Posting hospital pictures

There is such a thing as positive attention seeking it's not always a negative trait and sometimes people are just wanting engagement from their friends and there is nothing wrong with that, if your social media "friends " are irritating just hide them, or maybe send them some well wishes it takes a few seconds out of your day.

I’m mostly with you - a friend who has breast cancer posts a lot from hospitals but that’s obviously a way to cope and document a pretty horrible time - plus she uses it for advocacy so when she took a picture at the plastics clinic, she was talking about how her reconstruction was going to work. As a friend worried about her, I found it useful to know what she was going through.

What I can’t stand is people checking in or just posting a random picture of them in a hospital bed with no context! That feels grabby.

When i was battling breast cancer i went through a storm for 9 months: surgery/reconstruction, chemo then radio. Then I broke down the following year: burn out.

i posted on social media during the treatment, then I went back to posting fun stuffs with my kids maybe once a month or so.

for me during the treatments it was because i wanted to make sure all the women i love would go privately to a mammogram because I was so young my GP refused to refer me so went privately and it was saved my life - literally.
i also wanted to be open about it because you shouldnt have to be alone, and it shouldnt be a secret. Maybe I was attention seeking, yes probably to an extend. But i wasnt faking it and i wasnt attention grabber, i wanted to be surounded with love.

my community rallied around and supported me. And to this day I couldnt be more grateful to them and to my sister, best friend, my husband and children, parents and parents jn law.

disclaimer: i know all my SM friends in real life.

so maybe try to see whats behind the post, there may be real suffering and hurt

I think it's a bit sad that you let social media affect you to the extent that you spend your time "feeling numb" because of it. If it genuinely has such an extreme effect on your mood, wouldn't it be better not to look at it at all? If you don't want to give someone your attention, don't give it to them. It's not compulsory.

I don't understand it. I've never taken a photo of myself in hospital.

My dd was in hospital for 8 months with a feeding tube and occasionally an oxygen tube, again I didn't even take a photo let alone think to post it on social media.

I have an old acquaintance who posts "checking in" posts whenever she is at the GPS or the local talk therapy centre. Writing big long posts about how they don't refer you to hospital anymore for severe mental health disorders like hers so the talk therapy café is all she has. She says it's to raise awareness... It's definitely for sympathy.

As someone who actually does attend the hospital for my mental health (and yes, the referral was from the same GP, to CMH, who then referred me to hospital) I do sometimes pettily think of posting my check in at the hospital just to show her up for her bullshit... But then I remember I don't actually want anyone close to me to know the extent of my mental health issues and also behind it all, despite how it seems, I do think I very much like this woman and she's very kind to others. I don't think I'd want to upset and embarrass her really.

Just this one bloody thing she does annoys the shite out of me. I suppose because her "awareness posts" is misinformation...

It’s so attention seeking

I think people can use their SM how they want I also don't think illness Is a private thing, someone posting from hospital are probably looking for a bit of.attention and support,it's not a huge deal really

I’ve noticed a huge rise in people posting about illnesses on FB particularly, I do get that long term health conditions are awful but sometimes there’s just so little context. I’m not talking about people posting updates post operations like ‘surgery went well, I’ll be home in a few days thanks for all the well wishes’ I mean more like the IV drip in the arm ones which I hate seeing or checking into the doctors surgery with ‘back again’
or weirdly looking adding their health condition into a post when it’s totally irrelevant I can’t think of an example now but used to see it a lot in a group I was in

I know someone who posted photos of their two year old dd who had heart surgery. Tubes everywhere. I am not even connected to this person but a mutual person commented so it came up in my feed. Really grim.

I’m beginning to not really see the point in getting annoyed at stuff like this/social media behaviour. At the end of the day, people are who they are and they largely always will be – breezing past it would do everyone some good.

Yes!!!

Wtf is that all about?

Yeah this.

I have recently been very unwell and was in hospital twice . Would not have dreamt of posting anything about it. Not just because I am a hugely private person but I was also very poorly, and doing something like that would have been the last thing on my mind.

I'm sure whatever is wrong with them is more tiring than your social media consumption. If you don't like someone else's content, don't follow them. It's a simple concept.

Or when they tag themselves at hospital for people to comment ‘hope you are ok?’ Followed by ‘I’ve messaged you!’

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The worst part is they didn't even know him that well. They just wanted the gossip and to see how much he'd deteriorated.

So is it just one person? Or more than one person?

Thank you.