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DH accidentally let baby eat some cinnamon bun?

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August24Mama · 13/03/2025 22:56

AIBU to be annoyed by this... DH had my 6mo and he was eating a cinnamon bun. He said baby grabbed it (she's very fast with her hands) and brought it to her mouth. He immediately stopped her but not before he said she ate a tiny amount of it. Baby is acting fine and no reactions or anything but I'm still annoyed? I'm strict with what she eats don't want her eating processed foods, and obviously no added sugars until 2. She's only had a handful of freshly made fruits and veggies since starting solids at 6 months, I guess now we can add cinnamon bun to the list.

AIBU to be annoyed when it was an accident? I didn't go mad at him or anything but it's been nagging at me since it happened.

OP posts:
zingally · 14/03/2025 16:29

This is 100% a non issue, and something you should be laughing about with your DH. Not hand-wringing on MN.

jellyfishperiwinkle · 14/03/2025 15:51

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 14/03/2025 04:19

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This made me genuinely chuckle!

DD’s first food age 5 months was a fistful of icing off a piece of carrot cake. She was fast and rammed most of her fist in her mouth before we could blink.

I stepped it up further on the baby led weaning with DD2 when she had crawled into the kitchen and was joyfully munching on half a bowl of Iams.

wishiwasjoking · 14/03/2025 15:24

yeah definitely not straight nutella even for a baby gangster, you want to cut it with something black market first

Errors · 14/03/2025 14:45

August24Mama · 14/03/2025 13:53

The majority of replies have been lovely and helpful. Also lots of good advice about weaning in general, took a lot of pressure and stress off my shoulders. Now I realize I don't have to be so strict on everything, obviously I'm not gonna start feeding her straight nutella, but the odd slip up isn't the end of the world.

Thank you to all the lovely people offering real advice, compassion and help. I appreciate it more than you know. You were all very patient and understanding about my stress over what I now know was a non-issue. I'm like a parrot repeating myself haha but thanks to all the nice comments again <3

Now hopefully this thread gets locked because it's blown up way more than I intended😂😂 People getting mad about me being worried about my baby is a bit strange. I'm a FTM and never even held a baby before having my daughter, and I don't have anyone to teach me these things. Throw in PPA on top of that and I admit I can get stressed about what are realistically, non-issues. I'm just trying my best just the same as the rest of you.

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Aw OP. You sound like an incredible mum. Fair play to you ❤️

LyingSmilingInTheDark · 14/03/2025 14:30

Jimisnotmyname · 14/03/2025 14:06

what on earth is the problem? It's a cinnamon bun. yum!

We all beg you to RTFT!!!!!!

Jimisnotmyname · 14/03/2025 14:06

what on earth is the problem? It's a cinnamon bun. yum!

August24Mama · 14/03/2025 13:53

The majority of replies have been lovely and helpful. Also lots of good advice about weaning in general, took a lot of pressure and stress off my shoulders. Now I realize I don't have to be so strict on everything, obviously I'm not gonna start feeding her straight nutella, but the odd slip up isn't the end of the world.

Thank you to all the lovely people offering real advice, compassion and help. I appreciate it more than you know. You were all very patient and understanding about my stress over what I now know was a non-issue. I'm like a parrot repeating myself haha but thanks to all the nice comments again <3

Now hopefully this thread gets locked because it's blown up way more than I intended😂😂 People getting mad about me being worried about my baby is a bit strange. I'm a FTM and never even held a baby before having my daughter, and I don't have anyone to teach me these things. Throw in PPA on top of that and I admit I can get stressed about what are realistically, non-issues. I'm just trying my best just the same as the rest of you.

OP posts:
whatsthatBout · 14/03/2025 13:46

Rh0dedenr0n · 14/03/2025 11:21

Not having a go at you OP, but i've witnessed this too with two friends of DD. Their diets (and lives) were so strictly controlled that when they came to my home, where my children have a very healthy balanced attitude to food, these kids went wild. I can trust my kids to have balanced snacks, when they're hungry, but these kids just saw unlimited access to the treats and ate so much they were sick. They weren't babies either, these were nine year olds, I didn't expect I would have to be monitoring their every movement in the other room, lesson learnt!

