Constant arguing because I word things wrong

He’s a first class DICK !
Fuck him away off out of your life ( excuse my language)
What does he bring to a decent relationship
Absolutely Zero ..
Aside from being a controlling tosser , He’s such a weirdo , All guys like that are just weirdo’s , getting off on shit like that , trying to make you feel as though there is something wrong with you when it’s them that aren’t normal humans …

God he sounds exhausting! I don't think I'd bother speaking to him at all 🙄 is this really how you want to spend your one precious life OP?

You’re being emotionally abused. He will always ensure you are in the wrong.

Voted wrong way because of sausage fingers. You're definitely not BU.

He's a manipulative, argumentative twat.

You can't do right for doing wrong.

It must be exhausting trying to constantly police what you are about to say so that it doesn't set him off.

He sounds utterly unbearable.

You know he's a nasty bullying prick and abusing you?
Contact Women's aid asap.

Leave him. This won’t improve. He’s a manipulative cunt and you deserve better.

First post nails it

The only answer this man would get from me would start and end with an F.

Raise your bar @Wellthatwasalogday82. You can do better and be happier alone.

The only answer you need is: Yes - stop talking to me like this otherwise we are getting divorced!

Life is too short for this kind of pettiness

I’ve never said LTB on here, but this is an exception. I couldn’t live like that. He sounds like a sad, angry man.
If you don’t have children with him, getting rid now would likely be a good move.
If you have children, I don’t know what I’d do. Avoid him as much as possible and create as much as a life as you can out of the house so that his part in your life becomes smaller and less significant.

One possibility is the two of you have been in a rut annoying each other for so long that everything is starting to become a passive aggressive dig at the other.

Him offering to make you a roll and then you being like “I can make it if you want” ( and you saying you only said that because of an earlier argument where he said you don’t do anything)- I can see that as a dig at him because your motivation for saying it wasn’t genuine, but a tit for tat because of an earlier argument.

The squash thing sounds like him doing a passive aggressive dig at you.

This kind of dynamic is draining, if you two can’t make an effort to stop policing how you say the most basic things and stop adding in passive aggressive digs of “I can do it” when one of you is trying to do an act of kindness this will destroy the relationship.

He's treating you with contempt. Do you have children - does he have them walking on eggshells too?

I'm sorry OP, but trying to 'get it right' with this man is like trying to push water uphill with a bloody fork !

It won't matter how you word anything, ever, he'll always say you've done it 'wrong'.

Better to ask yourself ;

1. Who bloody decided that only HIS opinions/methods/thoughts are 'right'?
2. Why the hell you think that it's somehow up to you to 'change' or 'improve' to suit his bloody 'mood'?
3. What does he actually bring to your life except grief??
4. Why are you actually going along with the shit he says? Just say 'fuck off'!
5. If you can't ever communicate to his 'standards', why the hell hasn't everyone in your life said the same as him? (Cos it's bollocks obvs!)

Seriously, he's just bringing you daily bloody misery and upset.

Just imagine how much better you'll feel when he is no longer in your life...

This behaviour benefits him quite a bit. You're easier to manipulate if he convinces you that you can't get anything right. He gets to be right all the time - about everything.

It's obvious that you haven't actually done anything wrong to an outsider

Mine sometimes does this, but only when he’s in a mood. Fortunately it’s easily sorted (in my case) by telling him he’s being an arse.

I can’t imagine living with it all the time. My sympathies @Wellthatwasalogday82

What do you think would be the outcome with yours if you just eye-rolled and told him what an idiot he was being?

OMG, this has just reminded me that when I was living with my step dad if I asked a question that was in the format 'would you like rice or pasta' he would answer 'yes' and I'd have to ask again, separately, to find out which.

Apparently it was to 'teach me to ask unambiguous questions' but what it really taught me is that he's a petty dickhead who believes he had the right to have the world exactly how he wants it and that if people don't do things the way he would they are both wrong and doing it deliberately to annoy him.

It's exhausting and infuriating and an absolute control freak move which will undermine your sense of self and have you second guessing everything you say and do. I had it inflicted upon me, but you can choose to walk away from it and I cannot recommend highly enough that you free yourself from his spite-fuelled bullshit.

This is not the sign of a healthy relationship. It’s not you - its totally him!

Get rid.

I've had one of these. It's so bloody wearing. You get to the point where you don't want to say anything because it will be wrong. I have come to the conclusion that I would rather be single for ever than have to feel I am walking on eggshells in my own home.

Another saying first response nailed it. It's not you, OP. Get rid.

He doesn’t like you.

You don’t ’word things wrong’. Your partner is just a controlling, manipulative prick who gets off on criticising you to make you feel insecure. Get rid of this piece of shit. He’s awful.

He's either ill, an arse hole or both.
My exhusband was and is like this. He was getting ill with a neuro psyc disease, probably a a hole too. He still does it but at least I don't have to live with him.

If you stay with this man, you will be sentencing yourself to a lifetime of walking on eggshells and never being able to get anything right for him.

It won't matter how much you think before you speak. His issue isn't that you say things wrong. He just wants a verbal puchbag and you will do.

Stop trying to give him what he wants. You will never succeed. Do yourself a favour and give him the elbow instead.