DH refusing to help out

I have to say I’m kind of on the side of your DH in regard to collecting the parcel. He asked you twice if you wanted to go - you had moaned at him about moaning to take you so he did what you wanted on 2 occasions and you said no because you were in a mood with him because he had moaned about it ( so he was doing what you wanted ? ) then you are moaning because he wouldnt take you on the third time - if I had offered twice and been told no I wouldn’t jump then to do it when it suited you . It’s not his fault you had to get a lift , he had offered before , it’s your own fault. It honestly seems like you caused this for no reason.

It is going to be annoying to have to drive around all weekend . He should be taking you for shopping etc and places that you really can’t get to , but you can’t expect him to do it all the time because you never learnt to drive.

couldn’t you have got the parcel delivered instead ?

Maybe moving to a remote area when you don’t drive was a bit of a mistake ?

Time to get some driving lessons!!!!

That may be true for you but it’s not a universal truth. As I explained before this is my opinion on what would happen in my marriage. That’s all I can offer. My perspective , you don’t have to agree.
I wouldn’t however not have a driving license as it would ma make em feel trapped. But again different people different lives different opinions.

The op is an adult...her husband shouldn't have to try and convince her out of a sulk when she is basically cutting her nose off to spite her face.

He offered on two separate occasions to take her...she refused. Why should he then jump when she then decides she's out of her strop and realised she is out of time to pick up the item?

This is on the op.

I have answered this in my post already. In my view yes he is yes. I gave my view and opinion and how it would have worked differently in my marriage which is what the OP asked. You are of course free to disagree. Different people and different marriages. OP must consider the opinions that feel right for her and her marriage.

You said no two weekends in a row then had a paddy when he wouldn’t take you on the third weekend? Are you six?

'he asked me three times over the previous two weekends and I had said no'

Why are people calling the man a 'twat' and 'deadbeat' for this?

Plenty of options for you : get your drivers license, move house, divorce the twat and move to the city but you choose to throw tantrums and complain on MN😂

So he's wrong to not do it at his own convenience & give Op plenty of chances?

Even asking after she sulked?

Nothing is more irritating than ferrying around someone who can’t drive and expects lifts constantly. Learn to drive for both of your sanity.

It’s not great to be dependent on someone else to get about. How far are you from town? Could you buy a bike, e-bike or moped? Could you learn to drive? Could you afford to take occasional cabs?

If there’s absolutely no way of making yourself more independent, I’d be looking to move closer to a town.

I still think your DH is a CF, though. He knows you’re stuck for now. And if you do the bulk of the housework, he’s not being fair. So, I’d start by leaving him to do his own laundry and boycotting any cleaning up after him.

Why don't you take some driving lessons and then you can pass your test get your own car and independence?

Learn to drive..problem solved.

It's really tedious being the chauffeur. Why don't you drive?

Dp doesn't drive so if he needs to go somewhere I have to take him / the kids. I don't blame him for it but it can be quite draining especially when you're not up for it. I think the issue here is that he was having a whinge and instead of saying we can next weekend if that's better, or I understand how you're feeling for example, (and he probably would have taken you anyway) you've got upset and defensive about it. We're all allowed off days and sometimes I just don't want to go out, sometimes I just want a bit of appreciation for the amount of hassle ferrying someone around can be. I don't think you're being fair to him tbh, especially as he's offered two weekends in a row now and you effectively sulked about it and didn't go. It's teamwork at the end of the day and understanding eachother goes a long way.

Learn to drive.

And buy a car.

It doesn’t sound like he’s refusing to help out at all.

He offered to take you two weekends on the run and you petulantly said no. Then when you decided you wanted to go on your terms, he said no. You sound as bad as each other.

I'm expecting the important drip feed where OP tells us she's blind or doesn't come back at all.

He asked you and you said no. Wtf?

If you live somewhere remote, you NEED to drive. You NEED to be independent. Whether that means learning to drive, getting a bike, phoning a taxi, whatever.

Of course you need to sort things out about how balanced things are at home. He needs to pull his weight.

But you cannot keep relying on him as the only driver. Why would you even want to? What would you do if you split up with him?

I don't understand why so many people (mostly women I'm sad to say) allow themselves to rely so heavily on their partners.

You moved to an isolated area but don’t drive. That’s idiotic at best.
Your DH offered to take you TWICE to get something but because you were having a little tantrum and spat your dummy out you didn’t go. That’s equally as idiotic.

Seems like a situation of your own making.

Well if so, he's got backing.

Horrible feeling this might be a reverse

I was almost with you until I read that he’d been happy to take you on two other occasions and you pettily said no. You can’t complain now he does the same to you.

you need to sort out either the living or driving situation

You are the unreasonable one.

As a driver, I don't particularly enjoy ferrying people around daily, but I do it as my kids are too young to drive. But even as a parent, there are times when I really dont want to do it and would rather say no (but I do as its my responsibility as a parent) so I sympathise with your husband's attitude

You are an adult, you need to take responsibility and come up with other ways of getting around ,other than always relying on your husband

The housework thing is a different issue and conversation all together.

You live in an isolated area, and you don’t drive. You need to sort one or both of those op. You are not coming across well here. Your DH is not a taxi service, and will be getting very fed up with getting treated as one (been there). He offered twice to take you to town and you were sulking so said no. Talk about cutting your nose off to spite your face! Grow up (and learn to drive) - your relationship will thank you.