Anyway, you know you need to have more help with your anxiety, which is good. i think in reality kids need far less strictly controlled lives than all the parenting gurus would have you believe. If you model healthy behaviours and give firm but fair boundaries, with mature explanations, kids turn out fine. Anything extreme is a bad idea

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Totally agree. Kids are fine with moderation and balance. I do mainly home-cooked food from scratch but once a week or so it’s a quick birdseye nuggets and waffles! We have lots of fresh fruit and veg and healthy snacks but I’m also fine taking my DC to McDonald’s and I was never bothered about the odd fruit shoot when they were little. We have a house full of books and read constantly to them when they were small, we did loads of crafts and had plenty of fresh air/outdoor time. They also watched TV from toddler age and had tablets. They are secondary age now and the few ‘no screen time at all! Only organic food!’ kids have not turned out any better or more amazing.

August24Mama · 14/03/2025 13:45

TyneTeas · 14/03/2025 13:42

Report your post and ask MNHQ if they can lock it or amend your OP to tell people to RTFT

Thank you for your help, I reported the thread. It wont let me edit for some reason. :(

I don't mind but it's getting a bit much now😂 I do appreciate and notice the nice comments though. I don't mean to focus on the negative, most of you have been lovely and understanding, and I really appreciate it. I've loved reading everyones stories of similar things happening too haha, the nice comments really made me feel a lot better. Also a bit stupid for even worrying about it in the first place haha.

OP posts:
Rainingalldayonmyhead · 14/03/2025 13:42

Sapienza · 13/03/2025 23:29

I can only presume that the OP is Joan Doyle who is once again confusing cinnamon and cocaine.

It is hard sometimes to tell the difference. 😂

TyneTeas · 14/03/2025 13:42

August24Mama · 14/03/2025 13:41

How do I lock/delete a post? My notifications are flooded with people who don't bother reading the thread and just being plain mean. Ok I get it some of you don't worry about things like this, but you don't need to try and make me feel like shit for worrying about my child. As I said in multiple posts, I get that I overreacted, I have severe PPA, damn. I understood I overreacted and had a laugh over it when I read the first 10 replies to this thread. I will work on that.

Some of you really have the time to be nitpicking everything I say? I wish I had that much spare time 😂😂

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Report your post and ask MNHQ if they can lock it or amend your OP to tell people to RTFT

August24Mama · 14/03/2025 13:41

How do I lock/delete a post? My notifications are flooded with people who don't bother reading the thread and just being plain mean. Ok I get it some of you don't worry about things like this, but you don't need to try and make me feel like shit for worrying about my child. As I said in multiple posts, I get that I overreacted, I have severe PPA, damn. I understood I overreacted and had a laugh over it when I read the first 10 replies to this thread. I will work on that.

Some of you really have the time to be nitpicking everything I say? I wish I had that much spare time 😂😂

OP posts:
Rainingalldayonmyhead · 14/03/2025 13:35

bananascentedhair · 14/03/2025 11:09

I think we have all been there as first time parents panicking over things like this. I remember losing my mind when I couldn’t remember if I had sterilised my babies bottles or not in the haze of tiredness.

i started worrying less when I took my son to soft play for the first time and he ate some discarded raisins from the floor whilst I was looking elsewhere for a nano second!

all will be well, everyday is a new day with little ones x

Sorry I don’t agree. We haven’t all been there for things like this and panicked but yea we all worry as parents. I would suggest this post is on the higher end of worrying over nothing than other things.

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 14/03/2025 13:30

Triakne · 14/03/2025 09:41

Have you bothered to read the thread before you commented? OP has a diagnosed anxiety disorder. Was there really a need to post such a spiteful comment?

It’s called humour and she didn’t say that she had an anxiety disorder on her original post. Still a massive overreaction which many many many other people have said.

Kitkat2065 · 14/03/2025 13:23

DelphiniumHolly · 13/03/2025 23:00

It’s just a bit of bun…

Wait until baby is crawling and eating chips off the floor at soft play.

Mine ate the blueberries he found under the fridge the other day 🤣 oh and my baby girl ate crackers I'd just chucked in the bin when I dared to nip for a wee. Both still alive

Siriusmuggle · 14/03/2025 13:16

Cinnamon buns are lush. Congratulations on raising a child with great taste.

Arraminta · 14/03/2025 12:40

I recall toddler DD1 happily licking the nose/mouth of my cousin's dog. She then went on to become a total Sugar Fiend. But she still went on to play two sports at County Level.

Honestly it really, really doesn't matter what they eat so long as most of their diet is healthy.

oakleaffy · 14/03/2025 12:34

August24Mama · 13/03/2025 23:36

Okay I'm gonna leave it at that. Thank you for all your responses! (The nice and helpful ones at least..)

