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To think that most people aren’t looking for love, they’re just terrified of being alone?

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ZingyJadePombear · 14/03/2025 18:59

Half of these “soulmates” would dump each other in a second if they actually liked themselves enough to be single.

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Chickoletta · 14/03/2025 19:08

This is not true in my experience, thankfully. I know many couples who genuinely adore each other and enhance each other’s lives.

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ZingyJadePombear · 14/03/2025 19:06

Catza · 14/03/2025 19:01

Every time someone starts a thread “I think most people…”, I can’t help but think they are projecting their own subconscious attitudes.
Are you terrified of being alone? If not, then why would you think “most people” are?

Not at all. I just think a lot of people settle for relationships out of fear rather than genuine love. It’s a pattern I’ve observed.

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JHound · 14/03/2025 19:05

I do wonder how many people would remain in their current relationship if they won the lottery / never wanted kids….

Snorlaxo · 14/03/2025 19:05

The first answer is spot on.

Do you need us to tell you that it’s ok to settle ?

ToBeOrNotToBee · 14/03/2025 19:03

Catza · 14/03/2025 19:01

Every time someone starts a thread “I think most people…”, I can’t help but think they are projecting their own subconscious attitudes.
Are you terrified of being alone? If not, then why would you think “most people” are?

You're not wrong

Epilepsystruggle · 14/03/2025 19:02

I agree.

Catza · 14/03/2025 19:01

Every time someone starts a thread “I think most people…”, I can’t help but think they are projecting their own subconscious attitudes.
Are you terrified of being alone? If not, then why would you think “most people” are?