Would you go to the same place partner went to with an ex?

Would I book a romantic weekend at their wedding venue? No. Would
i pop to the local pizza express that he went with her? Yea.

You’re both being rather immature.

Seriously? 😂

No, that wouldn't bother me a bit.

This is crazy 😂 I might think twice if he'd proposed there or it had been their 'special place' ... and, after thinking twice, I'd be in! You've as much right to be there as any other customer. Presumably your boyfriend can tell the difference between you and his ex - can't he?!

I’ve never thought to ask if my partner has been to a restaurant with an ex and it doesn’t bother me at all- he had a life before me. It probably would bother me if he proposed to me in the same location qnd way though.

There’s a few places that I have extremely unhappy memories of going to with my ex, I wouldn’t want to visit them again with anyone whether friend or romantic. But on the whole I don’t think it matters for most standard places.

of course she's being unreasonable! It's a small world God knows how many partners or dates you go on in a lifetime. I've been to New York, Paris, Amsterdam, Majorca, Malta with this partner in 11 years, all of which I've been too with other people. There are three restaurants you can eat in in our village and I have been to all if them with other boyfriends or on days. I can only imagine she is very young and hasn't thought this through.

This is the sort of thing I worried about as a teenager honestly, dealing with retroactive jealousy.

I couldn't watch a film my boyfriend had seen with an ex. Once I found out the bowling alley we were at he'd been with with her, two years ago, and left lol. I spent so much time agonising over where he'd been with her.

I'm an adult now, and no, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I would be gutted if for some reason DH and I split up and I could never go to my favourite restaurants again with a new person! It's just so silly.

Not being happy being taken to a restaurant (or any venue) that he had taken an ex to is just ridiculous.

So you'd never go to the same theater, cinema, theme park, country etc etc?

Seriously?

People want to share the things they like with partners, so unless you want your partner to change who they are and what they like, then it's inevitable there will be a crossover sometimes?

I wouldn't want to go to the same hotel they'd been in; I'd prefer to make new memories. But restaurants etc wouldn't bother me.

Currently married 23 years and was previously married for 9.

Of course we've visited places I went to with my ex.

We'd be living a pretty limited life if we didn't!

Yes, I think that's way OTT and insecure. I'd reconsider if I were him. Couldn't be doing with that.

Pretty sure that I have been to loads of places my boyfriend went to with his ex (they were together for 7 years). I have taken him to plenty of places I went to with my exH (married 23 years). No problem with it.

That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. How on earth would you manage if you'd been in a long term relationship?! Think of the amount of restaurants, bars, cinemas, cafes that would suddenly be off limits!

That's some major insecurity and very unhealthy.

My ex and I loved Vietnamese food. DH loves Vietnamese food. Of course we've been to the same restaurants! Doesn't bother him in the slightest. It's a restaurant, I'm not asking him to wear her engagement ring!

Are you and your friend very young, OP?

Been with DH almost 20 years. If I couldn’t re-visit places I’ve been with him, locally I’d be left with a couple of takeaways and Nando’s!