I want the house only in my name?

Maybe wait until your dad dies before you ponder over what to do with his house THAT HE IS CURRENTLY STILL LIVING IN.

I doubt this is true, once she inherits it becomes a marital asset as far as I know. If she's planning to divorce him it's a case of getting it done and sorted before she inherits.

You can't. You are married so it's a shared asset whoever's name it is or isn't in.

Hmm, me and my wife are going through this at the moment only slightly different. When we got together she already owned property, and although legally when we married that became shared, we both still viewed it as "hers", she worked hard and bought it herself. When we split a few years ago I didn't want anything from the house. Fast forward a few years however and we manage to patch things up. She wants to sell the property and buy a new home for us both. The solicitor specifically made us sign documents stating what percentage of the property belongs to who. My wife had to sign a document accepting that she alone is paying the deposit, then choose whether to 50/50 with me, or pick a percentage, or have full rights to the house without my name. She decided to be joint owners all the way, but that was her choice. I have contributed nothing to this new house.
I think this is a hard one because I understand this is your sole inheritance and maybe a safety blanket for you? But Ialso understand your husbands point. I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. Maybe you need to figure out why you're so hesitant to name him, and maybe he needs to figure out why he feels so insecure about it. I understand married couples share everything, but I believe sometimes, some things can be just yours, and that should be okay. Either sex/gender. My wife's car doesn't belong to me, it's hers, she bought it. I don't even drive.

How would you feel if the tables were turned? Would you feel that you were living in his house?
if you divorced, the matrimonial home might be split between you both anyway.

Sorry OP but this 100 times this.

it is the only way

Bin him. Then it will be moot.

@Flower0782
He doesn't sound like a partner, he sounds more 'you do as I say & I'll do as I please'.
In your shoes would be thinking seriously about what's in my long term best interests and weighing up whether I should stay in the marriage.

Horse. Stable. Bolted.

You’re two decades and three kids deep and this is the hill? As PP have stated, if the genders were reversed, people would rightly be barbecuing you.

Edited: Are your updates(drip feed) genuine or are you trying to make yourself seem more reasonable? How quiet you’ve gone makes me think the latter.

It’s not as simple as keeping something ‘in your name’. It would be a marital asset and would be taken into account should you divorce in the future. All assets including pensions and all properties owned by both of you no matter in which name they are would be included in a financial agreement. Inherited property may be excluded if the value of it is not needed to ensure both parties are adequately and equally housed, but if the value of it is needed in the split to ensure you are both housed properly then it will be included along with any other assets. (In England)

If you buy a house with your inheritance then whether or not it is in joint names or bought in your sole name it will be the family home and will be treated as a family asset if you divorce.

If you divorce the court would look at both of your housing needs as you have children who need two homes even if it isn't equal Co-parenting.

You could get a family lawyer to draw up a post nup (an after marriage prenup) but the court would only take it into account if the terms of the agreement are fair and the post nup would not be deemed fair if only one of you has accommodation to house the children after a long marriage with children who need two homes.

The best thing you can do is invest the time into seeing if your husband will change - perhaps through professional marriage counselling. If that doesn't work you need a financial order as part of any divorce to say that your husband had no claims on any assets and nor do you - for example, on any inheritance he might get from his family or his pension - depending on the value in comparison to the amount of your inheritance.

@Hibernatingtilspring Can I ask why a person who's married but not named should seek legal advice re being on the deeds? My husband bought the house before we married. We had thought about whether I should be added to the house deeds but were not sure it would matter. A solicitor told us that the only real benefit of being added to the deeds as a joint owner would be that the house would automatically pass to me if he were to die, making the process of probate much quicker. Should be rethink it? Thanks.

@Flower0782

You really need to get some (discreet) legal advice. And it's best to do it before this eventuality becomes an actuality. It will educate you and may also help your dad with any estate planning he may want to do.

Asset 'ownership' can vary from place to place. You need to find out how inheritance is treated where you are. In England, I believe an inheritance is considered a joint asset in some situations. And I'm sure that if you sold the house and bought another 'as the family home' the new home would be a joint asset even if it was in your sole name. You might be able to protect the money you put into it via 'ring fencing' but I'm not even sure about that.

But considering your later posts, you'd be a fool to do anything that would give him any 'rights'. So for now, get legal advice so you know what the situation will actually be and then never discuss the issue with your husband again. Let him think what he likes as long as you know how it will actually be when the time comes.

And give some serious thought as to why you're with him and whether or not you would be better off without him. It may be that 'in the fullness of time' he won't even be part of the equation.

This is not correct. If OP uses the proceeds from her dad’s house to buy a house that she and her DH then move into as their marital home, it will then be a marital asset and he will be entitled to a share in it. Similarly if OP sold the house and didn’t keep the funds solely in her name, they would become a joint asset.

Your poor dad, this is disgusting human greed

@Flower0782 you would be far better to split now than wait until you inherit a house.

Get shut of him, he's a CL.

So sick of reading about men like this. Who do they think they are? I'm so angry for you.

Good luck, please dump his arse.

I think your best plan is to think very very hard now about divorce. I’d have long ago divorced a man who prioritised himself over family life and carrying the load with me, and left me to look after things while he did hobbies, so I’m quite happy to jump to ltb.

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If you want the house to belong solely to you, you need to divorce him before your dad dies. Having it in your name or shared names makes no difference I'll be considered as a shared asset if you divorce and split between you

Wow. You’re arguing over this and you haven’t even inherited the house yet? You are both insane.

I think all of your information should have been in your first post

I don't know why you're together

You should have signed the prenup when offered. You didn't and you cannot now decide unilaterally what your DH will and will not have a right to in future. You can explain your views and ask him to respect that, but he is not obligated to. That is why people have prenups (though as others have said even a prenup may not be respected in court).

If you are worried about him disappearing with half of your inheritance, maybe ask your dad to leave the house to your children rather than to yourself? You need to speak to a lawyer clearly, but that could make it harder for your DH to claim part of it in the event of divorce and then for that part to be left to his second wife/family in the event of his death, which is surely part of your worry here.

You need to check this out with a solicitor clearly. I'm typing this with a glass of wine next to me, but I'm convinced.

What's yours is his and vice versa. That's how marriage works.

You could buy somewhere with a "tenants in common" agreement rather than joint tenants, together with a post-nup.

It wouldn't completely protect you, but if the worse were to happen it might give some protection.

However, your dad is still alive and inheriting his house might never happen (nursing home fees etc). You might want to get the agreements in place now though.

I know plenty of people who have bought a house outright, got married, spouse walks away with half and they've ended up with a mortgage in mid or later life.

To keep the house away from being lost in a divorce your father needs to set up a trust in his will, leaving everything that you would otherwise inherit to the trust, of which you and your children (but not your DH) are the beneficiaries. It would require a solicitor to set up and probably to then be one of the overseeing parties to sign off on the ongoing financial transactions of the trust.

But you're married. It's legally 50/50. Get divorced if you don't want him to be entitled to half.