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I want the house only in my name?

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Flower0782 · 13/03/2025 21:54

Will try and keep this short. Before my husband and I got married we discussed what would potentially happen with my father’s house in the future. As I am an only child it’s likely that my dad’s house would be left to me. My husband who at the time was my partner said that he wouldn’t expect his name to go on anything and if he would be happy to sign a prenup if that’s what I wanted. Fast forward 15 years, we have been married for nearly 5 years (no prenup). The subject came up again recently. I basically said to him if I were to sell my dad’s house and buy one for us to live in, the house would only be in my name as we do not know what the future holds. He could obviously treat it as his home also, and I would not constantly be reminding him that it’s “my house”. He has said seen as we are married the house should be in both our names and if I’m not willing to put his name on it then he is not interested in moving into it. None of this has actually happened yet, but it has got me worried for what is going to happen in the future. I’m really here to ask AIBU for only wanting to put my name and not my husbands on a house that would be bought with my inheritance?

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ChewbaccaAteMyHamster · 13/03/2025 22:02

I have just inherited my Fathers house as he has just died and my DH will be sharing in that equally with me. It is OUR inheritance in my eyes as we are a team. Anything of mine is his and vice versa. I would want us both to benefit as equals because we love each other. When his DD passes and he inherits he will do the same.

SleepDeprivedButAlive · 13/03/2025 22:01

Why did you marry him if you're not interested in sharing your finances and assets?

You're married. Even if you buy a property in your sole name, you have certain legal responsibilities with your assets if you divorce. You won't protect your inheritance this way.

Speak to a lawyer. Probably about a divorce before your dad dies.

Hibernatingtilspring · 13/03/2025 22:00

Also I think your husband is being very sensible about saying he wouldn't move in somewhere that could potentially leave him very vulnerable if anything were to go wrong (though as I said, I suspect that being married means that he would have some rights automatically)

MolkosTeenageAngst · 13/03/2025 22:00

Why did you get married if you don’t want to legally be a couple with joint assets?

BendingSpoons · 13/03/2025 22:00

As you are married, I don't think it's legally as simple as just keeping the house in your name. It would be considered a shared asset in the case of divorce.

Flower0782 · 13/03/2025 21:59

Yes he is still alive.

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PineConeOrDogPoo · 13/03/2025 21:58

What would you think if the situation were reversed?

Hibernatingtilspring · 13/03/2025 21:58

Regardless of whether you added his name, if you're married it would ordinarily become a shared asset? I'm not sure if there's a legal way of protecting that, but honestly I'm unsure why you went the marriage route when that typically means that money is family money rather than separate - it's not much of a team,?

Hercisback1 · 13/03/2025 21:58

Of this was the sexes reveresed you'd be having your arse handed to you.

Why don't you want his name on it? Presumably you will jointly leave it to your kids...

BruceAndNosh · 13/03/2025 21:56

It's unclear. Is your father still alive?

Flower0782 · 13/03/2025 21:55

We also have 3 children together.

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