To not be a 'holiday person'?

Surely there are things others enjoy that you don't?

Yes, this is the only way it can work for us. We like little log cabins for this reason.

Do you struggle to find joy in other areas of your life ?

It must be something about the Peak District😊I moved to be closer to it and enjoy it every day. I consider travelling further afield but then it’s “nah, I’m happy where I am”.

I completely understand this about loving your home and knowing that often you’re paying hundreds of pounds to stay somewhere that isn’t as nice. The way I get round this is choosing a type of property to stay at that offers something very different to where we live. So, this year we’re going to Italy and both places we’re staying at have balconies/verrandahs with wonderful views - one of the sea and one of the mountains. Both houses (imo) don’t look as nice/comfy etc as our house, but I will love being able to sit and have coffee etc whilst admiring the view. So worth it for that experience. Then also, there’s nothing more lovely than getting back from a holiday to your own home and all your creature comforts!

Totally relate to this.

I find holidays really stressful - the planning, the preparation, the post holiday unpacking etc. To me it’s just more jobs to do, and I always sleep badly elsewhere, so feel tired and grumpy.

I love normal day to day life and really miss this when I go away.

I know quite a few people who aren't fussed about holidays. I still love a holiday but don't have itchy feet like I did when I was younger. More likely now to do a tour rather than organise everything myself to remove some hassle.

I have travelled alone though and loved it, there are loads of less traditional holidays in groups if you don't want to be lonely. I've done birdwatching tours, DH has done coach tours to learn about particular battlefields, I know people who have done painting, cooking, surfing or creative writing residentials. Also golf and skiing in a big organised group full of a high proportion single people. Maybe you'd enjoy something like that?

I absolutely love getting away, even with a toddler. I just crave a bit of time away from the normal routine. My Dp isnt so bothered, he’s someone who sort of thrives in the mundane daily routine of life, everyone is different. Having said that, I’m happy with 3 days camping 45 mins away in the hills , just as much as 2 weeks in a 5 star in Greece. I’m in a bit of a friendship group with local women we all have kids 6mons-8 years and lots of them are obsessed with going abroad, I sometimes think they’re in competition who can book the biggest and best last minute half term trip. Don’t know where they get the money from !

I don't understand this (and all the similar comments e.g. looking at pictures of the pyramids is the same as being there.) It's not the same at all. When you're there, you have the sights but also the sounds, the smells, the whole immersive experience.

I've done a few wildlife holidays and can confirm that seeing wild animals in their natural habitat is a totally different experience from visiting a zoo or wildlife park in this country, and although wildlife documentaries are superb these days, it's just not the same as being there yourself.

Having said that, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to go on holiday; different strokes and all that. I scrimp and save in other areas of life so I can afford to travel a lot, because that's my priority. I realise that others with similar finances would rather have new clothes every season, eat out regularly or replace their car every couple of years. There's no one template for life. Do what makes you happy.

Do what you want to do.

I'm the same. I like my routine and holidays stress me out.

Of course, you can never really say any of this to friends in real life, for worry they'll think you're odd/boring/unadventurous (so I'll probably get it in this thread instead). But does anyone else feel similar to me they they just can't be bothered with holidays?

Well,.I don't go on holidays. There's lots I don't enjoy about it.

But I've never felt the need to hide it from other people or worried what they think of me for it.

Did you take photos?

OP I think a lot of people go on holidays for the kudos and insta / Facebook posts. It’s a bit of what they used to call ‘Keeping up with the Jones”s’. My hairdresser asks me if I’m going anywhere nice. People at work ask. So I think sometimes it’s expected of you so you might feel pressure to conform.

You should do what pleases you. Our dc are grown up so no big 7/14 days holidays anymore as we’re not sunbathing people. We like city breaks for 3/4 nights as we like seeing sights, eating out and walking about. I dislike the faff too and the airport but recently been to European destinations and as only a few nights we don’t take much and it’s a short flight. I also love travelling in the U.K. and spending a couple of nights somewhere different.

It's not just you!

I spent all of my 20s beating myself up for not being like other people my age and totally not being arsed about traveling.

Turns out I'm autistic and can be very sensory averse. Don't like getting hot, don't like crowds, confined spaces near lots of other people, airports, packing etc etc.

I like going places in the uk that i know and am comfortable with. Forests and lakes etc.

Definitely. I won't stop travelling until I am physically incapable of doing it any more. Packing is easy if you have good luggage and use a list.

i used to love a holiday but I think during the Covid years I have got out of the habit. I don’t think I ever loved holidays but it was just another thing we did as we thought we should.

What I will never understand is travelling abroad and not leaving the hotel you are staying in. This is my DB and DSIL.

I would be spending my £650 on something beautiful for my home.

I love a holiday & we spend a lot of our spare money on holidays, city breaks, UK breaks, days out & train trips BUT I am struggling with flying the older I get so we're planning to do more European rail holidays. I love coming home though, there is nothing better than my own bed.

We went away recently and I realized it's four lots of packing and unpacking

Before you leave
When you arrive
When you pack to go home
When you're home

I mean, come on

Is it worth it??

I don’t massively enjoy holidays but I do go on them. If I got unexpected money it would go on something for my house but that’s what makes me happy.

Yanbu

I love holidays.

My parents in law haven't been on holiday in 10 years, they said they used to go Spain/turkey etc every year until they suddenly came to the realisation they were only going because 'its what people do' and they realised they'd much prefer a week chillin at home with their home comforts instead of going away.

They occasionally do an odd night in lakes etc, but have no interest in a holiday.

Everyone's different

I didn't know how to vote because I love travelling and definitely don't agree that holidays aren't worth the effort. However, that doesn't mean that I think you are unreasonable for not wanting to bother and I don't think you should travel if you don't really want to.

Yes, I've done that and had a nice time. But it doesn't take help with the travel stress. I honestly find that bit so horrible now, it's put me off going.

I like a short holiday, max four nights, once a year, in the UK.
A foreign trip, max six nights, abroad, about ever 5 years.
That's plenty. I think lots of people are not keen on holidays. I'd rather go to a wonderful concert or a special walk from home.