To take new man to late DH's favourite place?

I'd take him but do walks that he could manage with gear he could afford.

I don't see anything wrong in you all wanting to share such a special place - however, with the clothes, I think that it might be a bit of a shock if you're all having fun and then one of you glimpses 'him' out of the corner of your eye because they're the clothes your husband would have been wearing on a man of similar size or build.

Something that you could do is pack something small that was his - maybe a buff or hat? - that you would know is there if you feel the need to have something of him there (other than the kids and whatever they're wearing) and if you feel it's right, you could wear it or just know it's with you.

Honestly, I think 6 months with a new guy is too soon. He sounds lovely and I hope you have many happy years together but I think it’s still very new and runs the risk of spoiling the happy memories you have there if it doesn’t work out. Did your sons only want to go when they knew where you were going? If so, I’d suggest this visit should be a mother and sons one, save the visit with new partner for the next trip xx

You need to find a new special place that's just for you and your dp imo

New man new start new places. Explore something different.

I think 6 months is way too soon to take him to you and your late husband's favorite spot.

Find a new favourite spot with this guy. It's time to make new memories, not slot your new guy into the old ones.

I would also say no, don't give him your late husband's gear. I think you would be putting him into a bit of an uncomfortable position and he's probably not ready to fill your husband's boots.

What does this guy enjoy doing? Find new activities with him, you might enjoy them too.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

But it isn't just your favourite place in the world.

youve said it in your thread title "To take new man to late DH's favourite place?"

it was your (you and your DHs) favourite place, you went there several times a year. So it has special memories because of sharing times there many times.

your new partner deserve better. Taking him to this place under the guise of it being "a lovely place" is disingenuous and he deserves honesty, which is best achieved by not deliberately taking him somewhere with such significance. Give him a fair chance to make his mark in your life without traces of your former life conflating things.

I would go somewhere else as a first hiking trip. You don't know how he will get on with that yet and you don't want him to sour your favorite place. If he enjoys hiking and it goes well, then take him.

I’d separate the clothes thing out, from the holiday preparation, and sort them for vinted/charity but before doing so, mention to your new partner that you’re about to pass them on and that if there’s anything your new partner wants to keep, he’d be welcome to.

I don’t see any issue with having a holiday in your favourite place, so long as you’re able to be honest about the past memories, but it won’t hurt to ask what your new partner thinks about this idea and give him a choice.

I don’t think it’s weird. Sentimental maybe to not want to but equally as you say no need for it to go to waste.

I assume you like the environment so would appreciate the idea that it’s been recycled whoever you choose to gift it to.

I think it’s fine to take him to the special place, provided he fully knows why it’s so special to you and so can decide for himself if he feels comfortable going or if he’d feel like he’s intruding (which I definitely would under the circumstances). But might it be better to make new memories with your new partner? And keep the old memories as special for you and your H?

I’d stick the hiking gear on vinted if you don’t want to see it go to waste. I’m a keen hiker myself so I know the cost of quality gear adds up! If you don’t feel comfortable making money out of it, you could donate the proceeds to mountain rescue or similar?

Like one of the posters said, this is totally up to you to decide, if it is not weird to you and he is ok with it, I would say, go for it. If it were me, however, I would never do it, would not even think about it. If I did visit a place with him, I would not tell my new partner that this was my late husband’s favourite place. If I were your partner, I would be totally uncomfortable with you taking me there, offering me his clothes and even crying on his bday. All this is something I would keep for myself, but like I said, this is your life and your decision.

OP sorry if I’m missing something, but why don’t you just go to a different location?

I wouldn't be dressing up my new boyfriend in my dead DH's hiking gear - that just sounds awful to me. But taking him somewhere that you hold dear is fine, as long as you feel okay going there without your DH.

Sorry but it's a no from me. Trying to see it from both perspectives and honestly, if I was him I'd find this uncomfortable. It is yours and your deceased husbands special place, it should remain so.
There are many, many beautiful places to hike, find somewhere new.
The clothes are an absolute no.

he sounds lovely but when you add everything together, the holiday, Dhs clothes, etc you starting to stretch thing a bit too much for comfort.

yes new Partner has been understanding and thoughtful about your late DH, but everything you've mentioned sound wayyy too much.

Im really careful with my DH2 - he sounds similar to your new partner, not a trace of bad feeling or jealousy and I can talk about DH1 which I do but very infrequently- I don't feel the need to mention someone what was so dear to me but I lost. I've moved forward and I'm grateful for my new life with DH2 and don't want to risk souring things.

don't fall into the trap of mentionitis.

If you think you and kids will be ok, everything is good except the clothes thing, don't do it!
I can't imagine how freaked out I would be if a partner asked me to wear any of their dead spouse's clothes, even and including practical gear.

I would give the hiking gear someone else/charity.

I would have thought that the first time you go back to the special place should be alone or with a friend or your children. It's not the same but I remember as a young adult seeing photos of my Dad with his new partner (who he had been having an affair with for years whilst married to my Mum) at our family's special place and feeling very hurt. I am not saying that, that was a reasonable reaction and obviously it is different circumstances but I just wonder how your DC might feel if you all go together.

Personally I would prefer to explore somewhere that is new to both of you.

I am also widowed OP. I had a subsequent relationship, that seemed great but didn't work out. I regret taking him to a place I used to go with DH. Now when I go there I think of the heartbreak from the other guy, not DH. It's spoiled it for me and makes me annoyed with myself. 6 months is nothing, you'll be at the height of what you've called being 'wrapped up' with this guy. Don't risk losing those special memories, not yet. And definitely do not give him DHs clothes. At the moment it feels like it's forever, but what if it's not, how would you feel?