To not be a 'holiday person'?

I feel totally ambivalent about holidaying, I'm happy at home. Recently went to a european city for the first time in 20 years, it was like being in London really, similar stuff just different architecture etc. Not a beach holiday fan either. My friends cannot comprehend it!

I’m the exact same so no, YANBU.

I like relaxing but I don’t actually have any interest in a lot of places that other people do, I actually am not sure the actual travel is worth it to see these places (for me anyway)

I feel similarly but not exactly the same.

I loathe the actual journey. So much faff, so much logistical stress. I mean I've travelled enough that I can do it on autopilot for the most part but it's such a long amount of time to spend being vaguely uncomfortable and sweaty. Trains are better than planes though.

The most relaxing thing for me is to have my home comforts, my home routine and my own bed without having to do anything. It took me many years to reconcile my desire to travel with the fact that I find a lot of the practical aspects of travelling to be unpleasant chores.

It kind of came together when I realised I don't travel to relax so I shouldn't worry that I can't relax when on holiday. I travel to get a feel for what life is like in other places.

That also means I focus on local restaurants, bars, clubs, hikes and general city strolls rather than the tourist sights - I've been to Rome nine times now, for work and pleasure, and I've never seen the Sistine Chapel. With that queue, I never will. And you know what, I'm fine with that - I'm eating my way around the city's best restaurants instead.

I did go to the Trevi Fountain and Spanish Steps as a vague nod to doing what tourists should do. The Trevi Fountain was fine but god, so many tourists there! The Spanish Steps were very... is this it. They're just steps.

I can totally understand. I love seeing places but I'm not so much of a 'holiday' person when it comes to logistical admin of them. I actually like flying (as in the actual flight) however the airport and the security charades and the queuing, and the place being full of other people like me, sick of that shit, tired and grumpy, that can piss off quite frankly.

I go skiing a couple of times a year and we almost exclusively drive now (I also like driving, which does help) because lugging all the bags and kit 2-3 hours on a train, or even worse a coach, to spend 2-3 hours in an airport, for a 90 min flight, just really put a dampener on the enjoyable bits.

Belgium, Netherlands and France are quite easy for me by car, so I do like to do city breaks and the like, but I agree, £650 I'd probably have some nice things at home for that. Enjoy them guilt free!

Well, you do you, obviously, but yes, it sounds spectacularly limiting to me, to stick to whichever bit of the world you happen to live in. I’m assuming you wouldn’t want to go and live in another country, either? Or would you?

Like other home birds, feel it is a luxury to ‘not need to get away from it all’.

Maybe I’ve just got a rubbish memory because I can hardly remember the places I’ve been now. So the ‘making memories’ thing is lost on me. I know I’ve seen the Sistene Chapel in Rome and I know I’ve been to the Eiffel Tower in Paris but I can’t really remember being there.

So it just seems a huge waste of money which we could spend on other things. My DH isn’t enthusiastic about travelling anyway and even the teenage DC aren’t too bothered.

I know this will sound a little crazy but sometimes I imagine I’m on ‘holiday’ somewhere. Memory is similar to imagination so it feels the same as being there really, especially with all the photos & videos available on the internet now. I mean, you can literally see the view from the summit of Mt Everest on YouTube if you want! You can be anywhere in the whole world (or universe) in your own home for free just using your imagination!

I agree with this.

We need a super king sized bed and peace and quiet at night.

Funnily enough, I never want to do a uk holiday ever again . The cost and the weather put me off .

I enjoy some holidays but have got fussier. I need a comfortable bed and not to hear noise from neighbouring rooms. We increasingly go back to places we've been to before and holiday cottages in the UK rather than hotels abroad. The trouble with spending a lot of money on a holiday is that it's gone in a week where as you could spend the money on something you'd enjoy for longer.

YANBU. I love holidays and travelling the world but I completely understand it's not everyone's cup of tea. Be true to yourself.

Each to their own. I love a holiday but I do find them stressful and certainly not relaxing with kids.

I'm not a holiday person either, but I'm a lot older than you and I think travelling has changed a lot.

I wasn't ever a big holiday person, but I didn't mind a short break kind of thing. Now I find everything is a lot of hassle and I think you need to be able to pay an awful lot to get a good experience.

Like a previous poster, I would rather have nicer things in everyday life. My sister is disappointed, but there are a lot of trips I went on really just to keep her company.

