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Teams messages: Hi

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Ultravox · 14/03/2025 10:45

AIBU to hate it when a colleague starts off a conversation like this?

Colleague: Hi

Me: Hi

Colleague: How are you?

Me: I’m fine thanks - how are you?

Colleague: I’m fine. Can you send me that sales spreadsheet please?

I mean I guess I don’t have to ask them how they are, but it feels rude not to after they have asked how I am! But really, are either of us going to type about how we really are on a teams chat? And without any context of what they actually want I can’t really say how busy I am. Honestly it would save so much time if they just wrote

Hi Ultravox. Could you send me that sales spreadsheet please?

YABU: you are a killjoy - they are just being nice and you should smalltalk for a bit and ask them how they are too

YANBU: it’s a waste of time and typing - just cut to the chase!

OP posts:
Couldyounot · 14/03/2025 10:56

"Hi Couldyounot"

Bloggs, Joe is typing...

[minutes pass]

FFS JUST TYPE IT ALL OUT IN ONE GO YOU UTTER SOCIOPATH

TallulahBetty · 14/03/2025 10:56

FortyElephants · 14/03/2025 10:46

I HATE receiving a 'hi' message. It's perfectly fine to write 'hi X, hope you're well, please could you do XYZ task? Thanks'

This., It's fine to make small talk, but put it all in the opening message ffs!

Hi Brenda, good weekend? Can you send those figures please?

DONE IN ONE

NeverHadHaveHas · 14/03/2025 10:56

This drives me absolutely insane.. I just ignore them completely

sunbum · 14/03/2025 10:55

i just ignore them until they cut to the chase and say what they want

its2025 · 14/03/2025 10:55

Oh I'm totally with you @Ultravox It drives me mad... Messages like this:
"Hi"
"How are you today"
"You know that project xyz"
"I wanted to ask you a question"

Gah!!! all on separate messages!!!! each one ping ping ping. Just put your question and a hello all in one message FGS!!!!

loropianalover · 14/03/2025 10:54

My old boss used to just say ‘Loropiana?’ and leave it there until I responded - drove me nuts!!!

ShortColdandGrey · 14/03/2025 10:53

If someone starts a message with 'Hi' and they are a part of my team I usually reply with 'What do you want'. The last one that sent 'Hi' I just replied 'No' 😂He then messaged about 5 minutes later saying he couldn't stop laughing and could I please send him xyz.

CrazyFTM88 · 14/03/2025 10:52

I always directly reply with "what's up" or, if someone more senior "how can I help". I hate it too. I know there is a request coming, don't waste my time.

ScarletWitchM · 14/03/2025 10:51

It’s my biggest peeve at the moment - we do a lot of our work via teams and I’m so fed up with the hi, how are you, messages with no follow up so now I don’t reply unless they give more context or I have time to chat

Woahtherehoney · 14/03/2025 10:51

YANBU! Search no hello on google - its a whole thing.

I have a status message on my teams that says “please don’t just say hello - please include what you need from me in your message”

I don’t mind if people say “hi how’re you? Can you send me XYZ please” but don’t leave me hanging with just a hello! You wouldn’t do it to someone in person or on the phone.

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/03/2025 10:51

There was a thread a few days ago from an OP who found it rude and offensive when colleagues didn’t go through the motions of saying “hi, how are you, how’s your day?” before making a request, so you can’t win.

Stafanko · 14/03/2025 10:47

I can't vote as both are true! It is a waste of time and annoying - however, they are just being nice so it's not worth the hassle and better to go along with it for the sake of 30 seconds.
Messages like this drive me mad too but I've come to realise im the minority and swallow my irritation 😄

FortyElephants · 14/03/2025 10:46

I HATE receiving a 'hi' message. It's perfectly fine to write 'hi X, hope you're well, please could you do XYZ task? Thanks'