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why only women mostly do these things? what do men do?

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CoursesForHorsesandMares · 15/03/2025 11:41

Over the past years say like a decade maybe longer I have done lots of different activities including short courses. Initially (like many women who made a similar mistake!) I started out with wine tasting when I was in a dating mind set and I did it to try to meet some men and broaden my social circle. Of course as anyone who has done this will tell you, wine tasting is 99% women trying to meet men who arent there!

Since then I've done lots of different courses for things I was interested in learning - not to meet guys -but a comment on a different thread (about walking groups) made me think that actually all of these courses are just women -maybe you get one or two men but in every case it is hugely dispropotionate weighting. This covers a really wide range of subjects from lots of varied providers - art based courses, computer based courses, acting courses, language course, comedy courses, wine tasting I've mentioned, street skating, skiiing, climbing. Even the ones that are less stereotypically 'female' - same thing again - almost all women.

Doesn't matter what the subject is - it's always women and not just single women with very few men. If you have a group of say 10 or 15, usually one man maybe two. Why is this? Is it women who are just interested in learning? Or is there something else? It's really strange because the law of averages should dictate a greater male attendance. I'm not saying 50:50 but maybe even 60:40 is so far away.

Why is it so disproportionate? What are men never doing these kinds of things?

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Lentilweaver · 15/03/2025 11:48

I think men, especially middle aged men, are far less social.

Leafy74 · 15/03/2025 11:47

Skeldale · 15/03/2025 11:42

I think it’s probably because a lot of men genuinely don’t think they need to learn anything!

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Lentilweaver · 15/03/2025 11:45

I do tons of leisure activities and it's always more women than men. Way more

Fleetheart · 15/03/2025 11:45

I agree it’s usually women; my philosophy is that often men are less likely to want to learn in a classroom type setting; they’re also happy to do things on their own more often. Somehow women are more keen to do things in groups.

AppleKatie · 15/03/2025 11:44

this seems unlikely, I thought all the stats say women have less leisure time than men on average?

NuffSaidSam · 15/03/2025 11:43

I've done some of these classes and it's been far more balanced than you've experienced.

Perhaps it's just where you live?

I'm in London, for reference.

Skeldale · 15/03/2025 11:42

I think it’s probably because a lot of men genuinely don’t think they need to learn anything!

MrsSkylerWhite · 15/03/2025 11:42

The only course I’ve done as an adult was calligraphy. Women and men were pretty equal and the tutor was a man.

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