We didn't grow up going on holiday. It was too expensive. So it's not something I'm used to and I don't feel like I'm missing out.

I got massive discounts on spa breaks with one company I worked for. So we did that a lot, but it wasn't worth full price then I don't think. Certainly not now although I haven't checked prices lately.

My DH have both been on numerous holidays before met including America, Dominican, Egypt etc. Now though we hate going abroad on holiday for the exact reasons you've said. What we do love though is going on holiday in this country. Having our car means we can come and go as we please, we always stay in a high spec cottage or lodge with lots of walks nearby and ideally a pub that does good food. Our idea of a holiday would be very boring to some but it makes us happy and means we get away a few times a year, twice so far this year.

I feel the same.

I lived overseas and travelled extensively in my 20s and 30s but now just cannot be bothered with all the hassle.

I love a day out though 😁

Were all different.

I am the total opposite to you. But that’s fine.

YANBU and I slightly agree to the extent that I think I've decided to holiday a lot less and use my AL to go on day trips so I still get sleep in my own bed and I don't need to arrange for someone to feed the cats.

But I wouldn't earmark the tax rebate as free money just yet. Twice I've had a rebate only to receive a bill for a slightly different amount a few days later.

So instead of them giving me £50 back,they seem to prefer to say 'here's £600, but you now owe us £550'. Bastards.

I absolutely love holidays. I love going away with friends, my husband, and now our young family. I love the planning, the excitement, the travel, the food, the culture, the architecture. But, for me it’s about sharing the experience, bar hopping with friends, romantic meals watching the sun go down, seeing the children play in the sand, run from the waves, try new food, etc. I don’t think I would enjoy a holiday on my own, I’ve been abroad with work and evenings to myself are bearable, but I’m a very social person and would miss someone to enjoy the experience with.

You only have to read the holiday threads on here to know most people have an unrealistic expectation of a holiday, and often the looking forward to a holiday outweighs the actual holiday itself.
Most people l know love to boast to others where they're going on holiday so as to appear interesting.
Creating a way of life you don't feel the need to escape from is the answer.
If you want to be herded through the airports like cattle and sat squashed on a noisy smelly plane for hours on end, good luck.
I love the Uk, day trips and weekends enough for me.

I am a holiday person, but as I've got older I've realised that I only think the faff and expense is worth it for a really exciting 2 week holiday somewhere interesting and far flung - warranting a stay overnight at a Heathrow hotel and making a proper 'thing' of being at the airport.

UK holidays have lost their shine now prices are so high, every meal in a restaurant needs pre-booking, service is awful, checkin has got later and checkout earlier, and the weather is so often shit.

European holidays often involve only a 2 hour flight, but the whole process of getting to the airport, getting through security and waiting around, flying (with delays as standard) and then getting to the accommodation at the other end - takes about 12 hours. Such a palaver.

A big thing for us is that we love our home and can't justify the expense of a hotel that's as nice. Our lovely bed with good quality bedding, great coffee machine, loads of space etc - we're always staying in something not even half as nice, and then I think "is this what I've worked hard all year for".

We're about to go on a US driving holiday and that's the kind of holiday I think it's worth it for.

I can't really relate as going away is my favourite thing. I could live without the journey to and fro, but being somewhere new with all that beauty to absorb is well worth it to me. If its not your thing that's fine. You may find you change your mind at another stage of your life. My urge to see the world hit me late 40s when I started to get the sense of there being a limit on how much of it I could reasonably ever see, and wanted to get as much in as I could. Also the feeling that experiences are more valuable to me than possessions now, as I have all I need.

I wasn’t a holiday person when with my ex because he made holidays horrible. Now I’m single and I AM going to be brave an go on holiday alone (my kids are grown up now and would rather holiday with their friends than their mum). I did go on one holiday with a friend and it was amazing. Totally different to anything I’d experienced before and that converted me. Sadly (for me and my holidays) my friend is now in a relationship so can’t holiday with me.

I absolutely love a holiday. It just feels very freeing and an escape to me. I need to be away from home sometimes. It gives my brain a break.
But if it's not your thing, it's not. Treat yourself to something you'd really like or enjoy instead.

Totally agree.

Waste of time and money. Especially with the internet, you can be anywhere you want with no hasstle.