To ask what is the nicest thing you do for yourself

I got myself a horse last year. I have always wanted one so now my treat is fresh air, peace and quiet, thinking time and soon also sunshine whilst hanging out with him.

Oh and walk the scenic route to work.

A coffee in bed in the morning with the windows open for fresh air and to hear the birds sing.

That, and hair masks.

Once a week I cook a meal just for myself (dc at exh's overnight) and focus on what I really want, not just what my children will actually eat. Never fancy but always the best meal of the week.

I make sure we have nice biccies in to have with my evening coffee.

I've recently started making time for myself to learn another language because I've always wanted to.

I sometimes put on a wax melt and some candles when I have a bath or shower to de-stress.

Before walking the dog on a cold day, I put the heating on so that when we get home it's lovely and warm.

A cleaner once a fortnight. Coming home on the day she has been is bliss.
Wine
Candles( unscented)
Yoga once a week as I need to work on my balance.
Spending time in the garden
Swimming in the sea.

I got an eyelash lift and tint and have a haircut booked this weekend. Also bit the bullet and added swimming to my exercise routine and I feel so much better for it!

When I was going through chemo I did exactly the same, it made me feel a lot better than hoovering my hair every day.

the other things i did that made me feel better

• a bath twice a week with lovely epsom salts and infused oils followed by a lovely cream applied on all my body including scalp
• a weekly walk with friends
• preparing for the moonwalk
• my sister and friends and husband and children giving me so much love

please take one day at a time. Chemo is shit. Take care

Since he arrived last summer I spend one entire day every week with my friend her daughter and the daughters lovely perfect little baby.. it has been over twenty years since I last fed/winded/bathed/sung to/played with a baby (no grand kids yet) and after a dreadful last couple of years it is bringing so much happiness to my life. I look forward to it every week.

Learn to say No and please myself.
Eat well, sleep well and plenty of exercise.
Grow a beautiful garden.
Decorate my home to my personal taste.
Rest when tired.
Surround myself with my 3 lovely cats.
Plenty of peace and quiet.

Travelling as much as I can and getting tickets for the theatre, opera etc

@LoudPlumDogso very sorry for your loss.

I've arranged my bedroom so it's like a hotel room. Anything I don't use currently and regularly has been banished to storage so I'm organised and clutter free, like I've just unpacked on holiday. I have my little luxuries, nice products and towels, lovely bedding, and all sorts of little comforts at hand, so every night is like staying in a place where the reviews say 'thought of everything'. It makes me very happy.

Treat myself to art supplies I don't actually need but enjoy, then giving myself time to play with them.

Use essential oils in a diffuser and in a diffuser pendant so I can be surrounded by beautiful scents that calm and uplift me.

Try to get plenty of steps every day. I've noticed fewer muscle and joint aches since keeping track. My daily routine doesn't often require it, so it takes a conscious effort.

Full body hair removal, face mask, body exfoliator, face exfoliator, foot scrub and pushing my cuticles back!

I have a cat, sitting with him on my lamp makes me very happy and relaxed.

This sounds amazing, but what’s an everything bath?! I feel like such a thing may be much better than my standard baths…

Membership at Tate. I love art and between Tate Britain and Tate Modern I have a really lovely time.

Regularly buy myself fresh flowers - or pick them myself at certain times of year.
Sometimes a whole body massage or facial.

I say no thank you to things I don't want to do and avoid people I don't want to spend time with

Nails done every three weeks-makes me very happy! I also love a hot bath (with a book) and my heated throw!

Ive started being consistent with exercise.
I do reformer pilates and just book on random classes, so I go by time I can get there rather than the aim of the class, so sometimes it's really hard core sometimes it concentrates on legs or cardio and other times it maybe gentle stretching. It's expensive but I love it.

I've also been consistent with my weight training.

The other thing I've started doing is going to a health spa two Tuesday afternoons a month by myself and when that has finished meet one of my friends in the bar area for either something to eat or a coffee.

yoga every morning

I figured out how to turn my car climate control remotely, so now I turn it on when we stop at the train station just before mine, or 10 minutes before I go outside in the morning. Getting into a warm defrosted car is bliss!

Mumsnetting in the bath is another good one.

Listening to the radio or watching a record tv programme in peace, while burrowing under a heated throw.
Chocolate from the fridge.