NC for obvious reasons. Apologies if it's long.
My DGM's funeral is next week and I'm wanting to write something for me and DB to honour the significance she had on our lives. I wish to do this mindfully but without filtering our truth.
For context: We were very much raised by our DGP's and in every way, expect conception, my DGM was our mother. It was them who took us to school, who picked us up when we were down, who shared life experiences with. Without them it's likely we wouldn't know what it was like to be loved and cared for. Our own mother (their daughter) neglected, abused and often exploited us, not just in childhood but also as an adult. I am LC with her.
My mum will be at the funeral and has so far took on the devoted grieving daughter role and excluded me and DB from arrangements. I'm trying to refrain from making us a target on the day but I want to remain true to myself and recognise my DGM for everything she was to us. Obviously circumstances won't be mentioned.
AIBU to do this or is the upset just not worth it? WWYD?