I want the house only in my name?

I'm not disputing the motivations but marriage = possible divorce= splitting assets. It shouldn't come as surprise to anyone particularly not on here.

This

surely house /assets would go to your kids - maybe have that written in a will /co habitation agreement

your dad is still alive 15yrs later thankfully

Generally because they are the ones making all the sacrifices in the relationship, bearing the children doing all domestic work etc.

Yep, this. I cant think how many times I've read posters being advised to ensure that they get married so that will be entitled to half the house.

If my husband had done this to me I would have left him.

Yes this!!

Your op is about a hypothetical situation. It may never arise.

The real problem is how you describe your relationship in subsequent posts. It sounds dire. Why don't you do a new post about your situation now? Start by dealing with that.

Because he is her husband not her partner and they have shared children. He's not a Johnny come lately new chap.

Sounds like you need to divorce before your dad dies.

In my experience the mindset of many men is as follows:
woman = property of her male partner therefore anything the woman owns is automatically the property of the male partner.

If he lives in it it would be commingling the assets and he would have rights to it. If I was you I would look into buying a place separate to this in the near future, could you get a shared ownership place or something to get you on the housing ladder and stop renting? I say this as we do not know what the future will bring, your dad may sell his house for care. Both my dad and my partner’s have also had partners much younger than them so you really can’t be sure things will stay the same. If you do eventually inherit you could either sell and invest in shares to help pay your share of the mortgage or rent your dad’s house and use the rent money to pay towards your mortgage.

I do not see an issue in protecting your inheritance. If my partner ends up doing that (parents 10 years older than mine) I would be a little miffed but I would just do the same when the time comes. I don’t understand why people think your partner is automatically entitled to half, I do not see myself as entitled to anything my partner may inherit and I don’t think he would feel entitled to anything I do.

Technically, an inheritance is considered to be a non-matrimonial asset but as with anything legal, the rules are riddled with caveats. There's a pretty good explanation of it here... Inheritance & Divorce | Do I Have to Share My Inheritance?
In the OPs case though, if father's house was to be used as the family home, it could quite possibly become considered to be a matrimonial asset (regardless of who is on the deeds) so if she was to move the whole family into it after her father dies, the answer will be decided by the courts.
If OP really thinks the marriage will break down in the future, better to do it now.
As a pp says though, there's no guarantee that the house won't have to have been sold off first to provide for care of her father.

I think it's wrong. It's like winning a lottery. If I won 20 million I would of course share it with my husband 50:50. We get married to share everything. If you didn't want to share, you should have made a prenup or not married at all.

Based on this? Move and divorce. Then the subject won't come up

Marriage means all assets are joint unless there's a pre nup.
If you don't want to share future assets then you need to be legally single before you inherit.

If you aren’t happy, leave now. But remember, your dad’s house isn’t gaureteed to you one day. You have no idea what the future holds for him.

I was an only child, with just my dad left. So I was going to inherit his house. He always said that it was all for me when he died (he was a much older parent when I was born so it was on his mind).

He ended up getting dementia to the point where it was dangerous for everyone for me to care for him, so he had to go into a care home, which meant he had to sell the house and paid out £250k in care home fees before he died.

I was left with what was left - £60k. Wouldn’t have occurred to me to use it for anything other than my family. £60k was paid off the mortgage to allow us to have have more free cash each month. Mortgage/house isn’t even in my name (couldn’t get a joint mortgage as I wasn’t working, we wouldn’t have been able to borrow what we needed), but you know, we are married so I’m protected.

Dh grandmother has just died and she left each grandchild £60k. Dh will pay off the mortgage so we can have a better life with his wages.

Get your dad to leave the house to your kids and not you. Or get him to sign over half now and then leave the other 50% to your kids with some kind o stipulation about you managing these assets until the youngest is 25. Or something.

Not until the asset is in the ops possession.

I voted YABU because you don't seem to understand the legal agreement you entered into when you married.

Divorce now before the house becomes an asset of the marriage. And also, obviously, because you're not happy in this relationship.

Doesn't matter who's name anything is in, its a marital asset

It is if the house becomes the matrimonial home. I thought that was what was being discussed - the family living there and / or using the inheritance money to buy a different home to live in?

Either way, once the property / money is used for the family it 100% gets divided between both parties.

To be thinking this to this degree, you must be working on the basis that it is likely you will get divorced one day. You already seem to see him as “the enemy.”

So you’d be far better off divorcing him now and then anything you get will be just yours anyway.

We are exactly the same, 23 years, unmarried, property is mine. He knows what's in my will - an acceptable lump sum for him (as recommended by solicitor) then the rest to my children and grandchildren. Solicitor said that as long as I'd made some provision for him (it works out at only about 8% of my estate atm not allowing for possible care home fees!) then even if he became a totally different person and challenged the will, the Court would not uphold it. He's useless with money and it's not my fault he hasn't invested in a property of his own. It's getting the balance between head and heart as we love each other dearly and both agree this is fair.

It sounds as if you are already worrying about your financial security & your H is starting to take the piss

If you're married then it's a shared asset regardless. It sounds like you want an exit plan which is no way to live married life imo