Content Warning (concerns S.A.) Added by MNHQ - To have expected more from school safeguarding

I work in a school & 100% agree with this! ⬆️ Please report this dreadful comment to the SLT & make an official complaint to the school governors. Utterly awful things to say & hugely unprofessional.

So sorry you were treated like that.

The behaviour of school staff is absolutely disgusting and irresponsible. It doesn’t make any sense either. Do they really believe that bullying a rape victim into complying with their ridiculous demands will bring good results?.Good on you for complaining and hopefully you have the strength to push this if the head doesn’t react accordingly.

Hugs to you and your daughter.

I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. This is beyond ridiculous and honestly am disgusted at their behaviour.

Bloody hell this school is terrible. When you get an acknowledgement of your complaint, add this in. How can these teachers be so boneheaded? It’s a therapy session at Rape Crisis, not a holiday!

At this point we might be considering resits. Poor darling has been through helll.

I would complain immediately to the head and board of governors. That person needs to be removed from safe guarding Jesus.

I have only read the first page of this (I must admit) but my initial reaction is why are they making her do mocks ? The results are almost bound to be affected, how can the poor girl revise?
In a former life when I was a teacher a girl in my tutor group was raped on the first day of study leave whilst she was taking a break from studying. She was told by the school to come in for exams if she felt ok but otherwise her grades would be awarded after special consideration.
Let your daughter dictate the pace.

I am sick and tired of hearing this trendy word "resilience" - it has become a substitute for empathy and simple common sense.

It gets worse and worse. What planet is that maths teacher on??

Some schools are hopeless in a crisis. Granted, you don't want to disrupt DD's life more than inevitable, but reading through your posts, taking her out of this school may be the way to go.

It would also have the advantage that then you can really let them have it. They deserve all the grief you can give them and more for treating your daughter like that.

So sorry about what your daughter has gone through. I hope you all find healing.

I’m so sorry, what a horrendous experience for your daughter.
absolutely crass, vile comment from the safeguarding lead. That person needs retraining or replacing.

Please make sure you get some support for yourself, perhaps via your GP or Rape Crisis. I hope your daughter has all the professional support she needs.

Speechless. How can that person be in the job they are

Hugs to you and your daughter

Edited because I'd missed a word out in my rage

So sorry to hear this, you all must be in a terrible place. These interactions with school aren't helpful!
I'd firstly read the school policies around anything relatable and see if there's anything in there to help. I'd also contact the exam boards and council for guidance. Do you know what your DD wants or is she just unable to think straight?
Good luck with everything, and if the exams are for a uni place maybe speak ton the university for support or UCAS

Honestly I am utterly horrified by the response from the safeguarding teacher. Teachers as humans are capable of all of the character flaws out there and this person has some fatal ones.

I think I would focus your energy for now on the situation at home and not get dragged into too much energy on the school.

Any senior manager who would give a person with that type of character a safe guarding role is not someone I would want to invest too much energy on given what your family are dealing with.

Focus on your daughter, the police investigation and your own mental health all going well she will not be dealing with that school ever again after the summer. It is clearly a very poor environment for her.

I'd suggest she go fuck herself energetically with the largest, pointy object she can find and see how quickly she bounces back. Bitch.

what a total bitch I am sorry but rape and SA take a lot of coming to terms with note I did not say getting over or forgetting because believe me you do not but you learn to live with it eventually. It is early days as you said the family are having to be dealt with don't tell me they think he is innocent and akin to an angel. she will also have the court case I hope she will get lots of help. Exams can be taken again when she feels stronger and if it does not happen now so be it it is least of her problems. Give her my love and I send you lots of strength and hope some how you can both get through this

This is shocking and while I would expect a quick response from the head, a few hours is overly optimistic. I'd chase if I hadn't had at least a holding reply by midday Monday. Heads' days can be very variable and they are often in meetings which cannot be postponed or called into deal with very urgent staffing and safeguarding matters happening at the school.

They may not get a chance to look at correspondence until after the school day has finished.

Wow, they’re acting as if she’s been involved in a minor scuffle with another girl or something, not a serious sexual assault. Complain to whoever will listen and take it further if they don’t!

Would she consider maybe taking some time out and sitting her exams next year instead? If not, you should be able to get some special considerations for her I would think.

I Hope you can all start to heal in the near future.

The principal is likely getting information from various teachers and also the exams officer as to how to proceed. So it's wise to wait for a response.

That's shocking, dont just complain to the school. Report the DSL to the LADO (Local area designated officer) who sits on the multi agency panel with the police at the LA level. Google your LA name and LADO contact details and should find them.

Obviously the DSL was wrong and, at the very least, needs retraining. To be honest, it sounds as if she is in the wrong job. Ask to talk to the head of pastoral (sometimes called deputy head, pastoral) for some reason. They are trained in this and are generally kind and empathetic. They can put support in place at a school level.

But taking mocks does have value, both the sitting of the papers themselves and also going through them in class afterwards. If your daughter finds school too traumatic, they can also be sat at home. Of course, they don’t have the same value as evidence that way, but it is still a useful process and also keeps your daughter in a degree of routine.

I am not sure if I have ever taught a pupil who has experienced what your daughter has gone through. As a subject teacher, I doubt I would have been told. But I have taught pupils who have suffered other forms of serious trauma and, to be honest, they all react differently. Some are desperate to keep to routine and others go AWOL for a while. All a teacher can do is be sympathetic and help as much as possible.

And, yes, you should consider applying for ‘special consideration’. It is really hard to get these days but your daughter has a good case. You should be aware, though, that it is a small upward adjustment and won’t turn a C into an A.

Finally, it is about what your daughter wants and is emotionally capable of. The school needs to work around that.

I'm so sorry for what you and your precious DD are going through. It's absolutely disgusting the way the school is behaving.

All they care about is results and it's taken their humanity.

You're doing all you can for her OP. We can all see that. You're both being so brave ❤