DH refusing to help out

I don’t drive and hence live somewhere with good ways of getting around - which I pay a higher premium for- it’s ridiculous living somewhere with poor transport options if you don’t drive

In the minority here but I feel sorry for you & am very taken aback by the massive pile on & judgemental comments when nobody knows why you don't drive or how you came to be living in a rural location. It could be that you developed a medical condition after moving there & are now stuck and a bit trapped.

I think your husband was wrong to whine about driving you at the weekends. I can see why you were upset & didn't want to accept a lift the first time after that - who wants to be beholden to someone making them feel like they're doing a favour in what's supposed to be a team, but yes in all honesty you probably should have accepted the lift the next time he offered.

My husband and I both drive and regularly drop off or pick eachother up to make life easier or if parking is difficult and we do it voluntarily and with good grace. I don't hold with this idea that the person "doing the favour" gets to dictate when it's convenient for them & the other has to lump it - does this apply to the cooking and cleaning? Is it more convenient for you to hoover in the wee small hours while he's asleep?!

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership with give & take. 1 poster even said they "couldn't be with someone who didn't drive" well heaven help you if something happens to your partner like illness or injury. There is a divvying up of stuff in every marriage, in yours he does the driving you do the housework. Do you bleat about having to do the housework at weekends?

I'd talk about both of your frustrations calmly in an honest unheated discussion and if you can't resolve it then suggest he instead spends his weekends doing the housework while you get about in taxi's, or alternatively packing boxes for your imminent house move.

Find a way of resolving your differences, getting about independently, moving house or flying solo. Best of luck to you.

Is there a reason you can’t learn to drive. You should - you’re far too dependent on him.

You can't keep getting lifts from friends but you expect your DH to take you wherever you want, whenever you want. 🙄

Sorry but you have sulked and refused to go pick it up, despite him offering to take you several times. Then when YOU decide you want to go he says he won't take you and you are upset?

Being the only driver is boring, tiresome, time consuming and irritating for most people who find themself in this situation.

Learn to bloody drive!

Learn to drive, relocate or get a bike. I don't drive - to my shame, but I live in London, zone 1/2, and never expect a lift from anyone. I use public transport, pay for cabs or walk/bike it.

OP you sound like a massive PITA

I don't drive. Therefore, I don’t live rually. YABU. No one wants to drive another adult around all the time.

Stop doing all the housework. That's a separate issue.

Is this a reverse?

Your DH is a bit of a twat, but he does have a point
Why is he a bit of a twat?
I'm not sure what's he's done wrong here.

Please learn to drive - will be life changing for you!

Ermm isnt this why Amazon is so successful? Unless you live in the outer Hebrides get stuff delivered! Faffing around at WE in town is a nightmare ,parking .getting to and from town ,I think learn to drive or shop online

A few weeks ago, DH had a moan at me about having to spend his weekend driving us around.

Completely reasonable. Listen and learn if you want your marriage to survive.

Unless there is a medical reason like epilepsy that prevents you, then either learn to drive or use public transport. It may take longer and be less regular but there are very few places not serviced by a bus once every couple of hours

You had a row and then you acted like a petulant child when your DH suggested going to get it.

This is entirely on you not your DH.

He offered to take you twice, you turned him down. YABU.

I’d learn to drive. 🤷‍♀️

Can’t believe all the people saying it’s equally his fault - he offered to take you not once, but twice, and because you were sulking you turned him down. Then expected him to drop everything and taxi you at your convenience once you’d decided you’d done enough flouncing.

I’d have refused to take you too. It’s a PITA ferrying people around, let alone when they insist on dictating exactly when they’re prepared to be driven.

This is all on you, OP. Including being unable to drive. Unless you have a disability or other good reason not to learn, why wouldn’t you? Especially when you live somewhere so inaccessible.

Ridiculous behaviour.

If it's possible to drive, you need to learn. If not, you need to live somewhere that public transport is reasonably accessible. Get a taxi if nothing else.

He offered to drive you two weeks in a row and you refused in a huff. Why on earth should he pander to your whims in this way?

Sorry OP you need to learn to drive

Agree with what the vast majority of posters are saying. You also shouldn't be arranging what sounds like a click and collect order when you can't drive - you should arrange delivery and suck up the cost

You threw a strop 2 weekends in a row and now you’re pissed off he isn’t indulging your shitty behaviour anymore?

learn to drive.

Learn to drive. I would be fucking annoyed having to give lifts to an able bodied adult who is simply can't be arsed t learn to drive.

You can't have a little tantrum, refuse his help for 2 weeks then make demands when your actions have consequences, OP.

Learn to drive 👍🏼
it would drive me mad chauffeuring my husband around everywhere if he couldn’t drive!

I don’t drive and am very dependent on DH on the weekends to get anywhere.

Why don't you drive?

Htf have you extrapolated to dv here? That’s a reach and a half.

the dh offered twice to drive her. She refused out of spite trying to get back at him because he’s not happy spending all his weekends driving her around.

so when she did decide she wanted to go, because she’d left it til the last minute, it wasn’t convenient for him for whatever reason. Fair enough.

if you don’t drive you have to accept lifts are at the convenience of the person who does drive. You can’t expect them to ditch their plans.

he’s not “teaching her a lesson”. If anything this has all escalated because she was trying to teach the lesson refusing to accept the lift offered twice. Backfired on her though.

Learn to drive. Insane not to - unless you have a health issue that prevents it - if you live in an isolated place. Also, do shopping online and have it delivered.
Your DH is a bit of a twat, but he does have a point.