I know now I was stressing over nothing, I wasn't diagnosed with PPA for no reason lol. I need to remember that in times of overthinking everything. I can now laugh and move on, she seemed to enjoy it too so at least she had fun lol. Thank you again! :)

Well done, @August24Mama .
I was very worried about DS in other ways as a baby- I didn't want to leave him with anyone- I wanted him within my line of sight at all times. {Probably instinctive} when they are so very young.

Startingoverandover · 14/03/2025 12:29

MichaelandKirk · 14/03/2025 11:37

You are massively overeacting or maybe this is a wind up?

Or maybe you haven't read the OP's posts?

oakleaffy · 14/03/2025 12:28

@August24Mama Sugar {actual sugar, not sweeteners} is fine.
I was forbidden sugar by adoptive mum, and sugar became a total passion...I became obsessed with sweets and sugary stuff.

If I wanted to make a sugar addicted child, I'd ''ban'' sugar , so it had a special currency to it.

My son was allowed sugar - completely unrestricted, and his teeth and body size {lean} were perfect. {He's an adult now}

He hasn't got a sweet tooth at all, sugar has no ''specialness'' to it.

A cinnamon bun, or quality ice cream is fine.

MrsMitford3 · 14/03/2025 12:22

Toddler DD ate a whole bag of goat food at Odd's Farm. 🐐

oakleaffy · 14/03/2025 12:21

It's a gateway bun for a full on Greggs habit. {Other bakeries are available}.

A baby will eat a lot worse than that when they become mobile.

AliasGrape · 14/03/2025 12:06

ConnieSlow · 14/03/2025 10:25

Ok you realised you are being unreasonable but please get over this nonsense about no sugar before 2. Have seen so many people have these dumb rules and their children are the WORST.
Friend who did this and their child is absolutely obsessed with junk food and stuffs their face at any chance they get, yet friend proudly thinks differently.
DC friend is banned screen times, games or anything related and he is OBSESSED with it, yet the mum is proud of having a house with only books.

Absolutely everything in moderation and teach your kids healthy habits and boundaries, don't hold these things as forbidden fruit.

See this is the argument that convinced me to be a bit more relaxed with sugar and sweet treats once mine was over 12 months. I had a good friend with a baby of a similar age, who never allowed her to touch the slightest speck of processed sugar, not allowed the biscuit all the other kids got at playgroup, no chocolate advent calendars at Christmas, no easter eggs, no ice creams at the seaside. I remember when she'd be saying no to birthday cake at parties and offering cherry tomatoes instead and I was feeling smug like 'just you wait till they're older, my kid is going to be so well balanced and yours will be obsessed'.

Except guess what, my kid is fucking obsessed with sugar, would sell her grandmother for a kinder bueno and doesn't seem to have picked up any of this promised balance and moderation she was supposed to be learning. Friend's child will still turn down chocolate/ biscuits, doesn't like them, whilst my child helpfully offers to eat them for her.

I do think that it's a comforting story we tell ourselves and I wish I'd been a bit stricter for a bit longer.

@August24Mama I have definitely been there. I was going to wait till 6 months on the dot, and had a careful plan of which foods I was going to feed and in what order. A week before DD turned 6 months she swiped a piece of thickly-lurpaked toast out of my sister's hand and stuffed it in her mouth. I was honestly horrified, I remember squeaking in dismay at my sister 'it's SALTED butter!!!!!' whilst my sister just laughed. And I do laugh about it now. But it's ok that you really care about how you're weaning and want to get it right. We all have our PFB moments.

RaspberryBeretxx · 14/03/2025 12:04

I've read all your updates but do please do try not to worry. Cinamon bun at 6 months is fine! I would have probably given baby a little piece on purpose. My DS was on my knee at 4 months and leaned forward and took a huge bite of my scone with cream and jam (accidentally!). He was totally fine.

ERthree · 14/03/2025 12:02

Katiesaidthat · 14/03/2025 10:18

My daughter licked the wheel of her puschair as we arrived home from the metro. Unclench. You have a very very very long way ahead of you.

one day when my first was 8 months and crawling my then husband popped in from work, we were stood in the hallway talking i looked down and the baby was chewing his laces, he worked on aircraft so were covered in oil, hydraulic fluid and aircraft fuel. No side effects, no anxiety, no hospital visit, she lived.