why only women mostly do these things? what do men do?

I don't really agree that men aren't bothered about being single. They're often more lonely than women because they don't cultivate their friendships as much. Anything that is specifically to find a partner will have a lot of men in it e.g. dating sites.

I also think in some instances a lot of women do not want to be single, so invest a lot of time widening their social sphere in the hope of meeting a partner. Men are often not bothered, and tend in my experience to choose sports/teams where mixed teams can be rare.

In my current evening class we are about equal, maybe even more men, but it's something that might help people's careers.
If a course is done 'for fun' then I'd think it's more like a social club and in general women are 'joiners' whereas men aren't and I think the main reason for this is that it's more acceptable for men to just go to the pub by themselves and start chatting to the other men in the pub. Women (in general) don't do this, so need to join a club/group.
Also, some cities really just have a lot more women than men.

I was going to say something similar - it seems to me that men just get on with it and start the activity by themselves, be it an instrument, language or sport.

Also, Instead of wasting in lessons/courses, they probably rather spent the money on more "gear".

I think a lot of men, especially those beyond about 30, genuinely aren't fussed about socialising, and particularly not through group classes. I think their focus is solely on skill acquisition as opposed to appreciate something like a watercolour class partly for social engagement too.

I think as people get older women are more social and join things yes.

I’ve been to book groups and various music groups that have all been about 50% men.

I am very social and deeply interested in people.
DH isnt because his job is peoply. His interests are mostly solitary. He doesnt hate people but he doesnt seek them out. He's not shy; if he does have to go to a party he chats with everyone. Most of my friends' husbands are the same way.

Sport. I hypothesise that the ratio will be reversed when it comes to watching / playing sport as a leisure activity. That’s where more men are spending their time. If you want to meet men, go to watch QPR on a Saturday afternoon and spend the evening in the Defector’s Weld pub afterwards (other teams / pubs are available).

I've actually hosted courses and events and it's mostly women that sign up with one or two men who usually drop out after a few sessions. Maybe they feel embarrassed at being a minority or maybe they're pissed off because they haven't pulled.

I wonder if it's something about women in general being more social and group focussed so they attend a group for group as much as they do to learn.

And as we age I think there's a stereotype of the woman in early retirement out doing lots of stuff, while the men retreat a bit. Get stuck in a routine. I think there are more women frustrated with checked out retired husbands than the other way round. Although that may be partly because it's often the man who is older.

I also wonder if it's partly driven by women being the primary carer for children - still! Kids get older and responsibilities lessen. That's a prompt for a woman to say 'Great! I'm taking up life drawings classes on Tuesday evenings.' For the man whose life was less affected by kids that change never happens. Usual disclaimer that this is not universal but I'm still seeing it in my generation. (40s)

My swim/ exercise class has 18 women and two men.
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The activities I do have always been more men than women - but they are not courses. There may be some socialisation aspect as men do learn formally in male only environments like the men’s shed. Also where men are the dominant career / bread winner ( whixh is still the norm) there can be more pressure and more continuous learning during work which might make such activities less attractive

It's not man hating, it's the truth. Many academic studies have shown that men tend, more than women, to think they can just go ahead and do something rather than learn how to do it first. It's due to evolution- men had to take risks to hunt for food.

An example of this is when a man reads a job spec he will apply even though he may not meet all the criteria. Women tend to not apply if they feel they don't meet 100% of the criteria. Obviously this is to womens detriment.

It is often defined ( by men usually!) as men being confident and women being underconfident but it's much deeper than that.

Maybe men are more likely to learn from YouTube as it’s free and use their money and time on other things.

Possibly a stereotype but maybe men are more likely to join other groups to meet women ? For example cycling, gyms and running are very popular with MN partners and men.

I do painting, drawing and a language course. There are one or two men in each class and about 15 women. Mostly retired.

I do some outdoor volunteer work though and that’s pretty evenly split.

I have anecdotally experienced this too (not all men etc etc) - but why? Are they shy? Just don't like people? My husband says this sometimes (like '99% of people aren't worth talking too' - I definitely disagree) but I then wonder if that's just an excuse? But maybe I can't understand because I am just naturally social?

You're using a peculiar definition of hate.

The ones that work. There is still a 5% employment gap between men and women.

Men are rarely inclined to join things.

My personal view is that if a man wants to do an activity, they will just start doing it. They aren’t going to pay for and attend a course to learn a hobby. It’s something with how they are socialised or wired- and I think the fact men tend to not read the instructions for anything you need to assemble while women do is part of the same phenomenon.

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