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AIBU to think lots on MS have an agenda and judge people with bias?

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Ishoulddomore · 14/03/2025 20:40

AIBU to think this? I’ve read/lurked for a while mainly to try and get advice. It seems many people just jump in/pile on without knowing full facts and offer advice without knowing the full facts. I’ve seen people telling others to divorce/split up. Have they made couples separate when really they shouldn’t or does saving a person from a horrible situation outweigh this?

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Ishoulddomore · 14/03/2025 21:02

RainbowZebraWarrior · 14/03/2025 20:42

Do you mean MN?

Yes, sorry. MN.

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Picklepower · 14/03/2025 21:00

MN Is famous for being horrible. I am always surprised when people who don't get the response they wanted and throw their toys out of the pram and moan about they thought MN was for mums supporting each other. Why did you think that?

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/03/2025 20:58

😕

INeedAnotherName · 14/03/2025 20:56

MN or SM or something else?

Have they made couples separate when really they shouldn’t

  1. Who is they?
  2. If it's a happy, supportive and equal partnership usually then nothing anyone else says will break that relationship. It's all down to whether it's a pattern of bad behaviour rather than a one off situation.
Anonym00se · 14/03/2025 20:54

Yes. Nobody on MN ever has a row with their DH; nobody has ever raised their voice in a moment of frustration. Any minor, one-off incident is labelled ‘abuse’.

I see posts where a poster will recall an incident where they’ve been shouted out once when they were a child, recalling the ‘trauma’ and everyone tells them to go NC with their toxic parent.

I do find a lot of people giving - albeit well-meaning advice - are often concocting an entire narrative from an isolated incident.

GreyCarpet · 14/03/2025 20:51

Have they made couples separate when really they shouldn’t

No. No one posting on MN has ever made anyone do anything 👍

PonyPatter44 · 14/03/2025 20:48

If you want sensible, thoughtful advice, don't post in AIBU. Its a zoo in here. Plenty of the other sections are much more sensible.

I doubt that anyone is daft enough to leave their partner purely based on advice from dribbly Internet randoms.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/03/2025 20:48

Ah, is this the weekly “mumsnet is so mean” thread? Do you go on other forums and tell them they’re doing it wrong?

TotallyForgettableForNow · 14/03/2025 20:46

People advise on what they read, the facts as they are presented to them.
No-one is forced to take the advice they receive.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 14/03/2025 20:42

Do you mean MN?