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Would you resent me if I was your employee or colleague ?

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Jimisnotmyname · 14/03/2025 07:03

DC is seriously ill and inpatient in hospital. Expected to be in for several months. I have been asked by the hospital to be on side to help with various aspects of their care. In theory, I could take my notebook in and work from the ward (and do some catch up at night from home) but I am not coping. I am falling apart and not coping with anything. Would I be unreasonable to take sick leave? We get 6 months on full pay. I have been with my employer for over a decade and only was once off sick for a month (after major surgery). It would mean my colleague's holiday will have to be cancelled and I would let a lot of people down in my department and I feel hugely guilty about that. But I don't know what else to do. I know the decent thing would be to resign but I need the sick pay to cover bills. Please be honest.

yabu - suck it up and carry on working or resign.
yanbu - get signed off

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Loopytiles · 14/03/2025 07:07

the sick leave would need to be for mental health reasons, not the practicalities of being there for your DC

Agix · 14/03/2025 07:07

Explain the situation and that you need to take sick time, but say that you can go back to cover colleagues holiday temporarily?

Loopytiles · 14/03/2025 07:06

Very sorry your daughter is unwell. Yes, take the time off sick. Covering the work is for managers to organise.

UndermyShoeJoe · 14/03/2025 07:06

The person who’s holiday would be cancelled and loose out on what they have paid would be very mad I’d expect. Not exactly your fault but not really fair either the company should sort cover.

Dealormeal · 14/03/2025 07:05

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TokyoSushi · 14/03/2025 07:05

Get signed off.

Surely there’s a way around cancelling your colleagues holiday. I’m sorry to hear about your DC, I hope that things improve very soon.

Dealormeal · 14/03/2025 07:05

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