise to your husband. He's not wrong here. Again, you may need to re-evaluate where you're living as being so rural/isolated clearly isn't working for you.

1/ Why didn't you take the bus/walk/bike it to town?
2/ If the bus doesn't run at the weekend, why didn't you go during the week?
3/ If there is no bus at any point, why didn't you have said item delivered to you directly and not to the shop?

How is he refusing to help out, he offered to take you two weekends ?

Don't write a story to make your dh look bad , when it's you that's in the wrong, on this occasion

Yes I’m intrigued to know why you don’t drive. If there’s a valid reason and he knew this from the start then yes, it’s a part of the deal he agreed to. But if you lead him to believe that at some point you’d learn to drive but haven’t then I can see where he’s coming from. I would hate to have to chauffeur someone around who is perfectly capable of learning. It’s a basic life skill. If there’s a reason why you will never be able to drive, does it make sense to live so rurally?. Can you move to an area with better public transport. As for your argument, you both need to sort out the driving situation one way or another and agree to stick to the agreement. Sulking and being petty doesn't solve anything.

@diddl because for me it’s wrong. My husband would have never done it to me - even if I had sulked before. He would abbé tried to convince me to go. And vice versa.

Why should he take her when he has already offered to do so but Op refused-three(?) times?

I agree with a lot of previous posters, you need to learn how to drive. If that's not an option, you need to live somewhere with good public transport. It's silly requiring 2 adults to do such mundane things.

you caused the problem yourself. He asked 2 weeks in a row. Very childish behaviour

That's the crux really isn't it?

If Op not driving usually works for them then that's up to them.

It does sound as if he's had enough though.

I don’t think you are being unreasonable - and I do think that he was wrong to not take you. But I do also think you need to learn to drive (unless there is a reason you can’t) to be more independent. Couldn’t imagine myself without driving.

No, your DH is playing the "I'll teach her a lesson!" card. Also, you can never know which way a male partner will jump.

Too many women have collected bruises to prove it.

Just curious, why next year? Why not now? Seems a bit daft if you’re both desperate for him to drive to be putting it off for 12 months!

Sulking for two weekends ,You sound like hard work .

What was the agreement when you moved to the isolated area? Did you talk about him being the only driver when you moved?

You need to have a proper talk when neither of you are upset. I understand that he is tired being the only driver but I'm assuming he knew this. So he should accept it, but maybe have some agreements on when to do this so he doesn't have to be 'on call'.

Learn to drive.

if medically unable, move to an area that is not rural with good buses and trains.

spend money on Uber’s - DH can’t complain if you can’t drive.

I feel for your DH. Either learn to drive or move closer to public transport links

You were sulking, he offered twice. I don’t understand why you would make yourself so dependent on your OH. I’m a non-driver and would never live anywhere I couldn’t get myself about. It’s crazy!

He can't win can he? Learn to drive

As the only driver in the family and as someone who does spend all my weekend ferrying DH and the kids to wherever their hearts desire, yabu. It is really tiring. I moan about it too actually, all the time.

DH is getting lessons next year, thank fuck. He "can't wait to drive to costco whenever he wants and take advantage of deals" without me moaning about it - crack on mate, I can't wait either!

Fucked around and found out

First of all, what’s FAFO?

Second is this a reverse? Because you sulked two weekends in a row so he then sulked on the third? Maybe you are both teenagers?

Third, unless you have a medical reason not to drive…learn to drive

If you both work full time, housework should be 50/50. However, he offered 2 weekends in a row to drive you, and you refused. Thats on you

As others have said, learn to drive! It makes your relationship so much more equal. My partner and I go on holidays and long trips and share the driving because we are equally capable adults. I wouldn’t be with someone who didn’t drive.

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I don't drive (some of us just can't hack it I'm afraid) but we live in a town with decent public transport. I would never dream of moving somewhere remote. What if something happens to the husband meaning he has to stop driving? (It happened to us out of the blue when DH was struck down with encephalitis and resultant seizures.)

We lived rurally all three DC learnt to drive at 17. They could borrow my car at weekends. It works well.

@KeenPeachExpert you threw a tantrum two weekends running I would have said the same as your husband.