What do you think of this family house rule?

Indeed. Only on MN is being a lark rather than an owl considered a moral superiority and the sneering at people who don’t get up at 4am as ‘wasting the day’ and being lazy for having a different body clock is nothing I’ve ever experienced in my entire life.

At weekends the only time I’m up showered and dressed as when I’m leaving the flat - until that point I’m sitting in my dressing gown. And Sundays like today I’m watching tv, drinking coffee and ordering a Deliveroo brunch from my local cafe. - and not a seconds shame or guilt felt.

Not at all. Controlling environments can be abusive too.

You're just proving my point.

Come on people, let's have a sense of perspective here, getting your family dressed before breakfast is not child abuse for goodness sake.

You're missing the underlying point. If OP wants to get dressed before breakfast she's perfectly free to do so, but forcing teenagers (and other adults) to comply with that rule is controlling and makes for a pretty unpleasant environment.

Well in our house we get up and get dressed, we don't hang around in pyjamas. It's just what we prefer, I don't think it morally superior, and I don't care what other people do.

What I take away from this thread is the complete hyperbole from the pyjama crowd - that if your family don't wear pyjamas during the daytime your children will hate you, it's a unhappy and regimented home, you are ridiculous and authoritarian, you are old fashioned, when your children grow up they will cut you off and never visit....

Come on people, let's have a sense of perspective here, getting your family dressed before breakfast is not child abuse for goodness sake.

But it doesn’t HAVE to be a rule! It can just be personal choice. I would hate to live under such regimented conditions. It’s a home, not a prison! A happy home? I don’t think so.

yup

This thread just reminds me how many people think they are morally superior because they get up early, or are always doing something and couldn’t possibly ever just be at home doing nothing. I’ll add to that getting straight up and dressed. There is nothing wrong with people having time at home, not doing anything other than relaxing etc. It is not a moral failing!

I don’t have kids but weekdays I’m straight up and into the shower as I’m working. Saturdays I’m up and out for an exercise class and then usually spend the day doing jobs around the house. Sunday is my one day where I’ll get up, put my dressing gown on and sit on the sofa drinking tea for several hours. A slow Sunday morning is exactly what I need after a busy week. Does that mean I’ll do nothing all day. Maybe, maybe not!

This thread has made me want to order some more pyjamas. There are some really nice ones out there.

That's what I thought when I read bedclothes.

Have you just travelled from the 1850’s?

I’m in the minority of NOT hating it. 😀

But you’re asking everyone what they think of it, when you haven’t said what YOU think of it, because it’s your house, @Porcell.

OP should go the whole hog and demand dinner jackets at mealtimes like in Downton Abbey.

Have you got children?

I think it’s a good rule. The only way I would be in my bedclothes during the day is if I was really ill.

He’s not allowed a view - it’s number 2 on the house rules.

What's the dad's view of this batshittery?

😂😂 no, it’s really not.

Again, different strokes for different folks, @richardosmanstrousers. I love spending time at home, but that doesn’t make me right and @Gogogo12345 wrong - just different.

No you are not actually stuck in the house, why on earth would you be? It’s just a choice people sometimes make.

I would be more concerned about the fact you would go ‘stir crazy’ by spending a day in your own home.

Today I got up, came downstairs in my dressing gown and pjs. I ate breakfast and messed around in my phone until 10am, then (still in dressing gown) cleaned the house from top to bottom (minus the kids rooms, probably require a set of forensic overalls to attempt those...).
Once I had finished I ran myself a bath, got changed into fresh pjs and an oodie and am relaxing until it is time to cook our evening meal.
I could happily spend all weekend at home, it is definitely my happy place especially since work is soul destroying for five days of the week.

I have coffee in bed every morning.

Same.
If you want to be out all the time you might as well buy a tent, it’s a damn sight cheaper 😆

Is your house so uncomfortable and such a horrible place to be that you can't imagine wanting to spend a quiet day at home? I love being at home and we pay enough for it.

Some of my happiest days are just pottering around at home. I might batch cook, bake, do a bit of gardening, watch a film, read a book under my blanket, do some sewing, tidy up or do some sorting. Or, I might do what I've done today after a week of broken sleep and chill on the sofa alternating between watching rubbish on the TV, doom scrolling and watching the birds on the feeders.

You don't like it, fine, you do you. But don't act like your superior to people who don't go stir crazy spending one day in their home.

Have a parenting halo. 🙄

What do they do, then?