Page 21 | What do you think of this family house rule?

Porcell · 2025-03-13T18:38:34+00:00

People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed. This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

CruCru · 13/03/2025 21:03

I think this is an okay rule. I had a similar one during the lockdowns - mainly because spending days on end at home and not even getting dressed is a route to depression.

These days I usually ask / tell my children to get dressed and tooth brushed by 11.

Baabaapurplesheep · 13/03/2025 21:02

It must be you though OP? Otherwise you wouldn’t be getting defensive. I’d hate it, I love a pj day. We all work hard all week and if we have a quiet weekend why not?

Commonsense22 · 13/03/2025 21:01

I had a strict upbringing and not being ad to have breakfast in pyjamas was one of the things I resented the.most.

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 13/03/2025 21:01

How old are the people that have to obey this rule? Does it include adults? I want to come early down in my PJs to get a cup of coffee to take back to bed for a bit.

This rule would make it like living in a Travelodge in my own house. Having get dressed and brush my hair before I can go down for breakfast. Weird.

BlueBatsAndOranges · 13/03/2025 21:00

Gogogo12345 · 13/03/2025 20:53

Well should hope people would be dressed by lunchtime. Breakfast maybe ok in nightwear but lunch is just scummy

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Hardly scummy 🙄

BlueBatsAndOranges · 13/03/2025 20:59

harveythehorse · 13/03/2025 20:57

Being dressed for lunch is fairly normal.

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Not on a weekend when you’ve been working all bloody week or like pp with a newborn baby. Why does it matter?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 13/03/2025 20:58

Porcell · 13/03/2025 18:51

The mum of the house (not saying if it’s me or not) hates the teens slobbing around in pyjamas. She thinks it encourages people to start the day off right and creates a nicer home environment. She doesn’t mind the kids lazing around just not in dirty pyjamas with bo.

Everyone just needs to be dressed with hair not a mess and clean clothes. 5 min job.

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It is you though 😂

Salad666 · 13/03/2025 20:58

SleepingStandingUp · 13/03/2025 20:46

If the kids are coming down in pjs, I very much doubt they've had a shower. Surely we're talking about out of bed and downstairs in pjs, not put of bed, shower and putting last night's PJ's back on

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I see your point. I think in that case, it's fine but at a certain point I'd want them showered and fresh pjs on or possibly leave shower until evening and as long as they've washed face/brushed teeth and brushed hair I think that's acceptable, no?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 13/03/2025 20:58

Fullmoon13 · 13/03/2025 18:50

I’m really intrigued as to who is enforcing this rule.

i wouldn’t be living by it though.

It’s the OP.

BlueBatsAndOranges · 13/03/2025 20:57

Devianinc · 13/03/2025 20:53

And I can say I find weird when you go someone’s house on the weekend and the children are still in the pajamas, it looks messy.

Omg not…not…messy <faints>

harveythehorse · 13/03/2025 20:57

OrangeSlices998 · 13/03/2025 20:31

My MIL has this rule. Must be dressed for lunch, no pyjamas. Lunch is also served at 1215, no exceptions, even immediately after having a baby (lived there temporarily during lockdown with a newborn). Batshit.

Being dressed for lunch is fairly normal.

harveythehorse · 13/03/2025 20:56

So if your children's friends have a sleepover, they all have to emerge the next morning fully 'groomed'??

BountifulPantry · 13/03/2025 20:56

Torture! It’s your home you should be able to relax.

Ponderingwindow · 13/03/2025 20:54

I would hate living that way.

thankfully I am in charge of my house and it is ASD friendly unless there is a special occasion. Everyone wears whatever they want.

Devianinc · 13/03/2025 20:53

And I can say I find weird when you go someone’s house on the weekend and the children are still in the pajamas, it looks messy.

Gogogo12345 · 13/03/2025 20:53

OrangeSlices998 · 13/03/2025 20:31

My MIL has this rule. Must be dressed for lunch, no pyjamas. Lunch is also served at 1215, no exceptions, even immediately after having a baby (lived there temporarily during lockdown with a newborn). Batshit.

Well should hope people would be dressed by lunchtime. Breakfast maybe ok in nightwear but lunch is just scummy

Devianinc · 13/03/2025 20:51

Porcell · 13/03/2025 18:51

The mum of the house (not saying if it’s me or not) hates the teens slobbing around in pyjamas. She thinks it encourages people to start the day off right and creates a nicer home environment. She doesn’t mind the kids lazing around just not in dirty pyjamas with bo.

Everyone just needs to be dressed with hair not a mess and clean clothes. 5 min job.

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I kind of like it. It sets a schedule and a mindset for cleanliness and order. I couldn’t get my kids to do it though but I like the idea of it.

Gogogo12345 · 13/03/2025 20:51

Well no one in my house actually wears nightwear so might as well get dressed before going in the front room ( I have a flat so no stairs)

BusyGreenFinch · 13/03/2025 20:50

My Nan had this house rule. She was very fond of making sure everything appeared perfect (in her mind) to outsiders. She was obsessed with appearances. The reality was quite different.

I would be wary of anyone who admitted to this behaviour.

sleepylittlebunnies · 13/03/2025 20:48

Rules for the sake of having rules.

UnimaginableWindBird · 13/03/2025 20:48

I would hate that. I l like to swan around in a fancy dressing gown pretending to be in a Noel Coward play. If I can't be glamorously louche and eccentric in my own home, what's the point of weekends?

BlueBatsAndOranges · 13/03/2025 20:48

Porcell · 13/03/2025 19:05

Is that not the goal? Independent kids?

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So you hate your kids and want them gone at 18?

Waiting for the update from OP saying they’re her step kids.

Thisismetooaswell · 13/03/2025 20:47

fromthevault · 13/03/2025 18:44

Wtf?

If someone told.me I had to be 'groomed' before coming downstairs in my own house is think they were either batshit - or madly controlling/borderline abusive.

And you'd be right

SleepingStandingUp · 13/03/2025 20:46

Salad666 · 13/03/2025 20:44

"not saying if it's me I not"

😂 It's quite clearly you. I'd hate to be your kid. As long as showers have been had/teeth brushed/face washed/hair brushed does it really matter if they're wearing pjs? No one is saying they let their family members stink up the place with BO 😂

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If the kids are coming down in pjs, I very much doubt they've had a shower. Surely we're talking about out of bed and downstairs in pjs, not put of bed, shower and putting last night's PJ's back on

BlueBatsAndOranges · 13/03/2025 20:45

OrangeSlices998 · 13/03/2025 20:31

My MIL has this rule. Must be dressed for lunch, no pyjamas. Lunch is also served at 1215, no exceptions, even immediately after having a baby (lived there temporarily during lockdown with a newborn). Batshit.

I hope she has a little bell she tinkles when lunch is ready? None of this shouting “grub’s up” shit.